All i'm looking for are tips to help the healing process. I'v had the dog 13 years and I dont know what to do without her. Theres now way I can replace her, atleast not for awhile. This sucks I miss her so much, what makes it even worse is, no one was here in her time of need, I feel aweful.
2007-02-19 07:46:03 · 34 answers · asked by aka8705 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I am so sorry for your loss.. I still miss my old dog after 45 years!
Here is a great site> http://www.pet-loss.net/
It is Ten Ways to Cope With the Loss of Your Pet.
Here is another> http://www.petloss.com/
the best thing about those sites, is the comfort of realizing that you are not alone.
It is very hard to lose a beloved dog, as so many people have the attitude, of " Its just a dog" ..we don't get sympathy cards, and hugs and support, as we do when we lose other family members.
It really helps just to know that you are not alone in your grief.
That last link includes a link to a chat room..
2007-02-19 07:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Chetco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She had 13 years of a good life with you. She was old and probably had problems you were not aware of. You don't need to feel guilt, you gave her 13 years of love & understanding.
It would have been harder on you if you had to take her to the Vet to be euthanized.
Grieving takes a while and it is a time you must go through and believe it or not you will be ready for a new pup soon.
I am so sorry for your lose. I have been there dozens of times and know exactly how you are feeling. It sucks I know.
For the time being you can check out some of the dogs at pounds, shelter, or rescue groups and see all the different little guys that really need a good home before they are euthanized. Just look for now but I bet you'll find one that looks you in the eye and you just can't walk away and leave it there.
2007-02-19 08:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by bluebonnetgranny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Pets are a part of the family, & they always leave a hole behind when they die.
Having been through the loss of several pets, I honestly think the best way to heal is to get another animal. You are not replacing the pet that died, because that is impossible. But you do have the capacity to love another animal just as much, & appreciate it for its differences from the dog you lost.
I'm not saying this is something you should do immediately, either. Give yourself time to greive, maybe put together a photo album of your dog so you always have something to look at & remember the wonderful times you had together.
But don't close yourself off of the possibility of loving another animal.
Again, I am so sorry you lost your beloved dog. I feel your pain, & if I could, I'd give you a hug!
2007-02-19 08:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by jamie c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm crying with you now... very few things hurt worse than the loss of a beloved dog. So sorry to hear about it. A small statue in the yard would be a truely fitting tribute. You are obviously a great dog lover, don't let it be too long before you go find another wonderful friend. It will get easier and a new buddy will certainly help.
So very, very sorry
magicman
2007-02-19 07:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by magicman116 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm feeling your pain right now as well... I took my 11 yo pup in for her first accupuncture treatment and they found cancer in her front leg. She has severe hip dysplasia as well as arthritis, so tonite after my husband gets home, the vet is going to come over and release her from her pain for us. I know it is the right thing to do before she is any more miserable, but it really, really sucks as well. She has been a part of my life for 11 years and I am not sure how I am going to handle her passing...
I don't know if this makes you feel any better, but I am sure your pup waited for you to go out for the day. Many dogs, and (people as well) simply won't let go until they feel that there loved one is not near. I don't know why, but sometimes they hang on for a few hours just because they know somehow...
you have my sympathy and empathy... try to remember how you were there for her for 13 years... that is a lot more than a lot of owners can claim! (I do rescue as well). I'll be looking at photos and crying my eyes out all week, and calling every sympathetic friend I have. In the spring we will drink a toast to the old gal and plant a tree in her honor... Blessings to you and I am so sorry for both of our losses today- dd
2007-02-19 08:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by dedum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss. 13 years is a long time and I'm sure you are hurting a lot right now.
When I lost my first dog, I made a picture album/scrapbook of just pictures of her. Our family also had a rock engraved with her name on it that's in our garden as a memorial. You will obviously never forget her, but doing something proactive with your grief will help you heal faster.
Once you feel like you have healed, adopting another dog is a great idea. You won't be replacing her...just honoring her memory by caring for another.
2007-02-19 07:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Emily D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm REALLY REALLY sorry to hear that. I kinda know how u feel. when i lived in my home counrty we had 8 dogs and one morning one of the puppies was gone and all that was left was blood :(
let ur self grieve and spend time with those closest to u
when u get a new puppy that one will be the best one on earth and the one that died will be the best one in Heaven.
P.S. If any one makes fun of u both of the dogs will kick their asss really hard
i couldn't imagine my sweatheart dead
hope u feel a lot better :) :(
2007-02-19 08:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by nika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart-I am so sorry.
I hope you are not blaming yourself or anything. Likely, your dog was hanging on until she was alone and could die in peace without you having to deal with seeing her go.
Give yourself plenty of time to mourn. Remember her the way she was, and know that in heaven, she is that way again-no pain, no worries, no suffering.
Somewhere out there is the right dog for you, and when you are ready, you will find him or her. Don't rush into it if you don't want to. Take your time.
2007-02-19 08:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww I feel for you I know what it's like to loose a much beloved pet.They just break your heart.I lost two in one night, less than a week later I bought 2 more. This certainly helped the healing process. You will never forget you first one, anf there will always be loving memories of him/her,but you must move on,get yourself another dog pronto.
Good Luck to you
2007-02-19 07:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1. Just let yourself grieve.
Many do not understand that to many of us a pet is more than that..........it is a friend, a child, part of the family. I lost a cat in 1999 and it was if I lost a child. With time and support from those who understand, you will get through it. And the next cat I got had a totally different personality but I grew to lover her as much.................It is true that time heals all {most} wounds.
2007-02-19 07:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋