My girlfriend says I over react over stupid stuff...?

Question

We fight a lot and there's never a solution. It's just forgotten till another arguement occurs. I feel like she's been ignoring me lately cause she went to a party with her cousin. She said she didn't meet anyone but me being stupid like a guy, I went on her gay myspace and saw a message from a dude asking for her s/n. I called her to ask who he was and she said he has a girlfriend and yadda yadda.

She only askes to hang out when she's running an errand.. She also says I control her. I call to ask where she's at cause she never tells me. Sounds wrong right there but I tell her where I'm going, where I've been, who I was with. We bearly ever hang out and haven't much for the longest time. She says she's always busy when I ask to hang out. I told her she has to put some stuff aside for me. 4 years together. Can anyone just help me and give me some advice? My friends told me to dump her but some reason I keep telling myself to hold on. I'm wrong a lot but I apologize for how I acted.

And the other thing is that whenever I walk out on her right at the last second of saying bye don't talk to me anymore, she pulls me back. Everyone says she's playing with my mind and just likes me for the idea since we don't see eachother as much as other couples do. We see eachother about once a week and she literally lives down the street. Try going threw that for 4 years.. And she thinks I'll wait for her for college. I told her I wouldn't and she through a ***** fit.

Answer 1

Look you need to set her down for a for real serious talk if she won't then you need to let her go because the is obviosly something she is not telling you and hiding. Look Be real with her let her know how you feel about the situation and if she doesn't give any positive feedback then LET HER GO!!!! If my boyfriend and I have a problem if we are pissed we wait until the two of us are cooled down and then talk about it We reason with each other by hearing how he sees the situation and how he feels and the same with me... Just chill...If she doesnt reson then LET HER GO>>> Look we always find a solution!! If you love her do this you'll be happy in the long run. You'll never reslove a situation if you don't talk about it.... so TALK ABOUT IT!! Please. It will help a lot this way you will also figure out how she really feels(if she don't talk to you she don't care) and how real she is.. You need someone real.

Answer 2

Dude, I'm going to be blunt. It won't work. Period.

Let me ask this... what do you consider a relationship? Hanging out? I don't see any mention of love or a relationship, just that she's doing this and that, and it is either gay or stupid. Is she really your girlfriend, or just a girl you THINK you have a relationship with? Have you kissed her? Have you made plans for the future with her?

You aren't ready for a real relationship, and she doesn't want to make time for you. Two big signals that say, this won't happen.

Okay, here's my edit after receiving your e-mail. You're not going to like this one either. School (college) is paramount for her. It is the most important thing you or she can do. If you think it is meant to be, then you wait. You put up with her studying and going to school, and the like. You should be doing the same. If you don't want to wait, then end the relationship. It is simple. Here's the thing. Unless you are going to support her and she'd never work, she needs to learn a career. That's what college is for. Suppose she hadn't met you and wasn't in a relationship, would you say that she shouldn't go to school anyway? It sounds like you are being a bit selfish. You must be willing to see how important her future is, especially if you are to be a part of it.

But, it is your choice. Either support her desire for an education or end the relationship.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

u should talk to her bout the problems instea of argueing
ull figure out a solution sooner or later but if u dont just dump her
it kinda sound like shes controling u

Answer 5

Sounds like the relationship has run its course. She feels that your not giving her space obviously. No one wants anyone to keep tabs on them all the time. It sounds like you should dump her. She just isnt in to you anymore.

Answer 6

me and one of my ex's (notice the ex) had a similar problem. we fought constantly!! it wasnt healthy for us and it isnt hjealthy for you! im not saying you have to dump her, but atleast tell her your concerns and let her know that you arent sure about it. if she isnt willing to put somethings aside for you she might not be as interested as she once was. she might feel doing other things are more important. hope this helps!!

Answer 7

wow, we call that a very unstable relationship

im not sure how you could work to make it better, but the easiest solution WOULD be to break up with her, you just need to find it in you to do it

Answer 8

well do you think maybe you do over react just a little bit sleep on it by tomorow you"ll feel diffrent Im one who over react so I know i can be a Drama queen what about you?

Answer 9

wel your gf and that person on myspace are both cheating on you and his gf- break up before things get nasty