There are two guys in my life both completely unrelated, they don't even know each other. Since I met them these guys have been using me for sex only, cheating on their girlfriends with me (while telling me they're SINGLE!!), taking advantage of me, and not caring about my personal feelings whatsoever. Both are very attractive, and not exactly intelligent but clever and charismatic.
The problem is I am incredibly attracted to both of them. No matter how badly they treat me I just can't get enough of them because when I"m with them they use their charm and I'm hooked.
When I write to my friend about them it's all I talk about and I can fill up 10 pages saying how much I hate them and all the horrible stuff they do, and then they will call and I will immediately rush out to see them.
Why do I keep doing this to myself? There are 2 other decent, sweet guys that like me but I just keep doing back to these two.
WHYYY??
2007-02-19 11:49:41 · 3 answers · asked by GCTA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They know that I'm not monogamous with them and i'm not dating either of them.
the part that hurts is that they dont care that i'm seeing other people
2007-02-19 12:26:11 · update #1
Why indeed? Why are you choosing to be the victim, when you know you are being lied to? Sounds like you have SERIOUS self esteem issues so even though you know what these guys say to you is insincere, you figure it's better to hear pretty lies than nothing at all.
Seek counseling for your self esteem issues soon. You need to be able to love yourself,so you can detach yourself from destructive and unhealthy relationships like this.
2007-02-19 11:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but aren't you doing the same thing? You are cheating , lying and using these two gentlemen as well. Unless they are aware that you are not monogamous. Try taking a self esteem class or check out your nearest womens shelter. You can learn alot listening to women who repeat the same cycle that you are in. Good Luck
2007-02-19 12:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are charming and cute. any girl would chase them because they are also bad boys. worse still, your facing them on your own. what you need is to learn to say no. and a friend to help you resist. preferrably a male friend or another girl might be asked to join. if you want to hurt them back tell their girlfriends whats been going on. remember, they are humiliating and using you and they dont care. dump them and move on.
2007-02-19 12:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋