How would I be able to find my biological dad?

Question

I'm 15 and I've never known my father. My mom and dad supossedly got divorced when I was 3 months so I don't even know what he looks like. I have no desire what so ever do have a close relationship with him, I just want to know who he is and for other personal reasons. My mom says I don't need him because i have my step-dad but I hate him. What should I do in order to find him? Thank you.

I can't look at county stuff because I was born in Philadelphia, PA but I live in Illinois now. My mom says my dad lives in New York with his OTHER kids. But he could've moved. My grandpa from his side told me to visit him(my grandpa not dad) in Costa Rica(my dad is legal though in case your wondering) but I just can't do that.

Oh and by the way I already have a copy of my birth certificate. I know his name I just don't know what to do. My mom knows she just doesn't think hes worth finding. She laughs about it which kind of hurts but whatever.

Answer 1

type his name into people search, that will get you started. good luck. you are still young, and should rethink having him in your life. maybe he can't be a father to you, but a friend.
good luck to you in your life and all you do.

Answer 2

Hi there,

I am the mother of a 13 in a half year old who is in the same situation... Trying to find yourself a support group would probably help you in knowing that u r not alone... Sometimes it is because we do not want to hurt your mom, and mom does not want to see you disappointed in her past choices or what you may find out about your dad..

You do however have that right to know your father and seem mature enough to make good wise decisions where you are concerned... The most important thing here is to keep an open communication with your Mom and also think about how you want to talk to her without hurting her ; yet, you want to be honest and in touch with your feelings and needs.

As for myself, I figure that if that is what my daughter wants then I need to be there for her...I really do not want to lose her either... Wish you all the very best, but keep your eyes open where dad is concerned, I am sure that Mom does not worry for nothing...OK??

Answer 3

Your mom is being hurtful by laughing at you because all kids want to know about their dad and have some contact. This is true 100% of the time - even if the guy is in prison and mistreated his family!
You can go to the library and ask the reference librarian to point you in the direction of some good books about finding people. The librarian might also be able to give you some hints about using the Internet for this.
Actually, the easiest way is to just hire a private detective (kind of expensive but usually it is very easy for them and they do it so quickly that it isn't as expensive as you think). In any case, tell the private detective how much money you have to spend (AFTER you ask him how much he charges). Have an adult with you when you talk to the detective so he takes you seriously.
You actually have a lot of information already to get started with your search. A detective uses a phone and the Internet and is very skilled at things like this.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Honey, you are 15 and do deserve to find out who your real dad is. It doesn't matter whether he's a bum or a president, you still need to know to satisfy your curiosty. You may be in for a big let down, or a big surprise when you do contact him, but that should be your decision. I know you said you hate your step-day, but maybe if you talked with him (if he's any kind of a man)just maybe he might help you find him or contact him. I wish you the best either way you go. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Have you told you mom that there are reasons that you want to know your dad? Maybe she hasn't told you anything because she knows what he is like...just ask her, other wise I would suggest going to the county registrar's office and look at a copy of your birth certificate and get the name that way, and if it is not there then try going to the place where they have marraige liscences and check that way both are in the same building.

Answer 6

I found my biological father when I was about 42. I didn't even know I was adopted until I was in my mid 30's. Found out then that the person who I thought was my oldest sister was actually my biological mother and that my "mother and father" were actually my grandparents.

If you've had no contact with your biological father in all this time don't expect a whole lot. I've met my bio father once, all his "other" kids once and his wife twice. Nice, but no real connection there.

There are all kinds of message boards for adoption and bio parent searchs...good luck!

Answer 7

ok so if you have his name you can do a lot with that because most people are listed... go to google type in people finder, free people finder,email search etc. there should be lots of web sites with the above search... type in his name and see what comes up you should atleast be able to get an address.. good luck with your search

Answer 8

well write to the health departments in both states and then write your grandpa he may know where he is and find him. i know that you must find him i found my parents who didn't raise me and they are now dead. which is good by the way but its seeing them or hearing them talk to be curious nothing more i understand that.

Answer 9

type his name in 192.com
it might come up with him and tell you were he is but it might not so don't get your hopes up. It is a good way of finding people!

Answer 10

let your mom know you want to do this....if not try the internet.....they have people that do these things....also try the hospital you was born in......or look for your birth papers.....good hunting