Last night i'm with this new girl i'm dating,her and her 2 kids myself and my daughter,we went for pizza.I paid for everything the pizza,drinks, games etc.There was some left over so she tells me i'm going to drop off me son at his dads house,get 2 boxes for the leftovers so i got the boxes and we left.As were leaving she says follow me 2 go drop him off,then she says let me have one of the boxes i'm going to take him some pizza(meaning her ex).Now do u think I have a right to be mad, i feel a little disrespected she wants to give him some of the food I bought.I 'm not a cheapskate or anything but I don't feeel that was right.What do you think?
2007-02-19 12:04:46 · 22 answers · asked by angels and airwaves 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it was pretty rude of her. I do not think that I would ask her out again.Next thing you know, she may have him at your next dinner date. You are not overreacting.
2007-02-19 12:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I want to say you are a gentlemen for buying pizza for everyone. A lot of other guys would have said "Sounds like you have a problem". Well, she was dropping off her son at her ex-hubby's house. I think it is fair to assume she wanted some pizza so her son could eat. Perhaps her ex is a lousy cook or is short on cash. I would excuse this with a follow up like, I hope you son enjoyed the extra pizza. If it was the other way around and she wanted to drop off leftovers for the heck of it, then you have a right to be upset. I could see how you would feel disrespected at the time.
2007-02-19 20:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt get to nutsed up about it just yet. Maybe the guys sick or doesnt have much food in the house. If this continue's on then I would just ask the girl what the deal is. Could be that he's just lazy and a schmuck. If she tells you to drop it, I'd tell her that what she's doing is playing to her ex's immaturity level. If she still thinks your over reacting, I'd politely end it. No guy likes to know that the ex. is still high on the scale of importance.
2007-02-19 20:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a nice gesture on her part. Shes dropping her kid off and just wanted to give the guy a bite to eat.
Did she hang out with you after? Did you two have fun? Did she treat you well the entire evening? And yet you still simmer over this? :)
I say, be grateful that you have found a woman who is thoughtful even to her ex, and be happy to share old leftovers. It makes you a better person that way, and the ex was probably happy to have something simple to heat up with his son.
2007-02-19 20:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she using the pizza as a way to tell him - someone likes me and bought me so much pizza that I can give some to you? Or is it that he's so poor that he needs the food? Or will the Dad feed it to their son the next day?
Don't over think the problem - just keep your eyes open.
2007-02-19 20:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking she just wanted to leave some pizza for her son. You had some leftovers for your daughter, and she gave some to her son. Maybe just leave it at that. You can be on the lookout for more signs that she is taking advantage, but right now you look like the kind and generous guy.
2007-02-19 20:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Carol C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess you had a little right, because the way you explained it she just kinda thought it was ok and decided to do it.
buton the other hand its really not that big of a deal... its only pizza and maybe she thought itd be a nice gesture to give her ex some food.
but i can understand why you would be mad, you have every right too.
2007-02-19 20:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by failure_by_design 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, you have a right to be mad. cuz YOU paid for that and the EX doesnt deserves any iof your well earned pizza. i have 2 kids too, and if i went on a date with my new dude i wouldnt take my EX any food, cuz he is an ex for a reason. i personnally wouldnt care if any of my ex's just starved. if you need to talk or anything... email me@ nomikaelias@yahoo.com
2007-02-19 20:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Oo.HopelessRomantic.oO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time only buy for yourself and your daughter. You don't want to be seen solely as the provider. If you pay for everything all the time, she's just going to walk all over you, unless you've been seeing each other for a long time and this is an anomoly for you, paying for everything. You want her to like you for you, not for your ability to spend money on her and her kids.
2007-02-19 20:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by more_brains_than_brawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long have you been with her??? If its a new relationship then you should feel a little hurt but maybe she was just trying to make sure her kid had food for the night u know??? Good Luck in your relationship.
2007-02-19 20:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by sapphireblue327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does sound kind of messed up. How close is she with her ex? I mean this is her child's father. It maybe just a good gesture. Who did she go back to at the end of the night you or her ex?
2007-02-19 20:10:12 · answer #11 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋