Why when I ask my 18yr old daughter to answer her mobile to let me know she is ok she wont why why why?

Answer 1

cause it so hard to look cool infront of all your friends when mum is on the phone to you.
why not just send her a text message and get her to text you back. that way, no one knows its mum, and she can still be cool with all her mates

Answer 2

Explain to her that it would be nice to receive even a text if she's not going to be home by a certain time and roughly what time she will be. I think it's just courtesy really as you all live in the same house.

My daughter is highly independent...she is 22 and has always sent me a text if her plans change.

If she were sharing a flat with a friend and was going to get back very very late...it would be common courtesy to let her flat mate know too.

Tell her, it's purely for your benefit and to put your mind at rest. Agree a time that you start to worry by and she can text you if it will be much later than that.

She can always go into the loo and do a secret text if she's worried about her friends reaction.

Don't try to force the issue though, just say it would really help YOU out.

When she does send you that text...when you see her the next day..tell her thanks and that you appreciated it.

Answer 3

Answer from my 18 year old sister as follows.
'It could be one of 3 things
1. she is dead and lying in a ditch somewhere
2. She is having too much fun and doesn't hear or doesn't want to stop to answer the phone
3. She is angry with you.'

Personally I'd go with 2 as my sister is always scaring me silly with this one! Its tough to know when to be relieved and when to be angry! If you have taught her to stay safe the chances are she probably is. She is trying to build her independence and this is the final step!

I know I was the same at that age. I just didn't realise the trauma I caused my Mum until I had care for a young person myself!

She'll probably get it in her 30s and feel really bad that she worried you so much.

Answer 4

Explain to your daughter, that many girls her age are being abducted, raped, or murdered. Some girls are kidnapped and end up as hookers in the basement of a Las Vegas Casino or a prostitute in Costa Rica, never to be seen by friends and family.

Apparently your daughter doesn't watch the news. She doesn't pay attention to the sobbing parents on tv when the dead body of their teenager is found. Tell your daughter that you don't want to invade her privacy, but you would appreciate an "OK" message from her cellphone when she leaves home and when she is returning.

How many times have we watched the Nancy Grace show on TV about missing girls. It's sad.

When I was that age my parents ALWAYS knew where my friends and I were going and what time we would return.

Answer 5

That should only be done after you've gone through the do's and don't list. Make sure you show her all the inappropriate places your child should not be touched. You could also do her the favor of showing her where not to let the childs' parent touch her. Wine and cheese would then be an appropriate snack.

Answer 6

18 year olds want the advantages of childhood and adulthood with none of the disadvantages. Legally she's an adult but she still has a responsibility to treat you with courtesy.
I'd do a bit of negotiation. Agree on the circumstances under which you can ring her; suggest texting rather than phoning; tell her what your concerns are and discuss with her how realistic you are both being.

Answer 7

When I was 18 and moved out on my own, I used to try to call my mom every other day, but with full time school schedule and working all the time, it became harder. Then she would ALWAYS yell at me whenI wouldnt call and I would explain to her how I was so busy but she thought they were excuses. When you call your daughter try to keep it every other day. Remember your daughter is an adult now, and of course you worry all mothers do, but remember she has her own life now. Give her some time, she'll soon realize how much she does still need you in her everyday life.

Answer 8

Since you ask the question in the "Toddler & Preschooler" section, could she feel that she's being treated like a child, when she's a woman of 18?

Answer 9

Because she is 18, don't you know parents are just over bearing idiots to be ignored at that age??? This is especially true whan the teenager is infront of friends.

try texting her instead, she might not want to talk to you, but might send a message back.

Answer 10

She's around friend's and doesn't want to answer, to have that "Cool" image, or she wants her independence, still it don't matter how old you are, now-a-days its good to let someone know where you are going and when you'll be back, its the responsible thing to do.

Answer 11

Because she doesnt need you at the moment, she has a warm comfortable feeling seeing you phone but has a need for independence, wait until she needs you and if you dont phone she might. But do set rules and make sure she is a bit savvy sex wise.