Were you "Spanked" as a child?

Question

Or did your parents have other punishments for you? What were they?

Answer 1

I was staying with my aunt and uncle for a week when i was about 11 and i gave my aunt some cheek one night before bed.
well she told my uncle when he come in from work and the next morning he said i hear you was rude last night, i didn't answer just gave him a sour look so he said do you want a smacked bum well i fort he's just give me a slap on it so i said i don't care so he said stand up so i did well he pulled my nightie up pulled down my knickers and paddled my bare bum in front of my aunt and my 3 cousins. i was not amused but i never cheeked my aunt again.

Nowadays as a adult i love to be spanked

Answer 2

No, I was never spanked. My parents used talking and discussion, and if nothing else worked, they would take my favorite toy away, or they didn't let me watch my favorite TV show, and I was well behaved student, and an honors student later on. Now I have a stable job and I'm in a loving marriage, and perfectly normal, so I believe that spanking is a brutal and barbaric punishment, when other methods work just as well, if not better.

Answer 3

Absolutely! And I was not traumatized by it at all. My parents had the belief of "spare the rod, spoil the child", and I was better for it. There is a difference between spanking/discipline and a fist in the face/anger. The latter would be abuse. If being spanked has taught me anything, it was to respect my elders and to have manners. And I think the world needs a whole lot of that out of our kids these days.

Answer 4

Yes, I was spanked, but only as a last resort. My parents always used sending me to my room or taking away priveledges first. I was always more worried about disappointing them than anything. My husband and I are raising our daughter the same way. For the most part, it works nicely. She isn't afraid of us, but she knows that if she steps over the line, we will spank if needed. We leave it up to her, though. She knows that if she CHOOSES to break certain rules, she has CHOSEN to get a spanking. She's 6, though. We didn't start doing this til she was about 4 or 4 1/2 years old. She needed to be old enough to understand actions and consequences.

Answer 5

My mom was abused as a child so she made sure I wasn't abused. But I did get the occasional spanking. I can probably count the number of times I was spanked on one hand, but when I got one I KNEW I was in BIG TROUBLE and that in itself made me sorry, that I was so bad my mom was giving me a spanking when I knew that was the worst punishment in HER mind. I felt bad for being in such big trouble.
Other times I would get grounded or she would take my bike away. Find out what they like.

Another thing that my friend does with her son, and it works pretty well, is they sat down and made a list of treats like going to McDonalds or going out for ice cream, or being allowed time to ride his bike, buy a new toy, and he has to have good behavior to earn those treats. I saw that super nanny show or whatever it's called using the same system for a devil-child and the mom said it worked.

If the kid does chores and is polite and does what his parents tell him, he gets good points. If he throws a tantrum or gets put in time out he loses points. When he has enough points he can spend them on one treat like getting read a bedtime story, or maybe you can let him save up his good points for something he really wants like a remote controlled Batmobile or a trip to Chuck E Cheese or whatever they're into these days. It works for my friend's boy with ADD, and Super Nanny on TV uses it all the time.

You have to speak in a language kids can hear. Find out what's important to them and explain to them that part of being a big kid is learning how to behave right or you don't get what you want.

With teenagers, "Because I said so" stops working and logical reasoning works better. Talk to them like a person and explain to them WHY you don't want them doing something, or why they shouldn't want to do something to themselves out of self respect.

Answer 6

I was spanked a lot and I swore that when I have children, I would never spank them. I feel that I grew up very well though and I would never abused my children. I have to admit, I am a rule follower and I would never be disrespective towards anyone. Children now days are very disrespective.

Answer 7

Yes I was spanked, I was also beaten, (broken nose, nerve and muscle damage in left eye, left cheek bone fractured, scars on upper part of my legs from a belt beating) I was also verbally and emotionally abused. All it "taught" me wast total lack of respect for my parents and resentment for putting me through such pain.

Answer 8

Yep. Spanked, beat, and other wise humiliated in any fashion avaliable. I will never spank my son. I never thought "this is wrong I shouldn't do this" I thought "I'll get beat if I do this" and I want my child to understand right and wrong not beat and not beat.

Answer 9

yes..

belts, wooden spoons, slippers, hand and a few times during my brief stint in religious school - cane.

other parental punishment favourite was the 'penalty box' this weird little hollow between the walls - maybe a foot wide.. sounds a lot more traumatic than it was..

Answer 10

Yes, I was. And turned out just fine. I spank my 3 year old daughter when she is out of hand. I do not "beat" her by any means, she only gets spanked when she gets too out of control. Which thank God it doesn't happen very often! but she is very polite, she says please and thankyou and knows her manners. But kids will be kids and they will test your patience.