Need advice: I think I have aspergers but my parents are in denial?

Question

I have been doing alot of research on autism and aspergers and I am almost certain that I have aspergers. I told my parents but they refuse to believe me, and just say that I am a "normal person who just happens to be intoverted and quirky". Thus they avoid the very possibility, though even if I did have aspergers would it really affect my current life that much at all? What's their problem? And what should I do to get them to understand, and prove wether I really have aspergers or not?

What should I do?

I don't think my parents want me to get diagnosed, they probably won't take me to a doctor...

Answer 1

seek help at school

Answer 2

I am in a similar situation - I might or might not have it. Did all online tests I could find, asked my friends and everythings points towards Aspergers. If you have it (even as a very mild form) it generally means that your social skills (alongside some other things) are very different to other people. I guess I am myself am too old now to be properly diagnosed as usually its done around the age of 3, but does that lack of information on grown ups means they can't have it?
I guess your parents just have known you all your life and accept you the way you are and cannot see anything wrong with you. Thats what parents do. Ask around, friends, distant relatives, see what they think.
Knowing that you are different isn't always a good thing but aspergers doesn't need to affect your current life - as long as YOU know about it, you can develop your own strategies to get through life happy.

Answer 3

Parents can be in all kinds of denial when it comes to their child. They may feel that they "failed" somehow making them a "bad" parent or, they do the "not my child" thing -- like lie to themselves about their child's drug addiction (even with evidence right under their noses) I don't kow why they do it, but they do. As a parent myself, I would consider myself a horrible parent if I sat back and did nothing!
If I were you, and you are really concerned that you are not just introverted and quirky, I would answer the following questions as honestly as I could and then take those questions and answers to your counselor at school. He/she can be a real asset in helping you. The questions are:
1.) Do you have MAJOR deficiencies in social skills? Being quiet and shy now and then is more normal than not.
2.) Do you have difficulties with change and prefer things to always be the same?
3.) Do you have obsessive routines that make you completely preoccupied with a particular thing?
4.) Do you have a great deal of difficulty reading nonverbal cues (body language) or difficulty in giving people you are with enough personal space?
5.) Are you overly sensitive to sounds, tastes, smells, and sights? Like, do you want ONLY soft clothing, certain foods? Are you bothered by sounds or lights no one else seems to hear or see?
The only thing that is important to remember is that a person with Asperger's sees the world very differently. A lot of behaviors that seem "odd" and "unusual" are caused by the neurological differences that can be proven through testing and not the result of intentionally being rude or showing bad behavior.
I highly doubt it would affect the rest of your life much differently as far as who you are and what you do when you get older. Good luck!

Answer 4

If you had aspergers, you would not be on here asking people this question. Even if you were a high functioning person with aspergers, your parents would obviously know something is wrong, not you. You would thing you are normal. You would have a very extreme, and excessive obsession. Your doctor, teachers, and other people would have thought something is wrong. Because you are doing research on it, your brain starts picking even the tiniest traits in yourself to be symptoms of aspergers. Believe your parents.

Answer 5

You poor thing. It is hard when parents don't understand or are in denial and you think that there is a problem. The next time they take you to a doctor, have a list of questions and start asking the doctor. He/she will take you seriously and see to it you get help. Also, talk to your school counselor. I hope you get the help you deserve. God bless you.

Answer 6

believe it or not im in a similier sitiuation too, but im 22 years old. i have been assessed (age 21) and it came back as very likely im an Aspie. theres not a doubt in my mind as to that anyway
btu my parents will not accept im an aspie. they would much rather thinkg that im a normal person who cant be bothered to try and fit in rather than think for a second that that might not be the case
they think because id seen several psychiatrists at school that this one has it wrong..... but those school psychiatrists didnt assess me for aspergers they were checking if my braiin was functioning properly by seeing if i could do different puzzles on cards and the speed at which i did it at. i was never asked about any other aspects of my life or tested on what eye facial expressiosn i can recognize for example this is one test the latest one gave me (just sets of eyes and eyebrows with different options to choose from next to it what the emotion could be) i didnt know even one of them. i was asked to guess but it was a matter of doing ibble obble black bobble ibble obble out and picking that one for an answer as i didnt have any clue whatsoever.
i dont think theres anything i can do to convince my parents im not deliberatly tying not to fit in. my dress sense is probably non existant i live my life in jeans and t shirts with the american flag on them and i wear a fully covering american flag when i go out which i dont think thers a problem with its red white and blue just as my mums coat is brown. i wear it cos i love it and i like being close to it at all times and it makes me feel happy and comfortable. my mum thinks i wear it because i am doing some sort of protest against ppl that dont like the USA and because im seeking after attention (she says people look at me in the street and stare at me.). she just doesnt understand my need to have it with me. she doesnt understand my love for the flag and in fact anything much about my life and what i do

Answer 7

Go to a doctor who specializes in Autism, and Asperger's or see a neurologist.

Answer 8

Our son who is 10 has Aspergers and it was first brought to our attention by the principal because someone from the AEA saw my son and asked about who was the boy with Aspergers? At that time we didn't know. Maybe you could talk tith your principal and she could discuss it with your parents.

Answer 9

I would suggest talking to your school counselor or school nurse first. They may be able to get you more info and even help you talk to your parents. Im sure they would know about any additional free testing as well.
With a counselor on your side, im sure you can at least get your parents to take you for a docs appt.
Good luck! Hope it all works out for the best!

Answer 10

many conditions have similarities to other conditions, and also most everyone if they looked, could place themselves in some type of condition,,,,,,,,, you would really need the diagnosis of a specialist,,,,,,, some of the signs that might be /lean towards aspergers would be inability to socialize with others,,,,,, fixation on one thing,,,,,,,,, its much more pronounced then just the normal teen moods and feelings, shyness,,,,,, trends etc,

Answer 11

go to a doctor that can diagnose it or not