i am a cristian and i'm really trying to be pure at heart. but my christian friend asked me for money so i decided to help him. i told him that i dont hav and of the troubles i am having in getting some money to him so he'll hav to wait until i have the money to help him.
before he had told me about his need for money, i had known that he was my friend to ask me for money. i know that africa is a very poor place and i do my best to help them. so ofcourse, i knew by the way he spoke to me the first time we chatted, that he'd ask me to buy him things so before he did, i told him not to ask me for stuff coz i'll hav trouble getting it. not surprisingly the next day, he begged for money. i havent given it to him yet which i plan to, but now, he's asking me for a laptop computer! and he's questioning me on why i would not buy him one.
i feel very unappreciated and used but as a christian, what should i do? i dont want to be mean yet i feel so upset.
sorry it's so much to read.
2007-02-19 14:01:18 · 27 answers · asked by evanescent_eclipse 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Bless you, Sweetie but this is a common problem among Christians and we have to learn when to say no. He is using you. and you keep allowing it. You have to tell him that you can no longer afford to help him. Ask him why he is depending on you and not on God. Tell him to start asking God to supply his needs. God has not called you to be a door mat so that everybody should walk all over you. Put your money into feeding some hungry children . I have bought groceries and taken them to a poor neighbor. Do what the Lord tells you to do and not what people are telling you to do for them. When you forgive him it doesn't mean that you have to let him use you again, either.
2007-02-19 14:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Exactly what is your definition of "pure of heart"?
Being a Christian doesn't make you a shopping mall, and it certainly doesn't mean you check your brain in at the door.
You are being used, because you are allowing yourself to be used.
It's called, "Just say no."
When he asks why, say, "Because you need to get a job, bub, and get your own money."
Nothing to it, really.
A Christian is someone who has accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior and who has an ongoing relationship with him... seeking to do His will.
How does giving somebody everything they want fulfill God's will? Would you raise your own kids that way? Of course not.
Put a lock on your wallet and spend a little more time getting to know the Christ who gives us the term "Christian."
I'm serious. Refuse to give away another cent until you've done some Bible study and growing a little more in your faith.
You are saved, not by the deeds you try to do, but by the deed HE already did. So take some time off from trying so hard, and let Him grow you up a little more in your faith.
2007-02-19 14:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's really difficult when someone is asking you for money and material things you cannot provide. For some reason your friend is not understanding you when you tell him you cannot or do not have the money. Don't try and find the money or purchase a laptop for him. He really is very out of line in asking you for these things.
From your posting; you seem to be a very kind hearted person and I am sure your friend knows this. Many times other people will try and take advantage of you. It's very important for you to tell him you cannot provide these things for him.
God Bless, Good Luck, Peace.
2007-02-19 14:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. you incredibly do no longer prefer a chum like that. presents and money are actually not what friendship is approximately. Sharing is nevertheless, and you're only attempting to espouse this value. to respond to the question nevertheless, i'd provide her a pretend itinerary of your alleged (no longer something is shown till that is on action picture) rendezvous. that's unfastened to make, negates the could ever purchase her something lower back as you isn't caught, and provides her some thing to do considering the fact that she of course has a techniques too lots time on her palms which she is at present utilising to seize you.
2016-11-24 19:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply tell him that you are already doing all you can, and you WILL NOT buy him a laptop. Jesus said we are to work, so that we can support ourselves and our family, and to help others in need. He did not say that we had to let people use us. Tell him that you cannot afford it, and if he tries to make you feel bad, you TELL HIM that you feel that he is taking advantage of your kindness. You can only do so much. If he is a Christian, then he should know that if God wants him to have a laptop, He will make a way for it to happen, and he should have enough faith to believe that it will happen if it is God's will.
2007-02-19 14:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not obligated to buy anyone anything. Tell him to get a job. Tell him that you will Pray for him.
God does not expect you to give someone money you do not have available for charity. So Pray for him and see if he is really a friend or a mooch.
1 Timothy 6:10 - For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.
2007-02-19 14:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by deacon 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
thats a tough Q, I would try to tell your 'friend' that you're not made of money and have a hard time making it yourself(if thats the truth) now that he's asking for expensive things tell him you can't afford to be giving him all that stuff. It's hard coming from a Christian but you really can't do much about it.
2007-02-19 14:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by agirl4god 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your friend is using you. If it is something you can't afford and something he doesn't need, then why should you be obligated to give him money for things like that? Just be honest with him and if he is a true friend he'll understand. I think it is great that you're trying to help out, but you can only do so much.
2007-02-20 11:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by jpn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are chatting with him on the computer and he is asking for things, he's conning you. Don't give this man one red cent, do nothing for him. If he is a personal friend, tell him firmly that you would like to help him but you don't have the means to provide for yourself right now and cannot be responsible for him. If he's a friend he will understand your plight. If he gets mad, then he was never a friend to begin with.
2007-02-19 14:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian if he is cold, get Him a coat, if He is hungry feed Him,if he is ill stand by him.Do unto others,I would never expect or ask anyone for a laptop,have no problem saying I am sorry,I can not.
2007-02-19 14:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋