Why do some women feel it is necessary to coherse their boyfriends into proposing to them? I have never understood this...as a woman myself, I don't want to trick, or hussle my boyfriend into a marriage that he does not want. I really don't want to be married to a man who is #1 - not ready to be married, and #2 - not wanting to marry me.
I have never understood why some women are so infatuated with getting married right away, rather than finding the one true love that exists somewhere, but yet they have to wait for that person to come into their lives.
Help me out, people!
2007-02-19 10:02:13 · 12 answers · asked by Kate 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've never understood it either. It seems to me that coercing a partner into marriage isn't a healthy or productive way to start out a strong marriage, no matter how strong the relationship was before.
2007-02-19 11:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Erika G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of females are raised that way. To grow up and get married and have babies. It's changed quite a bit recently, but some women can behave quite crazy like that.
But generally speaking, it's really not that common as I've seen.
2007-02-19 18:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you NOW, but when I was younger, I rushed into a marriage that I knew was wrong just because I wanted to know I had security. I'm kind of ashamed to say that, especially now that I've found my own pride, but maybe that can help you understand why some women go that route.
2007-02-19 18:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wonderful MIL is like this- has been married twice now but really really wants to get married again. She truly feels that you're nobody unless somebody loves you. It's pathetic, isn't it?
Also, she loves the attention of a wedding but isn't really prepared for a good marriage.
2007-02-19 20:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. They sound desperate. I think on the majority you will find they are the ones who are living with the guy, and may already have a child, and then still can't figure out why he doesn't want to get married. They don't get it...
2007-02-19 22:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my situation I have been with my bf for 3 years and I am 20 years old and in no hurry, neither is. There is plenty of time for us. Our families however push us about it constantly. Maybe some give into it and it almost makes you feel like there is something wrong with you like why wont he ask me? But just ignore what everyone says and do what makes you happy.
2007-02-19 18:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Smelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand that either but I know some girls say they are not going to be in a relationship for many years without any commitment. So maybe that's it. I'm engaged and never pressured of asked to be a wife.
2007-02-19 18:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by I'm Married!!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well we have been together for 5 years and he was trying to guilt me into a marriage. i feel that now is an acceptable time in our lives to proceed so i proposed.
2007-02-19 19:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! It will almost never end well if you guilt your boyfriend into marrying you. You both have to be ready! If it's meant to be, it will happen!
2007-02-19 18:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by sunnyone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think some women just get fed up with the waiting....they want to move on with their life...
2007-02-19 18:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋