I've been having a lot of problems with my mother lately. I live in a single parent household. First of all, my mother, I understand does have the right to be concerned about my well-beind and moreover activities. Howeverr she has told me in the past that she "does trust me, just not other people." I'm 16 and I do believe that she's going to have to trust me eventually. I have not given her any reason not to do so, as I maintain good grades and good friends. I think she is basing her decisions on her mother's rules. Sometimes the way my mother acts if frustrating. Can anyone share some insight without shoving their views in my face? Thank you.
2007-02-19 07:43:08 · 7 answers · asked by jbistek6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd like to add that I am a twin. I have a twin brother, and my mother has said that my brother has more freedom than I due to me being female - I suppose she is a lot more concerned due to females, in this modern day, being more prone to danger. However this situation resembles favoritism many times, as I feel much more restricted than him. I feel suffocated, in a way. I just cannot get my mother to budge. It just gets me so upset to see a pair commonly viewed as equal - twins - waived by hints of favoritism, as it is seen in my eyes.
2007-02-19 07:50:14 · update #1
WOW! thats the exact same line my parents used on me.
basically, if you want her to keep trusting you, you have to do what she says and walk her line as long as you are living with her. study hard, make good grades so you can get a scholarship (or save up your money while you are still living with your mom) and eventually you'll reach that age when you can leave her house and she'll have no choice but to look at you like an adult.
i know it is incredibly frustrating, but she is your mom and she's doing this because she thinks it's what you need. just try to appreciate it now, because when you are older you'll miss her doing all the little things you never noticed.
2007-02-19 10:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem when you say this: . Howeverr she has told me in the past that she "does trust me, just not other people." I'm 16 and I do believe that she's going to have to trust me eventually.
She says she trusts you, but you say she's going to have to trust you. SHE DOES TRUST YOU. She knows that you're not going to make dumb decisions, but she doesn't trust others when it comes to you. Yea, it may have to do with the twin, but you both are 16 years old. Don't expect your mom to be cool with you jsut going out doing whatever at all hours of the night. She loves you, and she wants you to be safe.
2007-02-19 08:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her yeah that's real smart.....let the big bad wolf out (your twin) and keep little red riding hood inside the house. Wolves cause more damage than Little Red Hiding Hood ever did.
2007-02-19 07:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is favoritism. She knows you can get pregnant, in one shot. Mom is doing what she thinks is best for you, she wants you to have a chance at life, and that you can have, if you get good grades, and go in to college, and be able to make a life for yourself. so you can be all that you want to be. If you did not know it before, this is what your mom wants for you. Don't you want that? Boys are always going to be their, just make wise decisions. Ease up on mom, kiss her and tell her you understand. and you are going to make her proud!
2007-02-19 08:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Mom, I love you and I know it's hard to let go, but I'm growing up and need some space. Please trust me enough to be careful, make good decisions and not put myself in any dangerous situations." If that doesn't work I don't know what to tell you kiddo. You've only got 2 years to go :)
2007-02-19 07:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ducky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sure that your mom trust you...... its just that there are so many people out there these days that will make your mom think otherwise..... dont worry about it.... i am sure that maybe one day she'll come around...... as far as your mom basing her decision around her mom, maybe she didnt listen to her mom at one point and realize that her mom is right.... and now she dont want the same thing for you,,,, good luck
2007-02-19 07:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by molly_tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like it is not really you that she dont trust but knows what she did as a young girl. so look to her past and see what she has done and you will find youre answer.good luck hun
2007-02-19 08:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋