I have been dating my boyfriend now for a year and 4 months. I love him but 5 years ago i slept with someone else. I've kept this a secret because i regret it very much. My boyfriend and I have had sex. He was a virgin when i met him he thinks i am too. Is this bad that i am hiding this from him? I wish i never lost my virginity at 14 it was a mistake is what I'm hiding from him wrong?
i just feel it's nobody's business what I did in my past relationships is this bad that I'm hiding this?
2007-02-19 11:50:12 · 9 answers · asked by LiL Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry, it's your secret to keep forever. Don't tell him, there's no reason to.
2007-02-19 11:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to tell him now, but if things progress (say you date for a year) you should get it out in the open. You don't want to go through life with that hanging over your head. But either way, it might not matter to him.
But if he always talks about that you two both lost your virginity together, you should tell him. It could cause some tension between you two, but better to know today how well you can work things out.
Good luck, and know that you're not the first girl out there to have this problem. There are lots of others right now, I'm sure.
2007-02-19 20:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nobodies business but yours, but if you told him that you where a virgin and you where not, then yes this is bad. I hate to say this but this happen to me. At first it bothered me but then I just got over it, yes it sucked and yes I was mad, but what can I do. I still had feeling for her even though she lied to me about being a virgin.
2007-02-19 19:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. This is a toughie.
I'd say, you don't have to as long as you have no STDs, but then I think about HIV/AIDS. You can transmit this without even knowing you have it.
You may want to bring it up (sorry!). BUT if you're REALLY opposed, get tested to make SURE you don't have it. I think he'll be more upset if you don't tell him and then he gets HIV 'cuz you messed around when you were younger.
Best of luck to you.
2007-02-19 19:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never do that again.you should be a virgin until you are married,no matter what the cercumstances.you arent now,so just at least dont ever do that again!
2007-02-19 19:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by HersheyKiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pffft you'll probably break up with him next week anyways so why should you worry about it?
2007-02-19 19:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by trancemix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not really a big deal, none of his buisness, that was then this is now
2007-02-19 19:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you think would be best. what do you think will happen if you tell him?
2007-02-19 19:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't ask then don't tell.
2007-02-19 19:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋