I know that history is history, but I'm curious what other guys and, especially, girls have to say on this subject. If so, would you ever consider breaking up with someone because you couldn't handle their history, or has anyone ever broken up with you once they found out your past?
2007-02-19 13:16:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It shouldn't matter too much unless potential health issues are involved. Otherwise, the past is the past, and as long as they're not cheating on you, don't worry about it. -L
2007-02-19 13:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, but I would if it was a question of faithfulness I might more than not. It would also depend how often she was unfaithful. Also, I would want them to be checked out before I even considered being with them. It is their history that would worry me about getting an std and if it was a history of unfaithfulness I would not want to get with someone who slept with every man/woman in town. There is a fine line to me. I think people can change and I don't think if you are in a relationship that should be considered because you should already (hopefully) know of that history. With that said, I would make sure you/ or that other person uses a condom and get checked out.
2007-02-19 13:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I would have to say, history is a big part of relationship. Most of the time, your love history describes who you are: flirty, loyalty, and so on. Personally, I would break up with a guy if I found out that he had previously slept with girls. To me, abstinence is extremely important, not only for girls but for boys as well.
2007-02-19 13:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by sciencenerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you need to know every single detail. as long as they didn't have a history of cheating & they always used protection (whether it was 1 or 100 partners). and as long as they are focused on you and only you during the relationship. sometimes sharing your history can make the other person insecure even if the other person doesn't admit it. and people shouldn't interrogate the other person about their pasts either. it's important to know some things, but knowing all the details just adds drama. =)
2007-02-19 13:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by peaches87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless your going to become a private detective, your pretty much going to be alone. You mentioned the past is the past, well it is just that. So many circumstances are with the past too, who are others to really judge? If you like or love someone, and than find out their past is tarnished, it would have to be pretty darn serious for me to say goodbye because of their past. Or I would be a pretty darn shallow person with not much human compassion. So, if a lady slept with 5 guys opposed to 100, would that make her less of a person? What if she lied and took the truth with her to her grave, and you never really did know the truth? And you ended up loving her deeply for life? The bottom line is, either your going to accept someone for who they are, or your not-period. From the start!
2007-02-19 13:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It completely depends on the person. To me, it matters very much. I could never be with someone who had slept with any other woman. I know that this is rather restrictive, and maybe I will end up making exceptions in my future life, but I really can't imagine being with someone who had been intimate with another woman. I would constantly wonder if he ever thought of her or imagined her, dreamed or fantasized about her. It would drive me insane.
2007-02-19 13:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does matters. But if the partner is willing to answer that question. Some would just fake it & say that they didn't slept with anyone. It depends.
I asked my bf about his history, he told me truthfully. Guess thats what i like about him, honesty.
2007-02-19 13:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it matters. How well do you know this person? It is one thing to know how many partners they have had but it is another to know about if they used precautions; because your sexual history has away of impacting you now if the person was not protecting themselves then. HIV does not discriminate.
2007-02-19 13:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that matters is how many people they have been with since they have been with you. However, it is good to find out if they have had unprotected sex in the past so that extra precautions can be taken if needed.
2007-02-19 13:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by scarbados 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it does not matter because to me its useless. now it will have an impact on others because of the diseases that go around. but dont just break with them if thats the concern just go to the clinic and take the tests. its not that hard. but it all has to do with trust and loyalty.
2007-02-19 13:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by SEXY CHICANITA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋