ive been talking to this guy .. and we're at a stage where he wants to be with me, but idk if i want to be with him. ive always told people and myself to think if i wanted to take a risk and find out? or wonder the what ifs...but in this situation, i just simply dont know what to do or say. i mean .. i like him, and i dont want to sit back and wonder what wouldve been if we were together. but then again i think that i am just scared to give up my freedom and how it is for me now, and im scared to risk going back into that stage where i used to be with my ex. so i dont know what to do. i just want to hear from someone else other than the people around me. =[
2007-02-19 13:08:49 · 7 answers · asked by Riley 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, it's the people around you that know you and know the situation best. I'll try to help, but I don't know the whole story.
Is there a reason you think it won't work out? Anything specific, i mean, not just that a different relationship didn't work? You said you liked him, and trust me, the regret of not knowing what would have happened is difficult later. On the other hand, if you don't think you're ready for a relationship, then perhaps it's best not to be with him.
So... i guess knowing the little I do, my advice would be to go for it and see what happens. If you're not sure you're ready for a relationship because you don't want to give up your freedom, make sure you tell him that, and make sure you tell him to take it slow because you don't want to be hurt. But you never know... the two of you might have a really good relationship if you just give it a try.
2007-02-19 13:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is not a prison. You have freedom, unless the guy turns out to be a control freak, then all you have to do is break it off. I can't remember how it goes exactly but it's something like: The saddest words ever put to pen, are just these four -- what might have been.
2007-02-19 21:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax and see where things go.. Remember you should never compare and old b/f with the new one.. If you are waiting for things to screw up they will because you are cursing the relationship before even giving it a chance.. If things are going good your both happy then just let it run it's course.. I understand how you feel but time will tell all you can do is just go with the flow!!
2007-02-19 21:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
freedom is good but isnt being with someone who cares better? you can have freedom and a b/f. just be clear on what you want. tell him you like hanging out with friends and that and you wanna be with him too. if you really like him then you would have no problem trying to manage him and freedom. give the poor guy a chance. you never know what he can offer... good luck babe
2007-02-19 21:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him you like him a lot and you would really like to be with him, but you aren't ready for a very serious relationship. Tell him you just want a cute-puppy-dog-relationship. Hope I helped
2007-02-19 21:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If and when your ready you'll know, you won't have to ask anyone, cuz you'll fell ready and just do it!! So, be patient my friend, and the right time and guy will come!!
2007-02-19 21:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationships suck, just keep him as a friend with benefits.
2007-02-19 21:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋