Yes, its me again. This is helping me. My baby daddy left me and he has been calling me so I been being mature and answering the phone but last night we got in a stupid fight and he told me some really hateful things. Total disrespect. I been hoping he would come to his senses. He is living 2000 miles away with his daddy right now. We have a long history (7 years) since we was 17. Anyhow..he told me last night that we will NEVER be together again..when last week he was saying otherwise. I have to toughen up. Everyone is telling me to keep answering the phone but I think I will let my answering machine pick up and then txt him back the baby is fine if he asks about our baby. I am just at lost. They said that if I move on, he will come back. Men, Have you ever done this? Just looking for some nice advice! Thanks.
2007-02-19 12:55:53 · 9 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I agree let the machine answer. And text with baby questions. And after the baby is born find someone who will love you both. There are good guy's out there. It's sounds like he just wants to control you from afar.
Good-Luck with the new baby and the new beginning:)
2007-02-19 17:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by sparksgirls6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been in your situation, but I do have some advice.
1. It takes two people to have a fight. He cannot fight with you if you refuse to take part.
2. After 7 years, he knows what all your buttons are and exactly how to push them.
3. Answer the phone, but keep the conversation on topic. Tell him you will only discuss parenting and child issues with him and everything else is off limits. If he tries to talk about anything else, calmly say "This is not an issue I'm willing to discuss at this point."
2007-02-19 21:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that letting the answering machine pick up sounds like a winner. You really don't need the stress that it sounds like he is causing you right now. If he really cares he will want to protect you and your baby and he will not want to cause you undue worry or stress. Good Luck to You....
2007-02-19 21:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by sydney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not answer the phone when he calls cause all he is doing is torturing you by calling you everyday. He is only making sure that you are not doing anything and if i were you i would tell him that he is almost 30 years old and it is time to grow up if you do talk to him. Maybe your better off without him.
2007-02-19 21:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was any kind of man he'd be right there with you taking care of the mother of his child. I really don't think you should answer his phone calls at all because if he cared about his child he wouldn't have been such an *** to you causing you all kinds of stress. He's selfish and deserves to be alone.
2007-02-19 21:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, dont even bother to get into arguements with him. It will just cause you more pain. I agree maybe get the answering machine to get it or answer but any sign of him getting angry or talking to you like crap hang up. Keep strong. It will all work out.
2007-02-19 21:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by karhs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the machine get it and then txt him if he asks about the baby. It isn't being immature. It's keeping your sanity.
2007-02-19 20:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you. I would leave It alone. You should think about what kind of life you are going to have after wards. If he puts you through all the emotional abuse now. Then what will it be like later and what kind of life will your child have.
2007-02-23 19:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by sstonedfrogg420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, who cares about him. right now you have more important things to worry about, like your health and the health of your baby. you so not need all the stress that this guy is causing you. if he really wanted to be with you, he would be there. let him go and take care of yourself and the baby.
2007-02-19 21:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋