ok..i just started dating my boyfriend today and he already gave me a RING. we're in middle school,8th grade, and it has crystals,a topaz(or something like that) and 4 or 5 REAL diamonds! i love it so much, but i ALMOST feel like it's rushing..but i don't want to give it back becuz i dont want to make him feel bad! and i really don't mind wearing it...i guess it just feels a little weird..will i get over it? or what?
2007-02-19 10:38:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know him REALLY well, he would NEVER steal it from someone
2007-02-19 10:49:34 · update #1
I think you are right to feel this way and it shows that you have good character. Always listen to that tiny voice in you that tells you when something feels right or wrong. I know it's hard but don't ever ignore it because it will never steer you wrong.And as for the ring tell him the truth and how you feel because things may get rushed way faster than you are ready to take them.Always be true to yourself and don't deny your feelings or judgements on situations because it sounds like you have good instincts you should go with your gut on this one.Don't rush into anything.
2007-02-19 10:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by lonesome4calle11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only in 8th grade, you really don't no if you love this guy or not. If you don't give the ring back you are just leading him on and if you end up not liking him and you kept the ring you look like a gold digger. I would give it back to him and say that you are moving to fast and you need to slow down and if he gets mad at you for that then he isn't a good boyfriend.
2007-02-19 18:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by John Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy the ring but don't let him use his gift to you or pressure you into other things that you might not be ready for. Especially in 8th grade. You will find out soon enough if those were his reasons for giving you the ring. Go with your head, not the heart.
2007-02-19 18:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel weird about it then you should tell him that and offer to give the ring back. Also, how well do you know the guy? Are you sure that the ring was his to give? You could tell him that you will wear the ring as a symbol of your dating but that if anything should happen and you break up that the ring goes back to him.
2007-02-19 18:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by thebaddad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what kind of ring if it is just a normal ring, then you will probably get spoiled in the relantionship, but if it a promise ring, then you have to be worried cause that ring means that you 2 will stay together forever. Yea, but if it is just a normal gift ring then there is nothing to worry about, most young bf like to buy stuff at once, i don't why but they do.
but ask one of his close friends or him prefering, and ask him if it is a promise, you don't have to lie about anything, you love the ring, you just want to know if it is a promise rign or not, and let him know you love it.
Promise rings are not good in young relantioships cause they are not all the way matured and may change on the way.
so yea, by bf tired to give a Promise ring, but I wasen't ready but we are still going out, so let him know you love the ring.
Good Luck!!!
2007-02-19 18:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving you a right like that is way too much. He is basically telling you that he things you are a wh0re and can be bought by giving you nice things. Sorry but that's just the truth. Some guys try that and if the girl has any self esteem he gets his stuff thrown back at him. You will find a nice guy but at your age its too fast for him to be giving you a ring.
2007-02-19 18:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jewelry is no big deal unless is comes with an understanding. Ask him what he means by it. If it's a promise ring (meaning to stay together and followed by an engagement ring), that has a bit of weight attached to it which you may or may not be OK with. If it's just a shiny gift with no other intention, then all is well as well.
2007-02-19 18:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Snickle Beast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? 14? honey, you should be enjoying your life as a young lady and free to hang with friends. you know commitment like this will take away so much of your young life and beleive me when you get older, you will wish you had time to be 14. And othe Q is, I asume he is same ages as you are. Did you stop and think where he came up with the money to buy a ring like that??? Just give it back and you will be much happier. good luck.
2007-02-19 19:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by St T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is too soon. I wouldn't wear a real diamond ring that a guy i JUST started dating gives me. I would ask him why are you giving this to me now. I love it, but it's too soon. I would suggest he hold on to it for me until an anniversary or something.
2007-02-19 18:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh... wow. That's pretty intense. Well, tell him that you love the ring and everything, but he can chill for a while because your all his. Tell him you're not going anywhere XD. He probably really wants a relationship with you because that's a huuge step.
2007-02-19 18:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anodyne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋