After we broke up my ex said we would still be friends. He would still talk to me and hang out with me and our friends. But then he started to avoid me. It's gotten to the point where I'll walk up to our friends and he'll just turn his back on me. He won't even look at me. He dosn't talk to me at all. He won't go to any of the after school clubs we were both in before either, and won't tell his best friend why he decided to quit. We had a pretty mutual break up, he just didn't want to be with me anymore and I didn't plan on staying in a relationship where I wasn't wanted. I never did anything to hurt him. He has told me he dosn't love me anymore and that he never wants to be with me again over e-mails so I know he dosn't have feelings for me. So why can't he just be my friend? I'm not trying to get him back, but it makes things kind of weird when hes avoiding me and I don't want to lose a friend. Maybe I can fix it if I know why hes being like this. Any ideas?
2007-02-19 13:55:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only time will tell.
2007-02-19 13:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people make plans to be friends after a breakup, but only a few actually make it. More than likely, he feels awkward being around you. Just like you feel that things are wierd when hes avoiding you, he may feel wierd being around you. In relationship, many things are shared on a personal level - more so than in a friendship. Saying that staying friends during a breakup is kind of a easier way to have the break-up smoother at the time. But give it time... He probably needs some time seeing you as a friend and acting as your friend since you two have been in a relationship for some time. Just continue doing your daily routine and don't act like its troubling you. He will turn around, just give it time. He just needs some time himself...
2007-02-19 14:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so typical of us guys when we're young. It's the nature of the beast. He doesn't know what to say or how to act around you so he just avoids you. Immature males are like that. I had a gf in high school from 1962-65. Now when I go up home,(she lives down the street from my sis) and when I see her, we always talk and bring each other up our on our lives. It was like that from the time I came home from Viet Nam and saw her again. I loved her enough to know I wanted her to be happy, even if that meant not being happy with me. She has met my wife of 38 years and has told her some 'secrets' about me.
Don't take it personal. Keep being friendly to him (HI BILL! HOW YA DOIN?)
2007-02-19 14:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats going on is he needs some space. Maybe temporarily maybe permanently. The idea you can fix things is not the way life works. It is obvious from your description that he doesn't want to be your friend. WHY are you pushing it? Not good. And where did you get the idea that he doesn't have feelings for you? He obviously does and right now they're all negative. I expect your insensitivity to his discomfort has caused this ill will. Break-ups happen. You seem to be able to fool yourself that its all cool. But its not. Give him his space. Move on.
2007-02-19 14:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants nothing to do with you. Not even to be friends. Hey, sometimes that is the way it is. You think things are going to be one way and then it goes completely in another direction. Give him his space, you may start to seem like you are stalking him or something if not. Break ups are never mutual I don't care what anyone says. They are hard and make people sad or angry. Maybe you are regretting it. Maybe he is. Think about that. Good Luck.
2007-02-19 14:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl I'm a bloke, and I know how this guy feels. Men find it hard to be just friends with women, especially someone they've dated before. Men will start to realise that it's not too bad being friends with the opposite gender but only later in life when they realise their true dominance. (joke) nah seriously though its hard to even be friends with some bird you used to date especially at school (however we are civilised here we leave school at 16 and start university at 18)
2007-02-19 14:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by James K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't handle being friends with their ex. Sometimes, it's too hard or painful. Maybe he just needs time. For now, I'd just leave him alone.
2007-02-19 13:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your surroundings persons might have say something to your disadvantage or he got another girl attention or many other reasons.
Life move on,juz let him go completely.Remember you do not live for him rite? Yourself is important.
2007-02-19 13:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, try to talk to him. If he doesn’t want to then catch him into a situation that he has no choice but to talk to you. It’s for your own peace of mind...
2007-02-19 14:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋