my boyfriend wants a 3some and i have no issue with complying but the problem is we cant find anotha grl. i cant ask ne of my friends (there all very conservative) n my guy dosent know anyone. is there a safe way of finding a third party?
2007-02-19 07:17:11 · 26 answers · asked by pixiexxpixiexpixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try some adult joining sites like
adultfriendfinder.co.uk
or
alt.com
gd luck!
2007-02-19 07:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by British & Proud Of It 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come up with some "rules" of what you and him are open to doing/not doing with this third party. Never a mutual friend. The last thing you want is jealousy either way. Then call some escort numbers and go for it. Be very strict on what you want - if they send someone who you aren't attracted to don't do it! Highly recommend a hotel room for this. Protection is key, your life depends on it - again discuss what you are into/not into doing. If all systems are a go - have fun! My experience is that 9 out of 10 times the person will NOT go through with this when the realities are put in front of them...
2007-02-19 15:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by horizonguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from experiance you meet a girl neither of you know. Going to gay bars is fun and you can often meet bi or gay girls. I've been to a few swingers clubs, but they are a little more than just 3somes. Personal ads or swinging websites might be better. Go and have good, safe fun. MAke sure you and your boyfriend have a deep understanding of each other. Enjoy!
2007-02-19 15:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a threesome is not going to make your relationship better, if thats what your thinking. I know people who have done it and regretted every moment. You better be very sure you want to invite another woman into the bedroom. Or is it a man? What would he say if you wanted another guy? Ask some questions of your man before you start asking girls to join in. You are about to do something BIG it's not a small deal. Be careful!!!!!
2007-02-19 15:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. My wife and I found someone online. She was bi courious and wanted to try another woman. It was a fantasy of hers. She got to know the girl online and then they met several times and hung out and then set up the 3some. She was so cool that she became a regular partner from time to time. Now she isnt only a partner but a good friend.
2007-02-19 15:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound tempting if you've never done it before, but from experience i'd have to advise you NOT to go there!
one or both of you will be left wondering does the other fancy the third party more? new insecurities and paranoia do no relationship any good at all! if i were you i'd find other ways of spicing up your love and sex life, it ends in tears and once you've tried it once, what else will you need to keep trying to get your sex 'fix'? it will spiral out of control and go pear-shaped as they say.
if he wants another girl in your bed, is he as comfortable with the idea of another man in your bed? would he like a threesome with another man if you asked him?? or how about swinging?
ask him these questions, see what his response is. if he balks and refuses to entertain the idea, why the hell should you entertain his suggestion then?! ask yourself are you really happy to go ahead with his idea? if so, why haven't you mentioned it to him?
i'd be very careful about this one. unless you are both extremely secure in yourselves and each other, with no baggage or issues, it MIGHT work.
otherwise ditch the idea...if he sulks or has a tantrum, ditch him too!
good luck with whatever you decide, but dont rush into anything like this.
2007-02-19 16:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT invite a friend or good acquaintance to be your 3rd party. Too much chance of issues there.
You can find potentials at bars, on websites, swingers nightclubs or groups, etc. Make sure you all use protection. Enjoy!
2007-02-19 15:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the white pages of the local phone book.
Randomly pick a number and call. Ask. Sooner or later you'll find someone interested in your little tryst.
Good luck.
2007-02-19 15:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Fred F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant find anybody out there, why don you advertise it here on Q&A , im sure you will get a nice lookin female taker here, best of luck, ive all ready had my 3some, what a rush, il never 4get that night 4 a long time
2007-02-19 15:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A threesome is a recipe for disaster & opens up a whole world of trouble.neither you nor your bf will ever look at your relationship in the same way after.me. i'd never share my gorgeous gf with anyone.
2007-02-19 22:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other then looking in porn mags at the classified section, I would also agree that maybe looking in your local paper at the Personals section.
Keep safe and Best of luck
2007-02-19 15:21:46 · answer #11 · answered by kylie_rm13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋