Hubby and I always get into stupid little spats about meaningless things that we wouldn't argue about otherwise when we are both really overtired or stressed. This doesn't happen often, I was just wondering if other people have this problem and do you have ways that you found works to solve/avoid it?
2007-02-19 10:28:39 · 7 answers · asked by trishay79 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it's normal - you always hurt the ones you love!
But you both need to find an outlet to reduce the stress - maybe take a walk together or a workout session before you settle in for the evening?
Good luck - and try to remember they are not the person that made you so crabby, so try not to be mean to them.
2007-02-19 12:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. Sometimes, without meaning to, you take out your stress and exhaustion on someone who doesn't deserve it. The best thing to do in this situation is to acknowledge what is happening. Think to yourself "this argument really isn't a big deal, I'm just acting this way because.." Once you realize this it's easier to just let the fight go. Think to yourself whether you would be angry about this on a normal day or just a stressful day like today. If you wouldn't normally act like this, stop yourself. Explain to your hubby you had a rough day at work and shouldn't have taken it out on him. He'll understand, I'm sure. Also, be understanding when he does the same. However, do not allow this to become an excuse. It's understandable but only if you are making a solid effort to avoid the fight.
2007-02-19 19:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Love <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it happens all the time. When you are stressed your defenses are up. You can tend to take things personally. Alot of times though the fights could really be about something else. Most of the time it involves money matters. A way to avoid night time rush fighting would be just sit together for 30 minutes as a family. Don't do any housework or cooking in that thirty min. Sit in you hubby's arms on the couch and let your kids play and watch them.Good luck and remember the best part of fighting is the make up sex later.WOO-HOO!!!!!
2007-02-19 18:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely - stress will cause a fight. You're irritated about something and take it out on someone else.
You really need to step outside of yourself and ask why you have anxious feelings. Apologize for any misgivings and state why you snapped. It isn't them you're pissed at, but probably the situation.
Pick your battles. Before you twist off on someone, ask yourself if their "infraction" is really worth the hostility.
Mostly, aguements occur because some expectations arent' being met. Discover the what and why and work TOGETHER to resolve your stress.
2007-02-19 18:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time I had the most stressful job you can imagine. I made my family miserable with my irritability. What I did was the best option for me---I gave 2 weeks notice and I quit! I don't ever plan to work in that field again.
2007-02-19 18:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by NC Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's normal. what we do is every night at dinner we talk about our day. we also have made a habit that no matter what happens before we go to bed we always kiss each other and tell each other i love you, and we NEVER leave the house without saying i love you because you never know what could happen after leaving it could be your last time seeing your loved one. so we make sure that we know how we feel about each other before we leave.
2007-02-19 18:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it has to do with your upbringing and how you handle situations. Just try to focus on the others good qualities and remember they love you.
2007-02-19 18:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋