can religion disrupt a loving relationship?

Question

I am a 25 year hindu guy who loves a beautiful 21 year muslim girl.and she loves me too.we are madly in love and i cant imagine life without her.the only thing coming between us is whether her parents would accept me or not as i am a hindu.I am ready to go to any extremes for that because i love her so much .Her constant fear of this problem has really shattered me but i would not give up , so i am asking u guys ,please suggest me something to handle this situation. i cant see her getting hurt.I know its her parents and i respect that for which i am going to beg them for their approval.I only have a mother and a younger brother, who both love me and support my decision about her.But she (my love) has started to feel shivers of the situation and i cant bear that,so please ,please suggest and hope for us........ Thank you.

Answer 1

Yes, religion can disrupt even the most loving of relationships...especially when one of the religions is very specific on inter-religious marriage. In Islam, a Muslim man is allowed to marry outside of Islam as long as the woman is a Jew or Christian(or anyone else considered to be "People of the Book"). However, a Muslim woman is only permitted to marry another Muslim man. Unless one of you converts, then it will be extremely difficult to either get her parents permission or agree on how to raise your children. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Being on the same page with religion is the best foundation for a solid, enduring marriage. Islam is a way of life, a culture, a way to exist in the world....not just a religion. You've got an uphill battle with a devoted Muslim and you're going to have to seriously consider either converting or she needs to be willing to be an outcast from her family. A depressing outlook, but you need to be realistic. I suggest doing a lot of research on Islamic beliefs and laws so you know what you're up against. Good luck.

Answer 2

Young man, do yourself a small favour, go to the hills and look at the world, It is so beautiful with blue mountains, clouds and the sky, the carpet of flowers and the musical streams flowing even as the tender sun has started to blossm the buds. Isnt this beutiful? Be brave forget the relationship. But be a good friend. Even if you marry with ll odds, none of you will be happy, because of the vast difference in culture. With your elders from both sides hating you your life shall be misserable. Now the greatness in you is make the girl to understand this fact. And allow every one to live happily. Good Luck

Answer 3

a religion doesnt disrupt love its the people who disrupt it. if the girl loves u n u love her n r ready to do anything to make her happy thn better discuss abt ur religion change because muslims always want the opposite person to convert. but we hindus usually dont. but thts here or there. if ur family accepts her n if they dont have any prob with ur religion conversion u can try then u can get married to her. this is the only way there is a solution for ur prob all the best think abt this both of u n then take a decision.

Answer 4

We are the people created GOD and religion:Even though the Muslim law is not permitting other religious people to marry them: So YOU HAVE TO BECOME A MUSLIM: I am a elder man in 55+: I have seen this kind of marriages in many of my friends and relatives families: To my experience and consequences I am watching, this kind of marriage is not suitable to us ( mainly in southern states of India). The life of our children, attachment with the grand parents, the relationship with our relations & etc will not be normal and smooth as in other marraiges:

Getting success and living a comfortable life is entirely different:
We can make success without the old tradtion in life:

Anyhow think and decide:

Answer 5

I have been married for 11 years to a hindu and I am christian and there was a lot of rejection on his side and I want to tell you something 11 years on nothing has changed......we just hate eachothers family and I really dont know how we manage this situation.Its been difficult and my sincere advice to you....... walk on one day this will be a distant memory but if you persist you are asking for a life time of trouble.once the children come along and the marriage has grown old you will feel very isolated and alone,I've been there believe me..........its no easy life.we indians are not yet open to inter religion marriages.you will survive dont worry.

Answer 6

OK well traditionally the guy would convert to her religion. In all honesty, as far as I'm concerned god is god, no matter what religion you enter. The real differences in each religion is the culture, man written rules and specifics about the religion. I'm not saying because of that it should be easy, but I'm saying you don't have to abandon your belief's to change religion.

So I'm saying, become Muslim. As long as its not the extremist bull **** (sorry i used to be in the military).

If you cant do this, i wouldn't suggest taking the relationship any further. good luck

Answer 7

If you both could sit and think calmly with mutual exchanges in detail that the love is just beyond the fantasy of physical or other attractions then certainly you both shall be able convince the parents concerned about leading a life beyond shackles of just formality driven religion.

Answer 8

Neither Islam religion nor Hindu culture permits such marriage, only option is Special Marriage Act wherein religion/caste is immaterial, or a party should convert to other's religion.

Hinduism is not a religion. Hinduism is a culture, custom, tradition, usage, rite, etc. A Hindu is born as Hindu in Hindustan (India) alone who adopts and practices it.
Muslims firmly believe and strictly practice the teachings/commands of their holy book Quran & their Prophet, which is their Code of Life at all times/places. They have the written, clear and unambiguous teachings to guide righteous or wrongs, pious or evil, fair or unfair, etc. Islam strictly forbids corruption, bribery, dishonesty, unwed sexual activities, telling a lie, theft, murder, injuring bodily/mentally, pre/extra marital sexual relations, inequality among people, etc. Islam commands rights of women, neighbors, animals, relatives, general public, etc. Muslims follow them blindly in matters of responsibilities, liabilities, rights, daily life, marriage, private & public relation, business, trade, earning & spending, etc. and do the righteous and refrain from bad. Anybody may read, satisfy, accept and practice it.

Answer 9

I don't think anything, even family, should get in the way of true love. But what i think doesn't matter. If you guys really love each other you will work it out, and her parents should agree with you in the end. I really hope it all works out. Good luck.

Answer 10

My freind, i am not very sceptic about the whole thing but yes ur love's fear are not to be ignored. seeing the current situations yes there can be problem in the later stage of ur marraige. Either u can do one thing you can request ur gf to accept your relegion or you accept her's. I think then her parents will have no objection. so check this out.