t keep getting better. But one of my best friends likes me, too. I didn't know how bad it was until he had me read one of his journal entires. He's in love with me and hates being around me and my guy.It's getting to the point where he's almost depressed because of me. I want to help, but I don't know how. I've hear "just be a friend", but I've tried only consoling him and it's not working very well. I've also heard "hook him up with someone else", but that's much easier said than done. I would really like some advice on what to do to help him. My friends usually come to me, so none of them can really help.
2007-02-19 14:14:23 · 7 answers · asked by MLR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that this has been dwelling deep in ur heart proves that u are concern for him. Being ur best friend u do not wan to hurt him either. But ask urself, who would be the one you want to walk down ur rest of the life with? Who do you feel more comfortable with? Feel and not Look... All the best.
2007-02-19 14:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by roseyme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. first of all you sound very young, like you are in your teens. YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY be "in love" with someone you've only been seeing 5 months. You THINK it's love.. but it's lust and infatuation and if you've been intimate, you've created a physical bond that probably wouldn't have ever been there if you had taken the time to get to know one another better. Love is a hefty word and you really need to know the meaning of love before you toss it out there. Your heart is too precious to hand over to someone you barely know.. trust me... people can put up a darn good front/act for a year.. it takes AT LEAST a year to REALLY get to know someone. And your friend only thinks he is in love with you.. he's got raging hormones, and a crush and awakening feelings and he's using the term "love" for lack of a better term. Life has a lot of hurts and it's up to your friend to deal with the reality, you are with someone else. Either he can learn to deal with it and be a friend thru thick and thin or he can move on.
2007-02-19 14:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by tinagoomba 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok, well he is not going to get over you very easily so you can:
1. summer soon? stay away from him all summer.
2. sit down and have an adult conversation with him and tell him how u feel.
3. just plain avoid him.
in a situation like this there isnt much you can do, but if you stay away he will eventually move on.
good luck
2007-02-19 14:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a hug, and tell him you're sorry. Say something like this "I'm really sorry! I luv you just as a friend right now, and love the guy I'm with! Maybe someday we'll be together?" *note the different luv/love's* Don't hurt his feelings, and tell him that maybe there's hope, but you like the guy you're with. Do'nt be around him when your with your boyfriend, and so on.
2007-02-19 14:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is putting you in a hard spot but if he was a really good friend..he would respect your decision and stop trying to make you see how much he is IN love with you...Tell him that you love him as a friend and will be there for him but he is making it really hard to when he is making you so uncomfortable.
2007-02-19 14:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by angelsdeath420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough. I wouldnt bring your guy around him anymore. Just be a friend to him if you dont like him. Dont lead him on..And remind him you two are ONLY friends.
2007-02-19 14:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this happen to me trust me tell your friend that you just want to be friends and to stop being sad around you cuz it's making you sad too
2007-02-19 14:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by James Dean Girl <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋