i feel like im going to die..?

Question

ive always kinda felt like i would die younger...but like im only 12.

and lately i think about it a lot, like a ton really. It might be a car crash, cancer. anything.
But I brought it up in front of my family a while ago, and my two youngest sisters admitted to talking to eachother about feeling like if something bad happened to the family it would be my death.

This really scares me. because like i've heard of people who write letters to there familys about how they "feel" like there going to die soon, and then they do. {die}

So i guess im just asking for your opinoins on this...

[[ i also tried to bring it up to my dad in the car today, and he go all quiet and switched the subject.. it was wierd, lol ]]

um, no i dont watch t.v

and my moms best friend's daughter died at age 15 two years ago at a school shooting. she knew she was going to die so she wrote a letter and told some people. and no, its not like she just stoof infront of the gunman.. okay ?

IM NOT SUICIDLE :]

Answer 1

It sounds like you're kind of obsessed with this notion. Maybe you should talk to a counselor or a neutral person not in your family. Because naturally, you're parents or family will get upset at this topic, they don't want to think of you dying.

I have had similar feelings, if not so frequently. Some days I will feel like today might be the day. That used to happen to me awhile ago and then I realized that I was listening to a lot of Morrissey lol. He talks alot about death in his songs, so it might just be something youre associating with maybe without even realizing it.

Try getting a hobby or something to do to distract yourself. It can't be healthy to worry about that all the time.

And ultimately, a car crash or freak accident is not within your control. So, you shouldn't worry about the things that are not within your control, there's no point.

Answer 2

I felt that way for a while. Like I was stuck in a point in my life and I couldn't picture myself growing up. Like I was not going to be SUPPOSED to die before I got older or an adult. Its just a transition period we go through. What I did was pick something in the near future (parties, holidays, the fair, hanging out with friends, a movie coming out) that kept my mind off of thinking about things to far ahead or what could happen before then. I bet knowing someone that was so young dying around you didn't really help... All I can say is expect the best and prepare for the worst.

Answer 3

Sarah you parents are probably concerned that you may be suicidal and are not sure hope to talk to you about it - this would explain why your Dad got quiet. Are you? Are you thinking of ways that you could end your own life or are you thinking that an accident might happen and TAKE your life. Because these are two very different things. If you keep thinking that something accidental might happen to you which would kill you, then it actually isn't that difficult to break yourself of the habit of thinking that way. That's what it is you know - it's a way of thinking that has become a habit. And even if you were to think about it non stop, it doesn't mean it's going to happen.

Have you ever talked to any of your friends about this type of thing? I'll bet just about every one of them said that they can't imagine themselves living past 30 or 40 or whatever. Almost EVERY one of us has said or thought this. And then we all have this deep little secret fear that what if thinking this would make it come true. Or that maybe it was some kind of psychic premonition. And so as we get closer to the 20th or 40th birthday, this secret really can worry us. And then you pass your secret "deadline" and wonder why you were so worried.

Sarah this kind of this is experienced by almost everyone. Ask your Mom or Dad if they ever feared this. However, I think that what might be happening with you is that you're thinking about this a lot and you're finding some things that feel like it's confirming it for you. For example, your 2 younger sisters. It's really normal to worry once in a while about something horrible happening to your family - and you are their big sister! So in their minds, you go first!

Yes, sometimes you hear of people who wrote or phoned a loved one to tell them they loved them - and then died a short time later. I am pretty sure that these people didn't logically know they were about to die - it was just some kind of intuition that kicked in. So if this happened to you once, where you got a strong urge to tell your family you loved them in a way that was totally out of the ordinary for you, then maybe it could be some kind of premonition. Or maybe just a strong urge to tell them you love them! Sweety, really try not to stress over this ok? One trick you can use to get yourself out of the habit of thinking this way, is to put a loose rubber band around your wrist. And everytime you have a negative thought about death, give the band a little snap and immediately think about something positive that you'd like to do when you are older. These positive thoughts can be practical, fun, or completely silly. For example: 'SNAP' When I am in my 20's I'm going to decorate everything in my apartment's kitchen in purple! or "SNAP' By the time I'm 18 I'm going to have the biggest collection of (???) of any of my friends. or 'SNAP', When I'm in college I'm going pick out a course in (???) just because it sounds interesting. Keep doing this kind of positive thinking every chance you can - and in a few weeks THAT will be habit.

Sarah, if trying something like this doesn't help you break this negative pattern, OR if you are thinking about suicide, then you really need to get some help with this. If you don't want to talk to your parents about it yet, then please talk to your school counsellor, a teacher, an adult family member you trust - Someone who will listen and help you find the right place to get help.

If you want to talk to me more than you can e-mail me if you like. Good luck Sweety.

Answer 4

Dying is a part of life. It is something that's quite difficult to deal with until you're old enough to understand, and then it's scary, because up until then you secretly believe you're going to live forever.

When the knowledge hits you, it's quite easy to obsess over it and overidentify it. But I don't see why you have to be scared. From what you've said all that it suggests is how important you are to your family and how much you're loved. Clearly a huge fear they would have would be losing you. Which must mean that your life is so much to them.

Don't allow this fear to be just yours - talk to your school counsellor or to your family. Allow this fear to dissipate with communication.

As the great philosopher Lister from Red Dwarf states, "Everybody dies. You're born and then you die. The bit in the middle's called Life, and that's still to come".

Have fun.

Answer 5

So long you're not doing (or thinking of doing) things to hurt yourself, I think it is probably perfectly normal to think about death at various times of your life.
At least in my case, as I went through the past 40 years, there were many times I thought about it, and there were several occasions when I should've died, too.
But, I didn't...

So, it is likely that you will live until fate has a different plan, which is probably many, many years down the road.
I wouldn't worry about it too much, it's just the way life is sometimes.

Answer 6

Please know that not everyone that feels like they are going to die, dies.

You may need to go and talk to your school counselor, social worker to psychologist. Having an anxiety disorder can make you feel this way. They may also talk to you about depression, unresolved grief/loss issues and talk about hormones and developmental stages.

If you do not feel like the mental health people at school have been helpful, ask your parents to allow you to talk to your doctor, spiritual adviser or a therapist.

I think that it is great that you are trying to get help for yourself.

Sometimes adults change the subject when a topic is more that what we are prepared for. I know that it is bad.

Best wishes.

Answer 7

Hon, you are 12 yrs old.You should be thinking about school and boys and slumber parties. Not death. Any one of us can go out here and get hit by a car or get cancer.Life is to damn short to be sitting aroung thinking of dying..Live your life to the fullest.Your 12 hon, trust me you have a long life ahead of you.Take care now!!

Answer 8

yeah that's kinda odd. . .
but just live everyday like it's your last, live every day to the FULLEST. Focusing on the bad will make you start to hate your life, and you're a little too young for that. I get you're entering into your teen years, and you'll probably get these weird feelings here and then, but just be Happy that you have a life and (hopefully) good health!

Answer 9

You will end up dying if you don't stop your nonsense; only God knows the time and place, for now live life. You said you were 12, go hang out with your friends, build strong relationships with them and your parents and other family members. I am a strong believer that if you keep thinking of failure and death it will come to you

Answer 10

While your family may think your questions are morbid and innappropriate, your thoughts on this subject are quite normal. Everybody at some point growing up questions life and death. While it may be true that some people may premonition their own death, this is rare and is sometimes due to self-inflicted injuries or they placed themselves in danger.