After a couple of years of dating, two of my good friends were engaged, but in December they broke off their engagement, and they both agreed that it was for the best. It was both of their idea to end their relationship. My friend and I started talking a lot after they broke up, he and I became closer. He and I both having feelings for each other, but is it right??
2007-02-19 12:07:55 · 27 answers · asked by shortcollegegirl23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't help your feelings but put yourself into your friend's shoes and she how you would feel if your friend hooked up with your ex? good luck :)
2007-02-19 12:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was BOTH of their ideas to break off the relationship AND you and the dude didn't start to have feelings for each other until much after they parted ways - then I see nothing really wrong with this. It sounds like you guys didn't plan on having feelings for each other, and this all took place after the two of them mutually decided to split up. Just play it cool and see where it goes. I WOULD, however keep it quiet from the other friend unless it becomes something serious. The other friend might feel funny about it so wait until it becomes something more. Maybe it won't so why hurt the other friend unnecessarily?
2007-02-19 12:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Hermione G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right or wrong, the fact is, that you two have feelings for one another, and that is that. I am not sure if he is on the rebound, this is a chance you might be taking should you get involved with this guy. So it's up to you, really, how you want to pursue this.
He does not need to ask permission from his ex regarding his future dating habits, they brOKe up and now it's every ex fiance for him/her self.
I am sure, that unless they have plans to reunite, it's ok for the both of them to start seeing other people, So go ahead, date away.
2007-02-19 12:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your girlfriend first if it would be ok to date him -- she will probably say yes, and will appreciate that you were considerate of her feelings. It is still pretty soon after breaking up, and there are still likely to be lingering feelings between them, even if they both agree it's for the best not to be together. That shouldn't be a problem if you are not the paranoid or jealous type.
2007-02-19 12:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by David T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong. If you have to ask, you know it's wrong. There are 6 billion people in the world! Leave this one alone!!! Your potential for a great relationship with this guy will always be overshadowed by guilt. I think right now he is attractive BECAUSE he should be off limits.
2007-02-19 12:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Carol C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although technically its alright, since she did break up with him and therefore doesn't have a right to be jealous, you should wait a bit before going out with him since it could still spark some negative feelings in her. It has, after all, only been a few months and she could still be getting over it.
2007-02-19 12:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always do anything about right when it comes to liking someone, but you do have to decide what is most important and best for you. If you lose one friend for another what is going to hurt the most and the longest. Good luck.
2007-02-19 12:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by twogen1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm thats a tough one. You have to be careful of your other mates feelings. If it was mutual it may be ok, but then they may find it really weird to see you two together and it may affect your friendship with them. Perhaps you need to talk to both of them and see how they feel.
It really is something you shouldnt just jump in to, you really need to think long and hard about it and whehter or not gettin with him is worth it.
2007-02-19 12:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by x_kimmy87_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends are you closer to him or to your friend? If he is just an aquaintence put your friend first if he's a close friend then you cant help it. Maybe you should explore these feelings and see where they go. Good Luck
2007-02-19 12:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by sapphireblue327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must not really be your good friend. Even if they are broke up. Come on December?! That is one thing you dont do. Forbidden area
2007-02-19 12:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by VEROMEX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong. That's not saying that your friend will necessarily be happy for you. I'd let the relationship develop slowly and see how your friend seems to feel about it. Don't let her feelings deter you from a relationship, though; it's your life.
2007-02-19 12:10:49 · answer #11 · answered by kaitlyn.roberts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋