Im 17 and I hang with guys who are 16-19 and the same age for the girls. I dont get why Every weekend my bros **** a chick and I dont, all they do is get drunk have fun and lie n ****. Theyre all skinnier and more "athletic" looking than i am. But i mean I play football and Im a lineman and I have a very good chance of playing College football and like 1 60% chance of playing for a big D1 like auburn or Vanderbilt etc. I eve got a letter to Yale for football because im good with academics too. So why do girls like the guys who dont give a **** and arent gonna make it anywhere in life, instead of trying for the guy whos gonna make money??
2007-02-19 12:28:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok I have confidence i always introduce myself as soon as i see a girl look at me and i smile and all this stuff
Maybe i came off like all i want to do is have sex... not true all i was wanting to know was why girls will get drunk have sex with a hot guy and blame it on the booze... it just seems like a cheap trick to bypass all the talk and stress.
All i want is a good relationship
2007-02-19 12:40:18 · update #1
Everyone who keeps mentioning money needs to stop it was only meant to give perspective. Meaning I have aspirations and im actually trying to go somewhre in life. Not the im gonna be a rich arrogant bastard who throws money around like nothing. Stop reading for what it is and interpret.
2007-02-19 12:56:45 · update #2
man if that is you in your pic then Dang i agree, what's wrong with the girls around where you live... but haha i am not trying to prove by saying that that girls are Shallow either.. because i actually DO go for personality completely! those girls that your guys you hang out with sound pretty much Easy and that's just in their nature to want that.. which you sound like you don't want.. you deserve a girl who will treat you right and love you for who you are.. not those types of girls. you sound like an amazing guy with very talented qualities, and probably those types of girls aren't attracted to you like that because YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THEM. those girls are Only looking for fun and you have serious potential.. don't care about those girls and find someone who actually Cares about you.. because those types of girls are just vulnerable and looking for attention, not necessarily from more "athletic" looking guys.. just guys that will Give it to them.. you deserve better and i'm sure you will find it! just keep being yourself! good luck and best wishes to ya! :) and don't feel bad about those types of girls not wanting you.. you sound so much better than them..
2007-02-19 12:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by coolio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, money isn't what makes a girl TRULY like a guy either.
It's not looks or money, it really is PERSONALITY.
For me anyways.
I am 19 and I am only attracted to guys that are really funny and are genuinely nice guys. Their looks come last..and you can always find something attractive about someone, they don't have to be an over-all bombshell. Like a guy can have a great smile to me or pretty eyes. The sense of humor and outlook on life is what really gets me.
You sound very intelligent and athletic, and those are great qualities that I'm sure many girls find very attractive. Maybe they think you are out of their league or too good for them?? Also, work on your outlook and maybe it is your personality that turns girls away?? You say your "bros **** a chick" and you don't. That's kinda vulgar talk and I find that a turn-off so maybe other girls do too. Do you really want a girl that will sleep with you after only meeting you one night at a party?? You need to figure out what type of girl you want to meet and attract and then see where to go from there.
Good luck to you and congrats on the college letters. :)
2007-02-19 12:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to realize not all girls are like that...I know Im dating a linebacker, so I dont see it as a problem. I think some girls want what people have right now, like looks. Later on they are going to go more towards a guy like you, who will suceed in life. Sad to say girls arent the smartest sometimes at realizing which guy is the smarter pick, you just need to find the right girl for you. Give it a little time
2007-02-19 12:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by saraikyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you think girls are shallow if they go after a guy who's athletic looking, but they're not shallow if they're into guys who are "gonna make money"?
The way you view women is disgraceful. Girls don't want to listen to all this crap about how sucessful you're going to be and all about you for hours. You need to ask the girl some questions and talk to her about her life and her plans. Girls like guys who pay attention. That's why your friends are getting more interest than you.
You sound really arrogant and it's a total turn off. Just chill out and try to show some respect. Different girls are into different things and not all of us are into money.
2007-02-19 12:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Snow White 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do realize you just asked "why are girls so shallow" while at the same time whining about how they're not "trying for the guy whos gonna make money"? I hope even a Yale recruit like yourself can see the contradiction in that. Unless of course I'm totally wrong and money and personality are the same thing.
2007-02-19 12:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because we like bad boys. For some reason we like boys who wont pay attention to us or be mean to us.
You seem like a great guy, and you're better off without those easy girls. The right one will come along.
2007-02-19 12:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by sweetwat3rmelon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like the girls ur talking about arent even the right kind of girls u want to be dating...basically they all sound like whores who want nothing but a hookup...u seem like the kind of guy that knows what hes doing with his life and the kind that would want an actual relationship with a girl...the other guys prob arent looking for relationships...theyre just looking for the hookup and thats all those girls are looking for too...ur just looking at the wrong girls bc the normal kind that want a steady relationship with a guy do look for personality, intelligence, and stability with their life...not just a hookup...keep looking...maybe ur just looking for girls in the wrong places
2007-02-19 12:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The real question is: do you want to be with the girls that these guys are with? The girls that go for guys like you are out there. Like attracts like. These girls are going nowhere, just like the guys.
2007-02-19 12:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sonia S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you find out please let me know. I have the same question when I go out and see my old friends that still party all the time, have no job, no car, but yet seem to get all the girls. It just don't make any since.
2007-02-19 12:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by Eric 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably because your 17 and you have different values than your friends or brother has, some women are attracted to personality while others are not, you need to find a different group of girls to get to know
2007-02-19 12:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋