losing my boyfriend by the minute =o(?

Question

its just sad and hard to see it all fall down slowly.Like a terminal illness that has no cure..I want to be with him always be happy 2 make him happy.Ive devoted my self to him 4 almost 3 years my feelings have never changed he showed me how 2 love and how High School relationships and crushes dont compare 2 true love. But now the happiness the smiles have turned 2 pain and tears.The hardest part of love is change when u r used 2 something perfect and then life just twistes it 4 u.He moved away i waited loyaly & then he came back i thought that by him returning things would go back 2 normal but they didnt.He told me u expect 2 much FALSE i expect 2 little and its sad he doesnt do it.Now all we do is argue about anything & everything.I feel that im holding on 2 him so hard maybe its just a malevolous plan my heart has 2 break him 4 it 2 b easier 2 say good bye.But i love him so deeply & i dont want 2 cry i dont want 2 ache i want to smile.I hate knowing i love him more than he loves me

Day by day i got to face the facts he wont come he wont call hes not happy with me. Then i call and i ask him to come that i need him by myside that all i want is to c him and love him so much. His response always being the same "ill call u back" seems thats all he knows how to say. So i get mad and my emotions run wild i call him and question him annoy him untill he hangs up. i feel used and confused and my heart aches with sorrow. i feel pain in my chest and he wont even look my way to see if im ok to see if im not dead to check if theres still blood flowing through my veins. Why does love have to be complicated why doesnt he say good bye if hes not interested. Just with his friends all day and all night even when hes right next to me he calls them and they call. Its annoying and wrong since i see him once or twice a week and not for long .. i dont know what to do or how i lost him and his respect. All i want to understand why have me there y if all i do is annoy him and get him mad

Answer 1

Make yourself feel better. Call him up and end things right now. He will then come crawling back.

Answer 2

End th erealtionship, it will only cause you more pain. He lost feelings for you or has fallen for someone else. Unfortunatly not all relationship have equal love from each person. What are you going to do, hanging on will onyl make you seem desperate and undesirable to him. maybe once you end it he will realize he made a mistake. He might just be staying with you because he feels bad for you and you should have more respect for yourself, you don't need that. Move on and don't waste his and your time any longer, you may find someone much better out there.

ps, when you use the number 2 instead of just typing a two letter word "to" it makes it so much harder to read and understand what you are saying, it effects the flow of your writing.

I just read your details and want to add that it sounds like he has already broken up with you but just not officially, he hangs up on you and never calls you, that's not a boyfriend anymore, so move on hun. And what a coward for not just ending it officially with you, what was he gonna do just let it fade away, maybe you'll just stop calling, uggghh how ridiculous, he's not a man, you don't want him, believe me.

Answer 3

It is hard when you love someone more than they love you back. It's like they've ripped your heart right out of your chest and stomped on it. And as long as you're involved with that person it's going to keep feeling that way. Since he's accused you of expecting too much I don't really see how you can change his point of view. Especially when you say just the exact opposite is the reality. It may just be time to sit down with him and tell him that as much as it hurts, the relationship isn't working the way you expect it to. See if he's open to talking about it. If not, you're going to have to cut ties and go your own way. There's no point in being in the relationship as it stands now. Good luck!

Answer 4

Boyfriends will come and go before you find Mr. Right. The most important thing is to learn from each one. When you do finally find the right one, the one you're meant to share your entire life with, you'll have learned what traits are important in a relationship and what things aren't. Life is full of ups and downs but don't fool yourself into thinking it's the end of the world because someone doesn't return your feelings. There is someone out there eventually that will. Don't rush it, take your time and don't lower your standards!

Answer 5

I really do feel for you, I understand how you want things to go back to normal. But after reading your description of your problem, I believe it is time to end your relationship. You need to find a new guy who is just as good, if not better. There are plenty of guys out there you will like. Just think, at least you weren't engaged or married. :) Look on the positive side of things, and all will be well.

Answer 6

Oh, I'm sorry this is happening! Heartbreak is a horrible thing! But if all you have now is tears and pain, why hold on to THAT???!!! You love the idea of the way things used to be, but that is the past and it obviously is gone. Best bet? Move on. It won't be the easiest thing but it will be the best thing. You will be making room for the RIGHT guy in your life!

Answer 7

I think you know what you have to do, cuz you said it. I just lost someone too and for reason I can't even comprehend. It just doesn't make any sense. But you have to move on. you can't live the rest of your life. There will always be move love from one side of the relationship than another, but it seems way off balance. Do what you have to do to be strong in the end.

Answer 8

You answered your own question. It is far better to make a clean break of this and start looking for some one who will appreciate what you are. He seems to have found some one else. He is using you. Make the break and forget him. If he has any real feeling for you he will change and try to win you back.

Answer 9

Sounds like you are already in pain and you still have him...it won't be much more painful to let him go. Be strong and move on. It will be hard at first but someday soon you will find a healthy relationship

Answer 10

Hunni. He doesnt deserve u. Hes prob. sleeping with someone else right now. Dump him and move on. It may hurt but it wont hurt as much as him cheating on u.