I have a toddler who refuse to learn anything stuctured!!!?

Question

My daughter of 19mths, well I have worked with her for so long to learn new words, I have showed her books with the pictures of many objects I have taken her through the kitchen exploring names for everything. I have pointed at all of her body parts again and again saying names... But she doesn't want to say them, she will just scream instead.. I try making it fun, I try to read, but she know no names of objects. Instead she knows weird complex sentences ex: "whats her name?" my aunt pointed at me and asked her, instead of mommy or ma she said "Her name is Marian!!" She heard my name twice maybe because I have a nick name!

Why won't she learn the names of her toys, foods she wants, where her body hurts so I know how to help her??? Is it stubbornness, does anybody know any tricks???

SORRY REFUSES!

I am not worried about her not learning I am worried that she refuses to listen!!! She just won't!!!

How do I coax a baby to talk when I ask her a question???

Body Parts like tummy, arms, hands, legs, figures, toes.... NOT THE UNMENTIONABLES!!!!

Answer 1

First of all you are doing a great job by trying to help her learn new things and do not stop that.

Secoundly you are describing what my seven year old Autistic Son Was like at that age. I am not saying your child is Autistic, but at her age she should be learning knew words everyday, and this is a tell tell sign on Autism.

My son screamed about everything. He refused to learn, and he called my husband and I by name until we started calling each other mom and dad.

Other tell tell signs that you may see but don't realize. Stares into lights, focuses on one object, does not give good eye contact, does not answer to on name when called two or three times from behind. Is a very picky eater.

I don't want to scare you, and I truely hope that it is not Autism, but if it is now is the time to get treatment because she can make such big strides at such a young age.

When you spoke of the sentence your daughter said about you, I remembered a friend who had a son with Asbergers Syndrome who would speak like that but other wise said nothing at all. He was highly inteligent, just had a bit of social quirks about him. So please, don't be affended but just go get her tested, the sooner the better. You go to a child psychologist to get testing like that done. Look for a childrens hospital or a child study center near you and they can direct you in the right way. also we have a program around here call ECI Early Childhood Intervention. They are usually free and they come to your home that is in TX you will have to check with your local Childrens Hospital, and if you Have a Mental Health Mental Retardation Center near you they can also direct you in the right path.

Answer 2

My 21-month-old son has stubbornly refused to speak for the last 10 months. Before that, he would talk and had some 50+ words. He can say somewhere near 250-300 words but only when he wants to. He is entirely too intelligent for his own good and we were lost. I have worked with people with disabilities for years so I know all kinds of speech therapy tricks and none of them worked. He is finally outgrowing it and talking. Try not asking her to speak, try asking her to do other things like, "Katie, if you want this one, lay down on the floor, if you want this one sit down and clap." "Katie, if you want the red one touch your arm, if you want the green one touch your tummy." (Use this one after she gets the hang of the game, then she has to learn and demonstrate her knowledge of colors and body parts even if she doesn't want to talk.) Make sure that you talk with her doctor next time she has a check up and have him check for a sore throat, and an ear infection both of which can make talking painful (although screaming would be infinitely more painful). Don't forget humor, she may not tell you where her head is but she may tell you that you bumped your head if you pretend to run into the wall with it.

Answer 3

Have you thought of having her tested? By the time my twins were that age, the trick was getting them to not talk. My son, however, had not been able to hear well due to ear infections and didn't really start talking until he was 4 and in predevelopmental preschool. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Toddlers all learn at there own pace...and although it may seem to you like nothing is sinking in one day she will let loose on you and wont stop saying everything that you have been teaching her... just be patient...my eldest was a little like that and once she started...which I might add was when she was ready to, not when I wanted her to be...there was no stopping her...lol

Answer 5

your pushing too much to fast let her be a baby and learn at her pace. shes not stubborn shes a baby. she will learn body parts bt the time she is age three stop forcing her or you will be in for a world of trouble when it comes time for school

Answer 6

You cant be serious! She is only 19 months old! She is still learning. Give her time. And sweetie take some child development classes. We all want geniuses but be patient.

Answer 7

obviously she know something because she can formulate an entire sentence when asked a question that she wants to answer.
this tells me that there are some cognitive analysis going on
stop forcing her. she is fine..

Answer 8

She's only 19 months, so don't put a lot of pressure on her. If you are sure she knows the name of something, don't respond until she says the word, instead of pointing to the milk, don't give her any until she says "milk please" or "i want milk please" (that's what i did with my kids saying "please" for things.
tell her what you are doing first, and keep it simple, but she's so young I wouldn't push her. She'll talk when she wants to.