How would you have replied?

Question

I have just had a text message from an ex-girlfriend have not seen for 6 years.
“I want to let you know that I still love”

I don’t was my answer

Was I horrible?

I don’t love her and I moved on, but it still hurts saying that to her!

I loved her and i did not text this message to hurt her. I just did not have anything else to say and i did not want to ignore her. Saying thank you, i appreciate it etc would mislead her and i really would not want to do that.
Thank you all for your answers

Answer 1

You will never go wrong when you are truthful. People have a hard time with the truth sometimes, but they have even a harder time with being lied to. You spoke from the heart and represented yourself honestly when you said what you did to her. You were up-front and definite and gave a clear answer or reply about which there could be very little confusion. If she is kind she will let go and that will be the end of it. Love cannot be reconstructed. You did the right thing. If love is not naturally flowing between two people it can not be manufactured to fit the occasion. It is not a commodity you can click on or click off. It is almost like a pre-existing condition. The chemistry is already there or it isn't. If it is, there is very little you can do to stop it, and if it is not there - or no longer there - there is equally very little you can do to create it. I admire you for being so honest with her. If people were that honest with one another, even when the message is difficult, there would be far less heartache in the world. Heartache occurs when you know the other person has not told you the truth about himself (or herself) or that you have been lied to. When trust breaks down between people, it takes a tremendous effort to find it again.

Answer 2

Dont feel bad for telling her the truth, you cant lie to spare her feelings because you will only hurt her more in the end.
Being honest with her was the best thing you could do.
It hurts because there most likely is still something there and you still care about her in a way just not the way you used to. And you telling her that was the best thing you could have done.

Answer 3

Bit blunt wasn't it? Perhaps you could text back and say sorry to be blunt but you have moved on. She may be going through a hard time.
I think you recognise that it was a bit hurtful from your reaction.
It is not inconceiveable to be still in love with someone after several relationships. I could say that I was still in love with my ex-girlfriend even though we had both moved on to new relationships. I met a guy who I am v happy with, but in the early days I can honestly say that I still yearned for her. She just knows how to push my buttons. Maybe it's like that with your ex?

Answer 4

The truth always hurts... but better 4 it 2 be said. U hav moved on stick 2 ur promises to ur gf

Answer 5

It will still hurt but it's better to be honest with her than mess her around, after six years I would have expected you to have moved on it makes me wonder why she hadn't moved on or had she and was on the rebound

Answer 6

6 years is a long time, she must be a bit big headed to think you've put your life on hold for all that time and just waited for her to get in touch. I think you did the right thing

Answer 7

Maybe you shouldnt have been so blunt about it but letting her know that you know longer have feelings for her is the best thing you could have done. Not lead her on. Good Luck

Answer 8

It's much better to be honest then to lead her on. I might have added sorry to let her know you care about her feelings still even though you don't feel the same for her.

Answer 9

i know how u feel ,ex got in touch with me but like you say you have moved on ,
I had met a nicer guy and was getting married in few months when it happened ,I maybe still think about him but i definatley made the right choice.

Answer 10

After 6 years of no contact I find it a little scary and being blunt would be best. Blunt but still polite.

I don't is a fine answer.