Ok, so I work in a very small law office. I'm the receptionist. The Lawyer's daughter is doing "Jump Rope for Heart" to raise money for the American Heart Association. So being nice, but being poor, I donate $5 in cash. I see on the envelope that it says to convert any cash to a check. Seeing that I don't want to write a $5 check, and am only allowed to write 10 checks a month without getting charged on my student account, I just put in a $5 bill, figuring that if others put in cash, that the parent of the child's fundraiser will take the cash, and write a check for the amount of the cash, thus CONVERTING THE CASH TO CHECK. So I go away to lunch, and find the envelope on my desk when I return with a note on it from our cocky case administrator who has a real problem with women in authority that has the $5 bill pulled out, and a note about how we're supposed to write a check. WTF?!?! It's not his place to say, and it seems like he's doing that "I want to make you feel small"
2007-02-19 07:32:20 · 7 answers · asked by GLSigma3 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
thing that he does because he has to feel that he's more important than us (I'm not the only person that's felt this way). Do I have a right to be upset or no?
2007-02-19 07:35:16 · update #1
Why was he even in the envelope? Is it something where he is responsible for the donations? If not...then you have ABSOLUTELY every right to be upset. Talk about bad manners! To touch something on someone else's desk...and a donation envelope at that, is the height of rudeness!! And makes me wonder what else he is poking his nose into. A donation is private, it is no ones business what you give and what form you give it . The fact that he would consider touching anything that doesn't belong to him amazes me and is also disturbing on more than an etiquette level. I would definitely say something to him...letting him know it is NOT OK for him to touch your things...and that you are offended that he looked into your envelope. And ask him to please not touch things that do not belong to him.
However....if he for some reason had the right to look in your envelope then...it would make sense that he would comment on the check need..thinking that perhaps you had misunderstood or missed the check comment.But to leave it displayed on your desk for everyone to see was outrageous and definitely seems as though for some reason he wanted to embarrass you. I would speak to him about and let him know how you feel. If you don't talk about it...he will just continue the behavior.
2007-02-19 09:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know what? You tried. If he doesn't want the $5.00 in cash, then don't give it to him. Find out if there's another kid you live by who's jumping (chances are there is), and give the $5.00 to her. Most schools also let you donate online now, too. Otherwise, keep your cash.
He may just be doing it to make you feel small, or he may just plan on turning in all the checks. Also, if your bank only lets you write ten checks a month, you may want to look into a different bank. It's just a suggestion. Most banks offer student accounts, and I've never had a limit on how many checks I could write.
2007-02-19 09:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by teeney1116 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are other people supposed to open the envelope and see how much you are donating? Isnt the idea of the envelope to keep such matters private. I would wonder if it was an invasion of privacy, especially as you work for lawyers lol.
I would do as others suggest and see the girls father and ask him to add it to the amount he is sponsoring his daughter for.
I wouldnt let the nosy administrator know that it upset you, that would give him more power.
2007-02-19 12:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by ms_obedient 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would go the the lawyer whos daughter is jumping and tell them you have $5 to donate but you dont have any checks and see what he says.
Forget the other guy, go to the source!
2007-02-19 08:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by happymrzot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!
Anonymously annoy him to no end! Create a new e-mail account with his name on yahoo or something and send it to his work e-mail address all day with random messages. You could include how snotty he is, and other mean things he has done, that may straighten him out a bit!
If not, it will drive him crazy having e-mails coming in to him from himself! Use the computers at your school's library.
2007-02-20 06:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with rainbow wig, your case administrator sounds like a real gem!
2007-02-19 09:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by kmv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your administrator has WAY too much time on his hands to worry about something so trivial....
2007-02-19 10:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋