The guys in my gym class tease me because I am a little more effeminate than they are. It is not like I am gay or anything. Bi if you must know. Anyway, I have recently become a little more interested in some of the guys who tease me. Today I got in trouble for putting my fingers somewhere I shouldn't have. He did have underwear on though, it was only for a second, and I have seen him do it to other boys- but they don't consider themselves gay. Is it wrong that I was "excited" while I did it? Should I really be suspended from school just because of an involuntary, innocent sexual response? Please advise.
2007-02-19 12:00:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um, yes just the same as if u put 2 fingers on a girls nipple with her bra on for just 2 sec.
If it was unwelcoming than, don't do it.
Is it wrong that I was "excited" while I did it? That's something u have 2 decide, but i think u probable got suspended for the act, not how it made u feel.
2007-02-19 12:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Miss C.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal, but you need to learn some self-control.
Experiementing with sexuality is ok.
Being curious is ok.
Looking is ok.
Fantasizing is ok.
Talking about it is ok.
Being "excited" is ok.
Touching people without their permission is NEVER ok. It doesn't matter what this boy does with other people, if he didn't specifically tell you that you could touch him, then you shouldn't have done it. Your school was completely correct in their actions for this behavior--you touched someone in a sexual manner without their permission--and that is basically sexual assault. At most schools, suspension is the standard punishment for a mild sexual assault like this.
However, the guys in your gym class are out of line for teasing you for the way you appear to them. This is a form of bullying and sexual harassment that many bisexual and gay students endure. You do not have to put up with it. Most schools have rules that prevent people from teasing or discriminating against others for race, gender, and sexual preference. I've included some websites you may find helpful in dealing with this behavior.
2007-02-19 20:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by avast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the lesson I'd hope you'd learn from this is that fingers are not involuntary parts of the body. You are responsible for your own behavior. If the other kids do the same thing, I'm sorry you got into trouble over it, but you shouldn't touch people sexually without their permission.
2007-02-19 20:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not about being normal or abnormal, but you didnt have a right to do that. And if this guy does it to other people may they muck around or they dont mind but you cant just go stick your hand where you dont know if its wanted. If he reported it then you should be suspended because obviously he didnt feel comfortable and wasnt happy about the way you went about things. Maybe next time you should try talking to the guy and seeing if his interested in you before you go making moves on people like that. Its not abnormal to be attracted or turned on by someone from the same sex just make sure you dont make a move like you did unless you know they want you to.
2007-02-19 20:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal, yes but put your fingers where you shouldn't that is wrong, men a lot of times have feelings for themselves it is caused by some hormones if you let them guide you'll thinking you're crazy you wouldn't believe the way you'll be thinking about men, but you' re only gay if you admit to yourself
2007-02-19 20:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by carl z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A normal straight guy? No. A normal bisexual guy? I wouldn't know. But that is sexual harassment. If any of the boys told on him for doing it he would get in trouble. The chances are they know you are bi and told on you because of it.
2007-02-19 20:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Scrappy Doo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bi or not. No one really has the right to touch anyone else like that, EVER. I am not even sure what you did. It doesnt matter if its guy on guy, girl on girl, girl on guy, or guy on girl. you get the picture. its sexual harassment, & if you saw them do it then they obviously are jokingly friends & were completely bothered when you did it. I dont think you are weird. Just you need to control yourself.
Haha I am like obsessed with rainbows =D
2007-02-19 20:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
By your admission, you are not "straight".
Straights are not gays, and are not bi's...gays are not bi's, and are not straights..just the way you are neither nor.
Don't repeat what you did..that was YOUR mistake, and you better be glad that you are a kid..because an adult would face more than a suspension.
Any major dude would tell you.
2007-02-19 20:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well um i dont know.your question was some what confusing.
just cuz u touch some one u shouldnt be suspended. they must not understand you and they probably dont want to.its your life, if u wanna touch someone go ahead just remember, sometimes you will get yourself in trouble.
2007-02-19 20:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Little1forLyfe!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well wow ok um you shouldnt be suspended you were just expressing yourself no that isnt bad that is just who you are
2007-02-19 20:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by turttle_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋