Even though a father has physical custody of his child, he lives with me and I have supported him. claim him?

Question

My late husband and I have had my gr. nephew living with us practically since birth. His father was in the military and we did receive two years of child support. I also had legal custody of this child. When the father came out of the military he received legal physical custody. However, the child still lived with me and with practically no child support and then the loss of my husband I have provided a home and everything necessary for this child whom I deeply love to have a safe environment both here and at school. The father from time to time gives me some money and now takes the boy on Wed., and Thurs. and brings him back on Friday. I have claimed this child on taxes as he lives here and I almost completely support him. The father did ask if I was going to claim him and I said, "Yes." He also found out he can get money through the child's mother who is on disability, but if the child did not live with him during the time he is claiming, can he?

Answer 1

he cant get money from the childs mother, if you are raising the child, and if he does, all of that money is supposed to go to you.

must be nice to have someone raise your child for free.

what a mooch. if he wasnt, he would be paying something weekly to you...

claim the child. you have proof you have provided more then 50% of his living expenses and he was with you most of the year. the deadbeat dad was just looking to see if he could claim him.

i would take the matter to court and make him pay me support for his child, they will take it right of his pay. call your county court house clerk and ask how, if you want to.

DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

LIST OF RESOURCES
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&

http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 2

I would think the person who has proof that they supported the child would be the one who could claim them on taxes, etc. If a person is getting disability for a child who does not live with them, it is a crime, and it is punishable by law. See an attorney and dig out any and all reciepts, school paperwork, etc that you can find to support your claim to having supported the child.

Answer 3

It sounds as if you need legal advice and to take this matter to court. Look in your area for a community legal clinic. Of course, it all depends on where you live and the laws that are in place. Perhaps you could have a mediated settlement (free where I live), but not legally binding.

Anyway, it sounds as if you are not getting the support that the father should be providing if he is employed.

Answer 4

See an attorney IMMEDIATELY! The father may come and take that child if there's money attached to him. You need to make sure you have the legal right to keep him. DO IT NOW!

Answer 5

only one of you can claim him on taxes
you have to talk to father
but it seems all he wants is money
good luck
best to get Custody of child to solve problem

Answer 6

See an attorney. The first meeting is something like $100...then you will have a plan.

Answer 7

Sorry to say, but yes he HAS LEGAL custody!
I know it is unfair
Good Luck

Answer 8

i would think the one who is caring for the child deserves the money

Answer 9

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