I worry so much about this sometimes, and I'm afraid I'm never going to meet somebody that I love and who loves me back!!! I've never found anyone that I wanted to date, and guys that I am interested in never want to date me! I don't understand how it seems so easy for other people to meet their future husbands/wives. I'm confused sometimes as to how I'm supposed to find my future husband. I was hoping to find him before I graduated from college in three years! I just don't know what to do about this, and was hoping that if I could find some way to stop worrying about it... I mean, there is a guy I really like now, but it's the same situation, I don't really know how he feels about me, we're just friends right now... but I'm afraid of losing him because then there is nobody left in my life that I like! you see how much I worry about this?! lol. Do you have any advice in response to my ramblings?
2007-02-19 13:33:22 · 14 answers · asked by Alice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I definetly feel the same way...I'm 19 and i've dated guys on and off, but the ones i really feel a connection with I either never date or something goes wrong. Once I heard the advice "stop looking and he'll find you" Apparently it's suppose to work..and your suppose to concentrate on yourself and things you love doing...but i'm in the same ship as you and it's definetly hard to not worry about it sometimes. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-19 13:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by choirboyzryummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A life lived in fear is a life half lived. You can't go around being afraid to live or express interest in others based on the fact you might lose something...think of how much you can gain!! Tell him you like him. Also if he doesn't feel the same then just get out and live your life!! Guys want a girl with interests and aspirations not some girl who is muddling around waiting for them to show up on a white horse
2007-02-19 13:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm confused sometimes as to how I'm supposed to find my future husband. I was hoping to find him before I graduated from college in three years!"
(Sigh)
I take it you're the typical college age girl - in your 20's.
Don't sweat it. You didn't go to college to get your "Mrs. degree."
Assuming you are a young woman in your 20's you have plenty of time to meet someone. There's a world of opportunity to experience and along the way you will grow and become more aware of what you want. Meanwhile, the men you are meeting will grow up and mature and be more cognizant of how to function in a relationship.
I'd say date, have fun, get your education. Get your career going, save up, find out where you want to live, travel, experience life and become familiar with your own power. If you are having trouble finding someone perhaps you are emmitting the "marriage vibe" too much and you need to cool it down.
As for finding him - settle down your emotions and tenacity! Don't find him. Find yourself first and let him find you.
2007-02-19 13:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we can try to hard to get things in life we want and not take the time to enjoy the situations that we are in and then find out too late that we didnt take the time we should have and just let things happen. You have to believe that if things are meant to be they will happen, enjoy life and if this guy is who you are supposed to be with or someone else you will know.
2007-02-19 13:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkinkisses9136 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he addicted to porn? Or does he only watch porn? there's a distinction. An dependancy would advise that it became into inteferring with you existence. i do no longer advise you 2 arguing, I advise has he misplaced his interest because of the fact he became into finding at porn at paintings? Or his he spending your value reductions in porn. Is it affecting your love existence? If that stuff isn't occurring than he's not addicted to porn. If he only likes to observe it than that's ok. you're able to comprehend that adult men are seen creatures. you should be an 10.0 yet that dosen't advise he dosen't prefer to make certain an 8 now and lower back. If that's the cased he lied to you because of the fact he did no longer prefer to argue. he's a guy so save that for the period of concepts. Now if porn is affecting your intercourse existence, money, or his interest than he needs to work out a intercourse therapist and you're able to provide him an ultimatum. sturdy success
2016-11-24 19:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stopped worrying about it so much trust me just give it sometime and it will come to you nature watch and see how he feels about u and stuff if you've know him for a good month or 2 but if ya just started being friends dont worry about it and just keep talking to him and see where it goes stop worrying about it and it will all come nature just watch good luck and wish u the best
2007-02-19 13:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by LifesJourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always learned you will find what you want when you least expect it. I was like you, I had given up on love and then it smacked me clear acroos the face when I first layed eyes on my husband. Dont look so hard, draw back, let love find you!
2007-02-19 13:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This worry is going to cloud your judgment and cause you to choose the wrong man...rather than wait for Mr. Right or not choose at all.
It will screw up your life...so stop it!
2007-02-19 13:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax you have plenty of time. He'll show up when you least expect it. Live your life and have some fun too. And don't worry about it.
2007-02-19 13:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bob G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings,exactly. Maybe you should tell your friend how you feel. If he leaves...He wasn't really a friend, was he? Good friends --make good lovers--and husbands. Please take your time. You have lots of it. Get thru college, get a good job---THEN----when you do find your LOVE you'll know it. Lots of time, sweetie...Take advantage of it.
2007-02-19 13:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋