my 3 year old son told me that his 4 1/2 almost 5 year old cousin told him to pull down his pants --which he did and that his other 3 year old cousin (who is brothers with the 4 1/2) touched his penis. the 4 1/2 year old cousin has already been caught with another cousin several times trying to get him to pull his pants down. and i already caught the 4 1/2 year trying to bump his penis on my son which i stopped immediately. i know kids are curious but this seems to be a little too much and i am at the point where i dont want my son to be around his two cousins, i already try to avoid them but the problem is family events. what do you think?
2007-02-19 13:11:54 · 3 answers · asked by penny k 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Kids will repeat everything they see/hear/experience. It is possible he is just curious, it is also possible that he has been touched inappropriately by someone else. These are issues his parents needs to address. While I would be cautious to be accusatory, an almost 5 year old should be able to understand that this is NOT appropriate behavior. His privacy is HIS privacy, just like your son's privacy is your SON"S privacy. If you must address the child's parents you might want to do it with the 'concern for others' approach.
For Example;
When my son was in kindergarten he got his 1st set of cartoon character underwear (I'd always found it easier to buy the plain ones, but was over-ruled by Grandma this time) When he got to school he pulled the side of his pants down (just to the hip) to show-off his new underoos. The teacher freaked out and called the police and informed me that if my kids ever did that again she would expell him and have him (and us) charged with exposure and sexual harassment! More than a little ridiculous given the minority of the situation. My son is developementally a little behind and naive compared to his classmates and it did not occur to him that he was doing anything wrong. We quickly remedied that situation with the whole 'privacy' discussion. And about not letting anyone else be too nosy or touchy where they didn't belong.
It might seem absurd but these days the whole politically correct thing has gone way beyond common sense. Maybe if you point this out to the cousin's parents, they'll pay closer attention to the problem.
2007-02-20 12:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are too young to read into it. Find out what is going out at the other kids home..maybe their parents are watching tv or movies unsuitable or maybe he saw older kids messing around. Talk to their parents and teach them that it's inappropriate to do that. Don't just avoid them.
2007-02-20 04:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those children i belive have had something happen to them.
TAKE MY ADVICE KEEP THEM AWAY FROM YOUR CHILD
i learned the hard way i thought it was just a kid think but the problem got much bigger when my daughter was malested by her cousin that was 10 and she was 5 please act now
2007-02-23 03:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by just wandering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋