I left my old school, and my new school isn't working out. I'm not challenged at all, so i have absolutely no homework when i get home. Then i'm bored, so i spend more time watching TV and talking over AIM, which has started many fights with my parents. My parents also don't seem to appreciate that although its easy, it takes a fair amouint of work to get all A's. I'm still having a hard time making friends at school, because I don't want to change myself so people like me. Its getting to the point where I decide what grade i want to get in classes, and I'm getting more tempted to get worse grades for many reasons- 1) so maybe my parents will appreciate my efforts more, and 2) so people won't think i'm such a geek anymore. I'm feeling more and more depressed... so I guess I have 4 questions- 1) how do I make people like me without changing myself, 2) how can i make my parents appreciate me, 3) what are some things to keep me occupied after school, and 4) how can i stay un-depressed???
2007-02-19 09:45:54 · 7 answers · asked by smurphgirl131 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Everyones telling you negitive answers and right now you need to be focusing on yourself. I understand that you need to be challenged so maybe you could start taking some harder classes in school. I deffintally dont think making your grades worse will help! If you feel unapreciated with by your parents and you cant seem to talk to them try writing them a note or even an email! Remeber that your parents jobs as a parent are hard work too and if you want them to appreciate you then you need to make sure you appreciate them. In some of your free time you could help out a little more with the house work, I am sure that they would love you for that. Back to your grades, so what if people think your a geek! If someone dosnt like you then its there own problem and not yours, you cant win over every one all you can do is try being yourself and hope someone notices how good of a person you are. Dont be shy talk up and make yourself noticed the worse thing they can do is not like you, and then youv neither lost or gained anything, but you made the effort and just maybe youll get a new friend. It really takes time to adjust to a new school, I have been there. Just stay with it and try to keep as positive as an attitude as you can! Dont change and try to do the best you can!
As for new activities that list could go on forever...Try getting involved with school activites that will get you new friends too, sports,theatre,even using some of that brain to help others with their home work.
2007-02-19 10:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a number of things that you can do. You can go to the library after school and read up on something you're interested in, start a study group where you can tutor other people, get a job at the library where you can meet other people of interest. Volunteer at a nursing home. The elderly have great stories to tell if people would take the time to listen. I wouldn't say that people don't like you, and think you're a geek. They just don't know you. And by hiding at home, you are not giving people the chance to know you. Put yourself out there in the public more, and show them what a great person you are. You don't have to change to be liked, just give people the chance. How can your parents not appreciate and be proud of that? You would be surprised to find that when you smile and make eye contact with people, people are drawn to you. You'll be so busy you will forget about being depressed! ;)
2007-02-19 18:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by zaney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people don't like you just the way you are, then they are the ones with the problems. Your parents might be taking you for granted, but there is no reason in the world to get worse grades. Get involved in some extra-carricular activities at school. (Debate, Swimming, whatever interests you.) do some volunteer work tutoring, working at a nursing home, Big Brothers, Big Sisters, etc.
If your depession gets worse, see a doctor and take a mild dose of an anti-depressant. Good Luck.
2007-02-19 18:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to adjust your attitude to your new school. The school is working out fine, it's you that doesn't want to. There is no such thing as boredom. try taking up an interesting hobby or a sport or learn a musical instrument.
You only need to adjust your attitude. if people don't like you there must be a reason, are you rude or indifferent towards others? Seems to me you need to project your thoughts outside your own little world and think more of others, i think you are too selfcentred.
Am I guessing right that the school move was not your idea?
2007-02-19 17:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mirowera 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't change your self, continue to be you. If you try to change your self it won't work you can't be some one else keep your grades up you'll need it if you decide to go to university. To stay un-depressed exercise and volunteer at hospitals or animal shelter for work experience which you'll need in the future. In the animal shelter try to do clerical work or receptionist .
try to get use to things like telephone answering data entry appointment scheduling. This will be very beneficial when you enter into the work force. You'll have experience plus references and you'll also be ahead of all the other kids graduating trying to get work.
2007-02-19 18:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a friend of family member you trust about how you feel. if it gets worse, speak to a counselor at school and your doctor.
2007-02-19 17:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
build a bridge and get over it
2007-02-19 17:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by mattishere2006 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋