I have two kids a husband with two jobs, I also have two jobs and only one car. My mom takes care of my kids and every time I ask her to watch the kids a little longer she always gives me an attitude. I never ask her to keep them so my husband and I could do something just the two of us. Like for example today I need to get some erands done before I need to get my husband back to work and it's just easier for my mom to keep the kids. When I told her she just said "Fine, whatever".
I don't know what to do, I need her help but at the same time I wish I could just find another person to watch my kids.
2007-02-19 08:31:35 · 8 answers · asked by littlemama_rules 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some people do not like to be used and don't know how to tell you that is how they feel. Find another babysitter.
2007-02-19 10:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahhhh.. I know how you feel. I think my mother has watched my two kids while my husband and I go out maybe a handful of times in the last 5 years.. It seems as though she doesn't want to or has better things to do. It looks like your mother is kind of in the same frame of mind, she is only doing the bare minimum for the grandkids, only what she has to, and that's it. That's where it stops.
If I was in your situation, I would just not do it, I would take the kids with you if you had to do some errands. Reason being, if she is highly annoyed that she has to watch the kids longer, there is a very high possibility that she would take it out on the kids. And, it sounds as though, just like my husband and I, that you are highly protective of your children, and wouldn't want that to happen. I would say, if you can, to start looking for a babysitter full time while you work, and leave the leftover times that your children have to be watched AFTER daycare hours with your mother. You don't want your children to bare the brunt of her attitude if she starts to take it out on them, it's not fair to them.
And just like my husband and I say about my mother, if she can't handle an extra few minutes to let you run and get an errand done, then she doesn't deserve to watch your kids anyways! :) Good luck!
2007-02-19 17:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by Tom and Aimee N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I would consider myself lucky to have a mother willing to help as much as she does. I am a mother of 2 myself and my mother doesn't keep my kids for any reason. Anyway, I would suggest taking out an ad in your local paper asking for responsible young adult or adult to watch your kids for a few days a week, to help take the load off your mother. Maybe she feels like she is doing more than her fair share as it is. Make sure to ask for references and do your homework on the person(s) who apply for the job. Young adults and teenagers jump at offers like this. You can even get someone to watch them in your own home. But make sure you get references and actually check them. Maybe give your mom 2 -3 days off a week is just what she needs too. Hope this helps.
2007-02-19 16:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by april36456 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you paying her? If she is doing this for free, I would be sure to pick my kids up at the time I said I would. She already raised her kids and now she should be having some fun of her own! Two jobs? Are you sure you need to be away from your kids that much? Maybe your husband should get two jobs and let you take care of the kids more.
2007-02-19 16:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Joan H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She probably feels that you are taking advantage of her. It may be easier to run errands without the kids, but I think it would be more responsible on your part to pick them up when you are supposed to and deal with having your kids with you. You are the parent after all and it's just life that things aren't always easy. Plus, if you are worknig that much, you need to spend every moment with your kids that you can. If you can enjoy your kids, it wouldn't be so bad.
2007-02-19 16:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
One thing you must accept is that your mother is not responsible for raising your children.
Take your children on the errands with you. I suspect your mother is doing her limit with the kids.
You may be better off finding alternative child care. I'm sure this would improve relations with your mother.
2007-02-19 16:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by m_c_m_a_n 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey...give Mom a break.
Does she have anytime to run errand's?
don't take advantage of her kindness....just because she is the grand mom...does not mean she is a built in babysitter...
2007-02-19 16:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to her about it. maybe something's wrong that you don't know about, like for instance maybe she's miffed that you don't thank her. or if it's not that, it's probably something that's happened to make her not thrilled to take the kids. show her you care by asking what's up
2007-02-19 16:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus Christ Track Starrr 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋