Been dating this gril from work for the past few weeks. We've had a great time, when we actually see each other. Though our dates have been great, this girl can be frustrating. We've had a few dates planned now that completely fell through. Like tonight for example, we had planned to go to dinner. Not only have I not heard from her, but she hasn't responded to the voicemail I left hours ago. Of course, since this has happened a couple of times, I've done things like show up late, and blatantly cancel one of our dates. I know she's a busy person, but this is getting borderline rediculous. She also has a habit of just leaving her phone in her car, but still, this is happening way too often. So, should I just stop seeing her, at least as anything other than a friend?
2007-02-19 13:42:47 · 11 answers · asked by Zeppboy67 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some harsh answers so far. Keep in mind that I've had to cancel a couple times on her too. Between work, college, family, friends, life is pretty busy for the both of us.
2007-02-19 13:50:11 · update #1
I have bad luck with girls. They're either too needy, too self-concious, wrapped up in pot, or some other issue, and the one normal one I hook up with is a little flaky.
2007-02-19 13:52:07 · update #2
Too add after the last answer, she does offer explanantions, most of which I don't buy into. Then she normally offers to make it up by paying on our next date. But, since I was raised to be a gentleman, I will only let her pay for small stuff, and never a full meal.
2007-02-19 13:54:35 · update #3
Perhaps my question should've been, should we just stop making plans for dates ahead of time, because it seems whenever we do something spur of the moment it owkrs out great. But when we plan something a few days n advance, it seems to fall through most of the time. Mainly she's been the one to not call, or call to cancel, but I've done it a couple times too, so I don't think she just doesn't care for me at all.
2007-02-19 14:00:46 · update #4
well, found out her phone is busted, and since we don't have each other's home phone, and I didn't check my e-mail, she was unable to call me. Her phone truly doesn't work, in case you think she's lying. I checked it and it turns off after a few seconds, and won't display contacts. So we just went out after work tonight, which was again great.
2007-02-20 18:11:22 · update #5
I think maybe you should have been more understanding to her being busy and forgetfull. Maybe she is still getting used to the idea of dating someone, and the sorta baggage that comes with it. And maybe just mentioned your concerns to her, and try to work on her making more time for you. I know that I am very forgetfull, and a very busy working mother. But sometimes I know I need reminding of things. Until it becomes more routine.
2007-02-19 13:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by wildcherry26101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Stop seeing her because she seems very disorganized and too busy to give a care about you. If she hasn't even had the decency to return your calls on time or keeps canceling on you why do you put up with her behavior? You are letting her get away with treated you badly. Is she really worth all that trouble? Is she so hot that you really don't care how she treats you? Seriously, she's not worth it. Why should you be worried all the time if you will see her or that she left her phone in her car or that she's going to cancel her dates with you. A girl who likes you no matter how busy she is will not treat you like that! Don't take her leftovers...Don't even be her friend..what kind of friend treats you like that? She treats you bad and you do the same to her? I don't get it...why don't you find someone who treats you like you want to be treated! Girls suck too!
2007-02-19 13:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had an ounce of respect for you she would offer up an explanation or have the courtesy to call and make a backup plan.
Point blank (but tactfully) tell her how her inconsideration makes you feel. Her behavior is a deal breaker in anyone's book. Going forward, if she drops the ball again... punt and don't look back.
2007-02-19 13:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you're really trying, and unfornately she may not be putting the same effort into the relationship as you. If you really like her, I'd advise that you talk to her and tell her how you feel, if she's someone you could live with being friends with, I'd do yourself a favor and break up with her and find someone who can give you the attention you deserve. Good luck!
2007-02-19 13:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by choirboyzryummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really up to you. Some people may think you're blowing it out of porportion or sum may think that u r doing wats right but to me talk to her about whats bugging u and if that doesnt work then just break up.
2007-02-19 13:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will if you really like this girl you need to talk to her about your problem maybe she doesn't won't to be a couple
2007-02-19 13:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by justine s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to put this one on the line to dry. It's all over.
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2007-02-19 13:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get so darn attached with this one
2007-02-19 13:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by proofofignorance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for get about her shes not worth your time
2007-02-19 13:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by Annie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and tell her whats on your mind. but dont blame
2007-02-19 13:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by helimac92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋