Harvested from the the void , without consent , your potential imprisoned at birth by genetics , and circumstance , set upon a course of struggle , only to be " rewarded " in the end by a return to the void .
A very small percentage of parents are filled with a sufficient awe for the enormous responsibility that comes with forcing life upon a sentient being . It is as though they believe the act of procreation was all that was expected of them . They will transmit little , if any , knowledge or wisdom to thier progeny . No skills will be shared , few opportunities provided , and often not near enough kindness or compassion .
What will exist in great quantity are bad examples , and absenteeism on the part of the parents .
Some miracle .
2007-02-19 13:24:23 · 22 answers · asked by Parapet 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Contrary to popular opinion , my parents were capable , though flawed , as all parents are .
I do not hate children . I have been instrumental in the lives of many , beggining at the age of thirteen .
But yes , I would have none of my own .
2007-02-19 14:23:10 · update #1
Good question! You have people thinking! People are going to be defensive of course, but it helps to remind all of us that life is worth fighting for.
Procreation is not something we are taught (although our perception of it is molded from our parents), instead it is instinct for the survival of a species. And yes, I think you are correct in saying that "a very small percentage of parents" (To be truthful, sometimes I feel like the percentage is growing) are unworthy. And, YES, for SOME people I think bringing a child into this world was selfish and cruel.
For most parents, however, selfishness is a lost characteristic. I believe it would be extremely difficult to find a parent that would NOT give their own life to save that of their child's.
I was overcome with fear after I gave birth to my first child with thoughts of that tiny child in this enormous choatic world. How will I protect him? And the greatest fear was thinking "my God his life will end one day and how can I prevent that???" I can't! It is life and by no means cruel. The answers you got were correct in stating that the focus should be on the good things in life. Of course, rotten things are going to happen as death is eminent. But the cruel thing would be if bad times did not exist and we had to leave utopia. You have to take the good and the bad and you have to raise children to increase the good aspects of our world.
You are smart. Maybe a bit too much! Life is about the little things: the laughing fits when a family member sneezes and hits their head on the countertop or watching a sleeping baby. Genius borders the fine line of insanity and contemplating the meaning of life is just a bit too large of a task to comprehend. You know the little joys in life: watching the battle for the win at Daytona, scoring that long awaited goal in soccer, or reading that book you just can't put down! Struggle is better then not being (at least I think so)!
2007-02-19 15:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by my2boys 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What the hell happened to you to make you so Dam Special???
And by special I mean that you clearly have a mental disability. Possibly retardation??? The void in here is where your brain should have been, but obviously is not. Putting this aside...
We pass on the capabilities of speech, to communicate, someone should have left that out for you on your behalf. We pass on basic and more complex skills for instance, how to stack blocks to dealing with day to day problems that arise later on in life. We ALL are filled with the SUFFICIENT AWE as you describe, I believe your parents may have been a gross exception. Knowing that you have brought into the world a small helpless being, makes you want to provide the best possible care to make their lives less complicated, less hurtful.
If you really believed what you say, you would also believe that murder does people a favor... It would technically end what pathetic and insignificant lives we do lead, so do us all a favor... Either admit there is something wrong with you or don't come back and become a hermit on an iceberg in Antarctica!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-20 00:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by MARE 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I wish I could help you. You sound very troubled. Life is a gift from God. If you feel that your life is a struggle, with nothing after, no wonder you are questioning the value of birth. Read the Bible. Start with John 1:1,
"In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it."
I pray that you will read and find hope for the future. The Bible is ancient, real, and truer than any reality you think you know.
2007-02-19 21:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by beckyslp 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I do agree with you, but it would appear that we have different reasons. I believe that bringing a child into this world of hatred and constant danger is selfish and cruel. It's likely that the next generation, even my generation, may be caught in nuclear war and the following decline of humanity. Even if that doesn't come around, global warming will be sure to.
So, yes, it is selfish to have a child. I am not saying this because I dislike children. I say this because I would be forever guilty if I sentenced a child to the misery of this world.
2007-02-19 21:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Random G 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is selfish if you are not ready to have them, do not plan to have them, do not want to have them, and have them any way, or are trapped to having them or think by having them they will fill in the empty space within. Now if you can be prepared to sacrifice ever thing for this little being and not be resentful....you are ready to have children
2007-02-19 21:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by copestir 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reading the details excluded, my answer is:
If you're lonely, depressed and don't like life, possibly.
If you understand and share love, joy and the meaning of life, no. Having a child is a beautiful, wonderful thing and is in direct obedience to ...(thumbs down bomb coming) the WORD of God. (Be fruitful and multiply. - He did NOT mean math.)
2007-02-19 21:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
uhm....simpler wording please.
No, having a child isn't selfish or cruel..it's how you treat that child that could make or break it.
And just because you may not want or like children as it seems, doesn't mean others don't, for instance me. I love children and spend time with them all the time. And when I am older, I plan on having 6 kids...so just keep your weird questions to yourself.
2007-02-19 21:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by em<3 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think it's incredibly self-centered and cruel that a person would write such an insulting question to people who care enough to ask questions and share thought on a portal like this - only to be intruded upon by someone who is not only NOT a parent but who also (thankfully) NEVER wants to be one.
2007-02-20 02:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer C 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You do realize you are in the Pregnancy/Parenting category. There are few things in this life worse that pissing off hormonal pregnant women. Truly you don't want kids, but that doesn't mean everyone in this world thinks like you. Pessimistic much?!?
2007-02-19 21:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lilat180 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you had really nasty, self centered, and all out crappy parents.
not everyone has that kind of life!!
i surely didn't and I'm very happy with happy and well rounded children.
guess it sucked to be you when you were younger.
I'm so sorry for you. get some counseling. god forbid that you should happen to have children with the attitude that you presently have!
2007-02-19 21:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋