In no way whatsoever do I mean this to be vain, I honestly need some advice.
I am an attractive 20 year old college student and I pay for college by modeling. I have never thought of beauty to be anything other than a way to get money for tuiton and a mild annoyance. I prize my mind and my academic studies.... but the problem is that I have a lot of trouble meeting people.
People always assume I would have tons of guys asking me out and hitting on me, which does indeed happen... but it is extremly rare for a guy to actually pursue me beyond a half-attempt pick up line. I have talked to my male friends about this, as well as some of my exs, and they all say its because my looks can be intimidating. They said that guys may assume i either wouldnt be interested, that im involved, or that they werent good enough. How can I get around this? I dont play up my looks unless im working, and i am down to earth. How can I make other people see that without me having to prove it?
2007-02-19 11:30:30 · 5 answers · asked by Ave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I just want you to know that I don't have an answer for you but I thought it would make you feel better that you are not alone on this. I have the same problem. Despite other people telling you that it sure would be nice to have this "problem" in life, it is far from nice. Everywhere I go I am stared at, whistled at, I've had to have tunnel vision everywhere because eye contact and a smile with a man I don't know would probably get me followed home! I do not have a boyfriend. Everyone assumes that I already do and date all the time. So good luck to you in your quest for the answer and thanks for posting this question so I don't have to!
2007-02-19 11:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try looking for men who are a little older and more self-confident. Of course there's all the stuff about smiling (you wouldn't believe how much that changes the dynamic) and showing interest in them as people. anyway, good luck.
2007-02-19 19:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That a toughie question. You are absolutely right....It is intimidating to average looking guys. It causes my courage to hit an all time low, also. Just can't seem to get the ol' tongue to say anything, much less the right thing. I guess just consider yourself to be blessed, even though its tough....I sorta wish I had that problem.....LOL Good luck!
2007-02-19 20:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be prideful, and that combined with good looks might scare a lot of guys off.
2007-02-19 19:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by justanotheruser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice and friendly to people
2007-02-19 19:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋