13 with boyfriend? help??!!?

Question

ohkay i just turned 13 and i have a boyfriend but my mom wont let him and me go into my bedroom together when he comes over, even tho i tell her that we wont do n e thing which is totally true...do u think she is being over protective or doing the right thing? i think i should be able to have a little bit more freedom with him...do u think i am being to pushy?

(whenever i go to his house we are allowed to do whatever, we can be in his room with the door closed...we just do what we want..

Answer 1

Sorry to tell you but, I don't know of any 13 year olds who are allowed in their bedrooms with their boyfriend. (i'm sure there are, but I don't personally know) Though I don't think that you are too young to have a boyfriend as i'm sure many people may think, I think you are too young to have privacy like that.

I had my first boyfriend at 13 but I wasn't allowed to be in my room with a boyfriend until I was 19 or so. (for more than a few minute period)

I think you are being alittle bit too pushy - you are still a young teen and let your mom get used to your boyfriend and the idea of you having a boyfriend int he first place. When your older she will get more comofrtable of the idea of the two of you in your bedroom. You can say all you want that you won't do anything but it really won't help.... it didn't help me at those times either.

Enjoy being with him no matter where you are - there is no need to be in the bedroom anyway if you are truly not doing anything. I understand you may just want to hang out in there, but hang in there your time will come.

Answer 2

I know what u mean. I was ur age a few years ago and ur just starting to mature and grow up. And even if ur not thinking about having sex or making out, which leads to sex, it just means u will eventually which could be pretty soon. She is just protecting u. Plus u have plenty of time for that stuff and u could get away with it at his house. I wasn't even aloud to have a bf untili was 14 or 15. I still can't have boys in my house when my mom isn't home and i can't go over anyone's house unless an adults there and i'm almost 16. So be glas that ur mother is letting u have a bf at ur age. Just show her that she can trust u and sometimes it's just that they don't trust the guy or don't want u to do anything until ur ready and old and respinsible enough. Even then it's still hard for some parents to let their teenagers have more freedom bc they remember what it was like for them.

Answer 3

hey let me explain something. Your mother loves you and wants whats best for you.. I cant believe shes even letting you see a boy at 13. I feel she is being more than reasonable considering your age.

I know you say you wont do anything. And maybe you dont plan too. Things like just happen sometimes. And you dont know what to do when they do. Dont disrespect your mothers wishes. she really cares. ( lucky you can see a boy) there are too many things that can happen. you have sooo much freedom for your age.... to even see a boy. Not many parents will do this so be happy you can ... In time you will be able to do as you wish . You can wait . push too hard and she may cut you away from boys period. You wouldn t want that.. Do the right thing listen to your mom.

Answer 4

I personally think she's doing the right thing, at your age, people tend to lie, a lot. Your mom is doing the right thing by not letting him to come to your bedroom....You have plenty of freedoms with him I imagine, and you may be a little bit pushy, and I have to ask.....why do you want him to come up to your bedroom?

Answer 5

She should give you a little slack cause you ARE growing up,but then again in this culture all things can happen so i don't blame her ether and mothers for the most part are right most 13 don't have a boyfriend and why do you want to go in your room can you do everthing you want to do in other rooms don't push the limit

Answer 6

well its your moms job to be protective like that , its not that she doesnt trust you, thats just the way parents are. she is doing the right thing. just give her some time to get to know him and she will come around. you could also talk to her about it and tell her how you feel , explain to her that you are 13 and that you arnt even thinking about "stuff like that" make sure that if he does come in your room that you keep you door open, tell your mom that she can come and check in on your guys and stuff, maybe then she will be more comfortable with it

Answer 7

she is doing the right thing... but she should understand that u guys wont do nething... way too young. u could ask her if u could have him in ur bedroom with the door open. dont worry about it though, most parents would b like that. or... u could always say to ur mom that she can come and check on u guys. like come inside whenever she feels like it....

Answer 8

Yes. I thought me and my boyfriend wernt going to do anything and after 5 minnutes being alone we were making out... Its not a good idea. You guys can have just as much fun that you would in your room, outside or in the living room. Just keep yourself busy... Dont let it get too far that you might regret somthing you cant take back... :D Good Luck

Answer 9

your not being pushy.. but she just cares. freedom is very important when growing up it makes us mature in a more efficient way. we also learn many things from the freedom we are givin. good or bad. she is paranoid that you will learn the bad things even though you say and think you wont (not to say you will). she is probably saying this from experience. parents are not always ignorant to us teens and our feelings. their rules are just always so inconvenient but atleast it shows they love us..
and to eventually get her to let you hang with him in your room gain her trust, prove to her you wont.

Answer 10

Okkkk okk shes just being a normal mother. why do you have to be in the bedroom anyways. Plus u are only 13 and she probly just nervous because her daughter is growing up. dont get mad things will develop.