my boyfriend cheated on me, and i have given him another chance. It has only been 5 weeks since we have been back together, but all over the past few days i feel like i dont want him, and like i just dont love him or care for him anymore..I really want to but i cant. I have told him that i should end it because its not fair on him, because i dont love him anymore. But he keeps beging me not to and he thinks th love will come again. i dont know what to do?...
2007-02-19 07:32:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop him so fast he gets a ticket from the dating police. Unless you are married with kids, you are far better off dumping him. It takes enormous amounts of effort to get over this. With a boyfriend? Forget it.
Actually you will be doing him a favor. By dumping him, he just may learn that cheating is bad and not do it again. Either way drop him and move on. Be thankful you found out now and not with his children in your lap.
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2007-02-19 07:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the cheating was such a big turn-off for you emotionally, that you can't feel as much about that person any more.
I think the best thing to do is have a break from the relationship, just for a week or two, so that you can explore your feelings undistracted. During that time, you will both think more clearly about your relationship, and you will realize if being alone (without him) is currently more rewarding for you sentimentally.
Also, I think you might be in too much pressure right now. Cheating is, for most people, a very big issue, and you might just be feeling that you have betrayed yourself by accepting him back. Try not to blame yourself, or the guy, for what happened for a while, and focus on the situation as it is right now, and how to deal with it.
2007-02-19 15:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by surfmadpig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he cheated and u don't trust him anymore is what's going on here. after he did what he did, u felt disgusted and not feeling him anymore, it's normal. ur a pretty good girlfriend to give him a chance, and hey maybe he really is sorry and loves you. but it doesn't change the way ur feeling for him now. don't stay in the relationship for pity and because he's begging you, it doesn't work that way, it will end very bad. just let him know how u feel. im sure he'll be hurt but he will get over it. believe me
2007-02-19 15:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by prchik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to yourself to be with someone you can trust and be happy with. You will find someone who treats you better. Learn from this experience, and learn what you don't want in the next boyfriend. Make a list of all the good traits you want in a man, and a list of the things that would send you running. The next guy that catches your eye should have to pass this test (and so should your current boyfriend). Tactfully ask him about everything on your list before you get too attached, and if he passes you will have peace of mind that he might be worth your time.
2007-02-19 16:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rae Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right in wanting to end it. Even if he hadn't cheated on you, when you don't love a person anymore and don't desire them anymore it's not fair to the both of you to stay together just in case the love "will come back."
Do what your instincts and your heart tell you to do. Both of you deserve to be with someone who you trully love and respect and desire to be around.
2007-02-19 15:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to believe in holding on if you really cared. And if you do care it is worth holding on to and making it work. But he cheated on you showing that he didnt care. Now obviously your feelings aren't there either.
The best thing for both of you is to probably move on. No point holding on to a doomed relationship.
If in a few months, years, whatever you two realize that maybe you want to make it work again, there is always that option.
2007-02-19 15:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your feelings. The fact that he's already cheated on you says he can't be trusted. You just had enough sense to see it before you got hurt worse. Get rid of him and move on. Infidelity doesn't have to be a part of a relationship, it needs to be the end!
2007-02-19 15:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your feelings and get rid of him. Not only do you not care for him anymore but once a cheater, always a cheater! You will always have trust issues with this guy and any relationship that lacks trust is doomed
2007-02-19 15:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend cheated = dump him
No loyalty... it's as simple as that. I'm a guy, and I have no problem just masturbating when I need a release. No need to cheat if you really care about someone.
2007-02-19 15:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Say you dont want to get hurt anymore. And if he cheated, its likely he will do it again.
2007-02-19 15:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by 1m@ h3@rT Br3@k3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋