Am I a bad mother?

Question

Ok, so my daughter is 4 years old. I feel that she is really smart. But then I compare her to other kids, ones that go to preschool or daycare, she does not go to either yet. But she only can count to 10, she has a very creative mind, but she can not say her ABC's , she can kinda start spelling out her name, and can copy it when I write it out , But I dont feel like I work with her enough. I work 40 hrs a week and im 33 weeks pregnant. is this because im a bad mother?

Answer 1

Definitely NOT. A bad mother wouldn't care or bother to write on Yahoo for help. You're just busy and heavily pregnant. Trust me, once she starts school, she'll go leaps and bounds. I think we try to 'educate our children too young and forget to just play with them. Yes, they enjoy learning and are like little sponges but learning involves much more than counting and knowing your ABC's. As long as she is loved and cared for, keep up the good work and take it easy for the next few weeks before you give birth to your new bundle of joy.

Answer 2

No you are not a bad mother you obviously care alot. I have a daycare and I work with the kids alot on letters not so much numbers yet but mostly abcs andI have them trace and write there letters to there names. 2 out of 4 of my 4 year olds can write there names. The other 2 are slowly learning it's not a big deal if they don't get it right away it will come with kindergarden when she is a little more mature. You are doing fine.

Answer 3

You are not a bad mother, and she is pretty smart for someone who is not in pre k and does not have the constant attention.

It is ok that you work. You need to work and don't take that away from yourself.

I was told when my son entered school at age three, He was special needs, that he was way ahead of the game on abcs and the sort because most kids do not learn this stuff till kindergarten. Children who go to pre k just learn things a year early is all. Your daughter sounds like she is right on track. You can always take her to the local school and have her tested when they are having Pre k registration and they will tell you whether or not she is behind.

Now I was not bragging on my son, he is Autistic and many Autistic children have unusaul talents. My son learned his letters and numbers at age two by watching blues clues. If you are really worried look into the Baby Einstine tapes for pre k children they say that it is worth the look.

I hope something I said helps, and please do not think you are a horrible mom. Just invest in some learning tapes and that will help. Oh and children ususually don't learn how to write till kinder.

Answer 4

No you are not a bad mother. Every child learns at a different pace, and just because your daughter isn't doing things other kids are at her age, doesn't mean she isn't smart. She may grow up and be the valedictorian of her class while the other ones you are comparing her to are in the bottom 10 percent. You are doing a great job. Keep your head up and enjoy the time you spend with her, pretty soon you will have another one to keep you busy.

Answer 5

Kids develop at their own pace. There is a lot more pressure on kids these days to perform tasks at earlier ages, but there is no evidence that the ability to do them sooner will correlate to future success. She's falling right into the middle of the pack for 4 year olds. Work with her when you can, come up with multiple ways to introduce the same topic so learning stays fun. You're not a bad mother simply because other children can do more.

Answer 6

Children are sponges and they're going to learn at their own pace regardless how long you are able to work with them. Some kids pick things up quickly while others just do whatever and are just as happy. I don't think that anyone would call you a bad mother for doing the very best for your family and you're certainly not a bad mother for being worried! That just shows you care!
All children are different...just work off of what she does well and it will be alright!

Answer 7

No, your not a bad mom. You have to feed her and wash her clothes and by that time your sleeping. Try to work counting and the ABC song into everything you can--in the car, at walmart, ect... You know a few years back I bought the leapfrog DVDs when the first came out. It was just to back up what I was teaching and planning to teach. I put the movie in and he watched it twice in a row. He learned the ABC's immediatly. He watched the other and knew the sounds. I didn't even have to do much work--not that it was my intension to skip out.
Anyway the DVDs are $10 each at Walmart. Also, use thick lined paper and make her name with dashes- you know so she is able to trace it. She'll learn-- and you know mine was soo board in kindergarden because he knew everything they taught, plus. Don't worry Be happy!!!

Answer 8

NO!!!!

She is 4, and every child learns at their own pace. Counting to 10 at 4 is average, she has an imagination, and can copy your writing.
You shouldn't feel that you need to 'work' with her, have fun, but incorporate education in it. For example, sing the ABC songs, when climbing stairs, count them. Read to her every day, and have her help with the words. This works great if its a story she already knows by heart - then she can know what word is where, and praise her for her efforts.

Every experience can be fun and educational.

Answer 9

I don't feel that you are a bad mother. What parents and people don't understand is that all children has their own pace of learning. You can't compare your child to someone elses child even if they're the same age. Yes, I believe that education begin and end within your home, but don't beat yourself up about it. Your child is fine, when she start doing her abc's and counting to 20 you're going to trying to make her stop. You daughter is specia in her own way and not in the way we may want them to be.

vanjac6

Answer 10

No, it doesn't mean you are a bad mother. Kids learn at different rates. I could only count to 4 when I was 4 (because I needed to know how old I was when people asked me). Of course that was a long time ago, about the time when people realized the earth was round :)