The boys are 2 and 3. Currently my 21 year old daughter, aunt to the boys, has temporary custody but obviously it isn't fair for her to do this long term, as she is newly married and has no kids of her own. CPS is involved and there is a criminal case of child endangerment against my 22 year old daughter and her boyfriend. We don't know yet whether parental rights are going to be terminated or not, everything is in the investigation stage.
There were two separate incidents with a week or so of each other that CPS is investigating. No drugs or alcohol involved, just a lot of carelessness and IMO, laziness involved.
This isn't a laughing matter. Serious comments only, please.
2007-02-19 13:39:04 · 8 answers · asked by Jo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello! I'm so sorry to hear about your problems. I too am raising 3 of my daughter's sons. My daughter has emotional problems. She has always been cruel emotionally to her oldest son from the time he was first born. As soon as he was able to talk he was asking if he could come live with me which he did do when he turned 4 years old. I received legal custody of him at 4 yrs. old and adopted him at 11 years old.
In 2002, my daughter beat me up, giving me a small stroke and a bruised, swollen brain, putting me into the hospital for 7 days. She did this in front of her other 2 sons. When I got out of the hospital, I took legal custody of those 2 grandsons, also. They were 4 and 2 at that time.
I just adopted the one who was 4 at that time. He is now 9. I still have the last one to adopt, who is now 7.
The only way I am allowed to adopt them is to get permission from the daughter, who has to sign a paper allowing me to adopt them. Of course, she uses this as power on her part. It is a stupid law here in Indiana.
Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. It is very hard raising children once you have already raised your own, especially when you are as old as I am, but in the long run, it has turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me.
If you don't have health insurance for the children, being a grandparent raising your grandchildren, you will be able to obtain Medicaid for them.
Also, you will also be able to get financial aid for the children through Family and Social Services (Welfare), as they do not count your income, only the income of the children. That money will help buy their clothes, etc.
The boys are the JOY of MY LIFE. I would be lost without them at this stage. They keep me involved with the community by enrolling them and supporting their efforts in sports, scouts, etc.
Good Luck and God Bless each of you!
2007-02-27 06:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad to hear from you. I am raising my 13 yr old granddaughter. I got her when she was almost 7. It's very hard for me and now she's at the stage where she tells me where to go and what to do when I get there. I know the road ahead will be extremely trying but I love her so much and I know she will turn out to be a wonderful woman. I just have to keep thinking that. Her mom, my daughter, is Bi-Polar and was using drugs. Couldn't keep a job and couldn't feed her child. I thank God I am here for my teenager
2007-02-27 08:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work for an organization that offers support groups and one of our groups is for grandparents raising grandchildren. It can be a very hairy thing with custody if it goes to that point. I highly reccomend you do some research and investigate the laws in your state (as they do vary by state). Here are some websites that offer information and direction to services:
--http://www.usa.gov/Topics/Grandparents.shtml
--http://www.raisingyourgrandchildren.com/
--http://www.aarp.org/families/grandparents/raising_grandchild/
--http://www.aoa.gov/prof/notes/notes_grandparents.asp
Best of luck to you. Hope that everything woks out best for all involved.
2007-02-19 13:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a very serious matter, I am not a grand mother yet, so no I am not raising my grandchildren but I take my hat off to those of you that do as it is not the children's fault if things happen regarding there parents which causes them to lose there rights to care for there children. thank god for grandparents ! keep up the good work.
2007-02-26 00:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by helpless mum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly the habit issues and the subject snoozing are the two extremely indications of PTSD in babies.. once you're youthful and have PTSD you at the instant can not sit down down back whether apparently shes comfortable thats why babies won't be in a position to sleep, have confidence me i began dealing with all this comparable stuff whilst i become 5.. How are the medical doctors treating her PTSD? BTW- if the youngster has any issues of potty education or the different developmental stages thats all area of the PTSD too.. so which you're able to consult with the physician on the subject of the PTSD to get a extra advantageous understanding..
2016-09-29 08:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by benisek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are raising a 6 year old granddaughter. I wish there were more help out there. I've tried to find some, but nothing...
We have custody so that isn't an issue. But dealing with her is.
2007-02-23 00:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Butterflie927 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jo You are right it is not fair to your other daughter. You should have your grandchildren. Yes I am helping to raise mine. I can't say that there are not times that I wish I did not hace to do it sometimes, but I remember the love my grandparents had for me and I never linger in the thought.
2007-02-27 09:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by LOLO W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as grandparents sometimes we have to finish the job of raising the grandkids rather than the children go to foster homes
2007-02-26 03:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by wildirishrose19522000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋