ok, so I'm kind of in love with my best friend. And where both female. And she's a muslim and her parents are pretty strict. And she's always given everyone a show of being a huge homophobic. We have been kind of on and off for a few years, and by that I mean that sometimes we've been all cuddly and held each other and told each other that we loved one another (but always as 'friends' even though I don't think it's normal for friends to act that way hm..,) and other times we've been very distant. A few days ago it was my 20 birthday, me and my friends got really drunk. We ended up playing truth or dare and me and my friend kissed, tongues and all. twice. Pathetic as I know it must sound it was my first kiss, and she knew it. She often joke about us being in love and stuff, so much so that I think the 'joke-factor' is just a facade and that she mean what she says. But three seconds later she can be all: "I want a boyfriend" or "That guys gorgeous" and it makes me so confused. Help me?
2007-02-19 07:22:55 · 5 answers · asked by loveless_sselevol 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she really does like you but she is embarrassed about being bi or lesbian. Actions speak louder than words. If she is being touchy feely and kissing you, it seems to me that she is MORE than a friend.
She's probably scared of the consequences of being bi or lesbian... so she says things like, "that guys is hot" so people won't suspect and treat her differently.
20 can be a very confusing time. Ask her how she really feels next time she's drunk. She is probably less scared and more likely to tell the truth.
2007-02-19 07:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though she is as confused as you are. Even though she might have feelings for you, her family and religion must prevent her from ever following up on these feelings. I know it can seem strange that someone would place things such as these above phsical or emotional attraction, but it happens everyday. I wouldn't think about it too much. If she is willing to go further, she will let you know or even make a move. However, until she does so, don't push it. You'll risk losing your best friend.
2007-02-19 07:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be her that needs the help, not that there is something wrong with her, but she may be fighting having more feelings for you. Sexuality is very confusing for some people. They feel that it is "right" to be like their parents, or do what their parents "expect", but at the same time they really are interested in other ideas. BUT, before you tell her anymore about your feelings for her, bring up the subject of you having feelings for another female, if she is truly your friend then she will accept it and not show you any signs, but if she is as interested in you then she will open up about herself.
2007-02-19 07:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just wants to be friends. If she wanted you to make a move she would have used more obvious body language, and not accentuate friendship. She's not interested. Sorry. I would just move on.
2016-03-29 03:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is just playing . Better ask her about it ,let her know how you feel .
2007-02-19 07:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋