help!Bad selfesteem?

Question

ok...well i really have bad self esteem. i usually feel useless at times and i feel like everyone is talking about me but i think its only me. sometimes i say 'tomorrow im going in class and tell everyone hi and start talking to someone new' but when i get to class none of that happens. i dont knwo what to do. sometimes its also like i dont belong in this world and that everyone would be happier if i wasnt here / please give me some advice

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you have a depression disorder of some kind. How long has this been going on? If this has been going on for 2 or more weeks seek medical help. Doctors can help. I personally recommend Effexor for treatment. It really helped in my case. Knowing that you have a problem and asking for help is the first step in getting better. Also, stick with your plans of going into class and talking to people. Conversations will help you feel better and will break the cycle. Also, to make yourself feel better about you being in this world: think of 5 good things you bring to every relationship you have with anybody. If you need help, ask them. It may seem strange, but a person who truly cares about you will want to help.

Answer 2

You are young and this is not abnormal, I had the same thing as a young lady. First, you should see a doctor and tell him exactly what you have just told us, especially the part about "tomorrow I'm going in class and tell everyone hi and start something new, then you just can't make yourself break through" This is a social anxiety disorder, a inside fear of letting loose for the fear of rejection. My doctor put me on alprazolam 0.25 its generic for xanax, it takes about a month before it begins to work, believe me you will blossom, come right of your shell and be pretty much content with your life. You will be able to walk into a room full of people and carry on just as everyone is, you will no longer feel out of place. I hope that you get some help soon. Be sure to write down everything that you want to tell the doctor in case you cant find the words while in his presence, use it as a guide while talking to the doctor, if it becomes to much then just hand it to the doctor. Good Luck

Answer 3

Why are you so down on yourself? You really should take time to write down a list of all the things you like about yourself. I'll bet you have trouble with that one. But the truth of it is that you are a great person, full of wonderful charm, intelligence and you have a lot to give to any situation you find yourself in. Give people a chance to get to know and love you and you'll see I'm right! Try to talk to at least one new person tomorrow, even if it is something that might sound lame to you. Practice will make this easier each day until you become a real pro at meeting people. Right now, you are being your own worst enemy. Lighten up on yourself and try something new! Love yourself today!

Answer 4

Everyone, or almost everyone, goes through this. This is part of growing up. All teenagers consider themselves useless, ugly, etc. and think dark thoughts. Usually it passes with age, but sometimes it may linger and really prevent you from enjoying your life.
You have to grow to like yourself. Appreciate yourself. If you feel good about yourself, people around you will sense that and will be drawn to you.
Become really good at something. You can do sports, play a musical instrument, sing, draw, dance, learn a foreign language, tell jokes.. Everybody has talents, don't bury yours, develop them, be proud of your accomplishments and make them known to others.
Be brave. Enter the classroom, say hi to everybody and strike a conversation with someone new. And tell yourself 'Well done!' and see how it feels. It's going to feel great! Good luck!

Answer 5

You have a melancholy, depressive personality. What you might need to do is to find talents which are latent in you, and develop them. You might use your somber moods to generate emotional poetry like Edgar Allen Poe, or horror stories like Stephen King. You might ask your doctor for antidepressants. Physical activity and sports are a general cure--all for all negative moods, and joining clubs or groups, to be around more of your peers, would be salutary for you. Remember that most people are only average. You do not have to be Superman, in order to have self-respect and the respect of other people.

Consider the movie "Groundhog Day", and criticize its implications. Bill Murray's Phil Connors character is merely a normally surly curmudgeon at the beginning, with a slightly sour but also slightly comic attitude which is almost funny.
But by the end of the movie, he practically has to be superhuman, in order to win Rita's heart and break out back into normal life. He catches a kid falling from a tree, sculpts ice, saves a choking victim, etc. Meanwhile, Rita doesn't change a bit, but sappy Phil is glad just to be with her.

My point is that your self-image is borrowed from other people, and the expectations that you perceive to be upon you, while you think you are falling short. Re-examine your attitudes and realize that you are good enough to start with, and go on to develop as well as you can, in what interests you. Keep your expectations realistic, and don't go to the extremes of either egomania, or worthlessness.

Answer 6

Well, lots of people go through that. You need to learn how to make some friends if you don't have any. When I was a teen, any time I thought that maybe I shouldn't be here, I thought about my family and how much they'd miss me and be sad if I was gone. If your family doesn't seem that supportive, talk to a school counselor. Remember that you are somebody, and that there is nobody else like you. You'll make it through. I had a boss one time who always told me: Smile, there's a brighter day tomorrow!

Answer 7

I know how you feel because I do not like myself much of the time either but you know what sometimes if other people do not like you that is their problem, and forget about them. Plus find a support group like some friends, or family ,or if you do not have these things then find something that you like like a sport, a hobby, or whatever. But you will fill better about yourself if you find something you love, even if you have no family, or friends you will fill better about yourself. So go lift your spirits, and enjoy life. God bless you as you find your way, and place in this world. Peace babe.

Answer 8

i know exactly how u feel. just find another way of expressing yourself, like sports, music or lyrics, and then try it in the real world. it would be much easier for u to express urself to people and it will make you feel useful. or join a charity group or something, like blood donning, and it will make u feel like someone needs you and u just can't give up. email me if u need more help.
don't go on drugs or do anything stupid. it won't help u.

Answer 9

i have the same problem. i feel the same way at times. one thing i do is say if they dont like me oh well. then i bite my tongue and walk over to them. i ask their name and all that good stuff. try it. it works