Should I call CPS?

Question

I think in my heart of hearts that I need to but am I looking at this all wrong? My good friend has 2 boys under 3 and lives with her mother and brother in a 2 bed room apartment. She has no income nor does she try to find a job. She cannot get welfare anymore and she borrows money to pay the rent. No one in the house has a job and to make matters worse the her mother smokes pot in the house. Instead of riding the bus she has her friend with benefits drive her places in his 2 seater truck with 1 of her sons on the floor board. This is a weekly thing not just one time that this has happened. She sleeps with men and her sons are in the room. When her son fell off a counter at my house she picked him up and when he screamed in pain she screamed back at him to stop screaming. She lets the children do anything they want including hitting biting and throwing toys at adults. I have told her lovingly that all these things are not safe or not good for them but she still does them.

Also her house is full of broken items and trashy things that are very dangerous. She can move if she wants to. There is many places her for mothers.




What should I do?

I called and they said they will give her the help she needs. Thanks all!!

Answer 1

you are in a horrible situation and i feel for you. well she isn't beating the children so that is good but the other things you describe is still abuse. when you turn to cps it is confidential, and you can just express your concern. but also state some good as well as bad, being that she is your friend, and let cps decide what is best , they can and will help her if she helps herself. you owe it to those babies to make sure they are safe if the mother or grandmother don't. good luck with this i know it must be taken a toll on you to watch as well .

Answer 2

YES! Definitely, when comes to the children's welfare do it. She adult and should know better, as for the children we know better.
Could be her blessing in disguise.
She may not see it that way, but she will when it's all said and done.
A good friend would try to help out a Friend, so just look at it this way. If you do report her, they come do a home visit they will work with your friend. To make it right and they just don't remove the children UN LESS it is in the children's best interest.
They wouldn't tell who turned her in, she could think it was anyone.
So please do so, today, now for help for your good friend and your good friend's children!
For the love of a child.

Answer 3

I would call CPS. Those children are in danger. No parent in their right mind would let their child sit on the floor of the car. There are some people in this world who should never have kids and she is one of them. You need to contact CPS ASAP because it won't get better until there is a real threat present. The case worker will set one foot in the house hold and take those kids away quick. Please for the sake of the kids call CPS.

Answer 4

I have two boys of my own and also am a foster parent. I would not recommend calling CPS for a lot of reasons that people do, but if what you are saying is true then I would call immediatly. Please keep in mind too in the future that it is not always in a childs best interest to be in CPS custody. Many of the children I have had in my home have been abused or mistreated by their foster parents. I feel like sometimes children are better with their own parents than to be put through so much in CPS custody because there is a lack of quality foster parents and a lot of times they go through a lot worse in CPS custody than they do in the homes they were removed from.

Answer 5

Call CPS, the lives of those children are more important than anything. If her mother won't think of them you do.Those kids are going to get seriously hurt and by the sounds of it you are the only one that can stop it. Do the right thing and get those kids taken out of there and put somewhere where they will be treated with love and respect.

Answer 6

You already know what to do, hon. You have to contact CPS, and pray that they're involvement will scare her into taking better care of those children, and of herself. If it doesn't motivate her to change, well then the children will be removed and placed somewhere they can't get a contact high, watch adults f***, be tossed around in the floorboard of a dirty pickup truck, or be belittled and verbally abused when they need nurturing.

You will inevitably lose a friend. But you will be saving two children who need your help. You know what you've got to do. Lord give you strength.

Answer 7

I hate to tell you this, but CPS won't do anything until the children are harmed. Your friend is a lousy parent. That's all there is to it. Unless she is caught putting her children in a dangerous situation, like riding on the floor of the truck (by the police), there is nothing CPS will do about a promiscuous ****, nor will they do anything about having broken crap in the house - unless it is an actual public health situation - raw sewage, lots of rotting garbage. Being a lazy pig isn't a crime....and you call this person a good friend? Good luck with that........but I have a pretty good feeling that CPS won't do a thing.

Answer 8

Yes, you should. They can all be arrested for child abuse and neglect, and the mother for drugs. It is best for the children to get out of there before something even worse happens. You are not overreacting at all. Actually, you probably should have done it a while ago...

Answer 9

Your right you do know the answer. If she won't help herself, you need to. Go ahead and make the call to CPS before things get any worse. I can't help but wonder what makes you want to be her friend in the first place?

Answer 10

Absolutely call. Make it anonymous and she'll never know. I have called on my own sister before because of a similar situation as yours. That was hard but it was for the kids. We are all responsible for the youth of this world and it will make you feel better. You are doing the right thing by calling.