Possibly too young, but not necessarily. A lot of people your age get on answers and ask if they should marry at your age, and haven't even been with their boy or girl friend but a few months. You on the other hand, have been with your girl a significant amount of time. That's good. It means that there is already some staying power to your relationship. Ask your self a few questions though. Do you feel that your relationship is a mature relationship? One that is based on things like respect, and careing, and deep deep committed love? Are both of you committed to the happiness, and emotional well being of the other permanently? Can you support both of you together? What plans do you have for your futures? College? Trade school? Carreers? Do you have a plan in place to keep your relationship fresh, and never let it get stagnent? What plans have you made about children? And how will you raise them? Is there a spiritual component in your lives? Is there any disagreement there? What about divorce...Is there any situation where it might be possible? Or is it simply out of the question? Are you willing, no desirous to spend the next 70 or 80 years with this person? And go through all the physical, and mental changes that will occurr in that time with her? What about temptation? A lot of people will tell you don't marry now, sow wild oats. See other girls, and get all that out of your system first, and then marry when you're 30 or more. Can you honestly say you'll never touch another woman for the rest of your life, and have no regrets about it?
4 1/2 years together shows potential. But it's what you did in that time to prepare for your lives together that tells the story.
Good Luck to you two. I really hope you two do make it. A life long love affair with a good woman is precious beyond discription if you two are ready for it.
I was 18 when I married my 17 year old love 29 years 8 months, 5 kids, and 3 grand kids ago. Nobody thought we'd last through the honeymoon. Or the first year. Or when our firstborn died of a birth defect. So we had to figure things out pretty much on our own. Without much support. But here we are. In love, happy, and still together after a major load of s... throughout the years. You can do it too. If you two are really ready.
Good luck to both of you.
2007-02-19 14:30:30
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answered by Anonymous
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No legally most countries allow marriage at 18. Should they marry? Probably not as they will change so much in the 10 years to come. If they are hell bent on getting married they should hold of for a few years to see if they still have the same dreams about the future. 18 year old's should be thinking of going to College. Being married and having kids coming along is no fun if you do not have an education and good job to pay for it.
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answered by Anonymous
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I think it depends on you personally. My mother was married at 18 and I am 27 and I can tell you at 18 I was nowhere near ready for marriage.
I think before anybody gets married they should be:
A) out of secondary school with a diploma
B) employeed at a decent job with money saved up
and C) be ready to move out of their parents house
Now if you think about these things, they all have one thing in common.... They require maturity and responsibility. Not only that but they all tie in together. In my personal opinion, if you cannot do those 3 things you are definitely not ready to get married.... The other thing, I think a person should decide what they want with their life whether it's just working or furthering their education before getting married. I don't know many 18 year olds who know that much and have that much confidence in themselves (regarding the whole maturity and responsibility).
If I were you, I would personally keep the engagement going but hold off on planning a wedding until you're at least 21 (at minimum)!
Good luck and congrats.
2007-02-19 12:59:37
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answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4
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18 is young. Too young? That depends on you. At that age there are a lot of changes going on and you and your partner could grow apart very quickly. You two have been together for a long time now, what's the harm in waiting till you're 20? Get engaged, plan a wedding a couple years down the road. You'll have enough time to plan everything to get it right and your marriage won't have the extra stress of everyone telling you it's doomed. Good Luck
2007-02-19 12:56:18
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answered by K S 4
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My philosophy is, age is just a number ... however, someone who is only 18 who has been in the same relationship for 4 yars has no real life experience. Things change when you get past high school ... people will grow apart. My advice would be to go through college and yourself settled in a career first ... then down the line if you decide that marriage is still the path you'd like to take, then that would be the time to make such a decision.
2007-02-19 14:37:09
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answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6
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Probably. I married my high school sweetheart, but only after we each attended, and graduated from, separate colleges. We were dating the whole time, but the four years apart let us really grow and explore what we wanted out of life. I would suggest the same course of action. If we had married right out of high school we wouldn't be together now. The thought of having to work and support a family at the age of 19 or 20 is just horrifying. Give yourselves some time to continue growing. You don't have to break up, just don't bring all the legal issues in for a few more years.
2007-02-19 13:41:40
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answered by rosekm 3
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I think 18 is too young to get married, but that depends on the person. If you really love someone then it shouldn't matter how old you are if you really plan on being with them forever! Have you ever seen engaged and under aged?? You might be able to see what its like being young and in love from that. I feel that no matter how young or old you are if you have strong feelings for someone then it shouldn't matter. Remember once you marry this person you are planning to share the rest of youre life with them and remember you have all youre life to get married, but in the end its all up to how you feel.
2007-02-19 12:54:25
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answered by Anonymous
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FROM SOMEONE THAT WAS MARRIED AT 19....YES, YES, YES...
I know you think you have all the answers, but follow some of the excellent advice you have been given as answers here. If it's meant to be, your love will grow with time and you'll be more committed to making a marriage work. AND IT IS WORK. When the honeymoon period is over and reality settles in, it's work. And even after 40 years, it's a give and take and work to make a happy life together.
There's financial, children, in-law, etc, problems
Good luck with your 1st hard decision!
2007-02-19 15:24:41
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answered by sushimaven 4
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I'm 23 & nothing like the person I was at 18. If you love her, love last forever. You should wait to get married unti you are both more stable in life. No 18 year old has a stable career or a completed education.
2007-02-19 13:33:04
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answered by layla983 5
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At 18 you're barely an adult so I do think it's too young to make a marriage commitment. If you're meant to get married you can wait another 4 years and you'll be more ready
2007-02-19 12:53:04
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answered by M N 5
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