ok. what could i have done to offend God so much? my life is cursed. serious ans please?

Question

I have had so much pain in my life. Hurt, physical pain, poverty, homelessness, grief, losses, disappointments, bad marriage. I will spare you the details. Suffice it to say that I have had 3 or 4 real life Job experiences over the last 2o years. Really. Losing many things that I thought were important. And that does not even begin to discuss the pain of childhood. OK, so if God gives blessings and curses, am I so bad of a person that I keep going thru this?

I have an active prayer life. Cant find a home church since relocating. The trials have sometime caused me to doubt Him but I always end up with my faith. I used to believe that He tested me to make me more able to help in the Kingdom. I have 1st hand knowledge of many hurts. I feel called to help. My compassion is sometime overwhelming I cry for those in need. But I cant find an outlet because my life is always in turmoil. He has blessed me with children and many gifts to could help the Kingdom. Why am I cursed

Sorry the post is long. For all you say, get off your butt. I say I have been the backbone of my family. I work thru transgressions, am a professional, i am the load bearer. I always get up and do whats needed. and i always praise God because in the dark holes i know it is by His grace I have emerged. Everyone has trials. A church sisters of mine once lost ehr 5 children and parents in a fire on Christmas. I cry for those that are worse. But let me tell you my trials have been BAD. They say to whom much is given much is expected. So what do I do to be in His grace and get healing from years of hurt so I can give to the Kingdom. This isnt a joke to me

Answer 1

Matthew 14:22-34
No one enjoys suffering. But, in the hands of almighty God, trials become tools. He uses them to shape believers into the people He intends for us to be.

In our own strength, we lack the sufficient resources and abilities to meet life's challenges. So God provides just what we need. The most important thing He gives us is an awareness of His presence. At first, the disciples believed they were alone in a terrifying storm. When they initially spotted Jesus, their fear increased. They thought He was a ghost. But, as they recognized Him, their fright changed to relief and hope. During a crisis, we may not sense God's presence. But He has promised always to be with us. (Hebrews 13:5-6) The assurance that He will never leave provides immediate comfort, an infusion of courage, and a sense of confidence to endure.

Another promise God makes is that He'll provide a path through the trial. The disciples probably wondered how long the storm would last and whether they would make it safely to shore. Like us, they probably wanted it all to end "yesterday." But, had they somehow avoided this storm, they would have missed the demonstration of Jesus' power over the sea and wind. This frightening situation was transformed into a revelation of the Savior's divine nature. God wants to reveal His power through our trials, as well.

Ask God to reveal His abiding presence in the midst of your trouble. He’ll provide strength to endure and wisdom to navigate a way out of your troubles.

Answer 2

Many time the problems that come to us are of our own making, it is not God's doing. Being a Christian does not give us immunity from life. The bible tell us that it rains on the just and the unjust alike. Life has its ups and downs. As a Christian we love God and go on praising Him through it all. You are more blessed than you know. You have children who love you. You are well enough to be able to type this question and see the answer. To some extend our life is determined by our perception. Is the glass half full or half empty? God never curses us. Sometimes when we get closer to God, the forces of darkness come to visit to see if they can get us to turn from God. Stay strong in your faith, you will endure. Then each day start with a positive thought. "Today God is blessing me in many ways". or "Today I am happy". And hang onto that thought for the day. Have a new one the next day. The Silent Unity people are great. Here is a website for them: They are the postive thinking folks.
http://www.unityonline.org/pray_main.htm

Answer 3

You're not cursed. In a world where everyone has free will to save or curse themselves, bad things happen to good people all the time. I say, life is a sh!t storm. You may not be throwing it, but I guarantee you'll get some on you just because you're in it. And if you learn something from bad experiences, well, good for you. But God doesn't test you, honest. God has set us all in this world to make our own choices and live our own lives, and even though you may do the best you can, you can't avoid the fact that OTHER PEOPLE DO BAD THINGS. You WILL get hurt, and taken advantage of, and stomped on. That's NOT a judgment of you, you're NOT a bad person, and it's NOT a curse!

Now, as a person who has dealt with a lot of grief, shame, and depression, I know that pain can be overwhelming sometimes. But the answer is not giving up! You're alive for a purpose, and it's not to suffer. God didn't put you in the world so you'd be miserable. God is good, forgiving, loving...forget EVERY idea you have about God being vindictive or cruel!

God is the spark in you that keeps you going even though times are hard. God is the good you see in children, in animals, in plants and sunsets and cupcakes and...so many things. And the happier you are, the more you tend that spark, the more it will burn! You'll see the sparks in other people, and you'll be drawn to it. That fire will keep you warm in a cold, hard world.

Get some therapy. You have too much doubt, too much self-blame, too much guilt to deal with on your own. You need somebody non-judgmental who will help you grieve your pain and loss and also help you move on and be happy and successful.

You need a comforter. I know Jesus is supposed to be a comforter...and that's sometimes hard to fathom when you feel so down. Get a literal person, a human being, who will sit with you and listen and support you. Your problems are out of control right now, and you'll only make yourself miserable if you try to fix them yourself. Obviously, that hasn't worked in the past, so try something different.

You need help. Take it. There's no shame in getting what you need. When you feel better, things will make more sense, and then you can think about how to help yourself and others...but it's too much right now.

Answer 4

I am sorry for all the problems you have had in your life.
Having said that you need to look at your life starting today in a different light.
First of all do not blame God and think you have been cursed.
Honestly look back at each issue you have discussed here and ask yourself if you have been taking control of your own life. Have you always made good choices in your life and accepted the fact we are largely responsible for the paths we choose. Only you can answer some of your questions by searching your own soul for the answers. Good luck with taking charge of your future.

Answer 5

In my understanding of God, His love is very unconditional. Everyday we've done stupid things that could elicit a degree of pain in the creator but inspite of whatever negatives we throw at him and whether we ask for to be pardon or not, He is God who always forgives. So to speak right now, you'll never believe it but he has already forgiven you. So to ask me whether I believe he curses. No I don't. He himself thru Jesus forbids cursing.

If you believe in karma or golden rule, that would answer all the problems you are facing now. It is only by understanding karma you would be able to glide all this problem. We are in this physical world to learn as soul and become a living spirit. The best way to instill learning is to experience what we have throwing at our neighbors. Right now you might wonder why It's me when I am not as bad as my neighbor and yet I seemed to be single out of much sufferings. The rule of Karma has been applied to you. The only answer may have to do with previous life where you played the role of the one that has been making your life difficult rigtht now. To overcome your negative karma, you must be like God, always forgiving in the mist of strong adversary, whether they deserve to be it or not. You are in your most difficult trials. Transform it into a positive karma then you will be given an opportunity to transcend karma later in life. Have faith and believe in God and in your spirit. Take a hints from Jesus teachings and thoughts. Expect to become a better man after this trials with all humility.

Peace and be blessed.

Answer 6

You are not cursed you are being attacked by satan.The same thing happened to me before I recieved the Holy Spirit.He knows once that happens he cannot do anything to hurt you.So before it does he will do everything he can to turn you away from God so you will not be saved by him.Some people he distracts with wealth or fame or both so they don't feel they need God at all because they already have everything they need.Some people such as you he will give trials and hardships to so you think God doesn't love you and you turn away from him.He'l even take away what it is you love the most so you blame God for it and hate him.Before being saved we belong to this world which in turn belongs to satan and God is not yet in us so therefore we don't have him to protect us.But upon being saved God lives in us through the Holy Spirit and earth is no longer our home but Heaven is.So you must be close to recieving Gods Holy Spirit or satan wouldn't be trying so hard to turn you away from him.Pray,find a church and ask them to pray for you,become baptized and tell God you can't do it anymore on your own you need him to live for you and hate sin(not the person who does it)and turn away from it and tell God you want to live according to his will and not yours.Be sincere and he will move into you and save you and your whole life will change for the better.He loves you very much and would never do anything to hurt you.By turning away from sin we cease hurting ourselves and others.That is what he wants for us,to stop hurting ourselves and start living the life he wants so much for us to have.I hope all goes well for you,I will pray for you,for your protection while you find your way home.

Answer 7

You say you have an active prayer life, so on this basis--can we assume you profess to know God? According to Ephesians chapter 1, those who believe are adopted into God's family, and once you are in His family He cannot abandon you--He does not curse His own! You are misunderstanding Old Testament theology and applying it to New Testament times. God has always said that all He wants is our heart, love Him with all your heart, seek for Him with all your heart, obey Him out of love. He has always given the message "Return to Me" with open arms. To quote C.S. Lewis--God sometimes whispers to us, but often He shouts through His megaphone of pain to rouse a dying world. Israel turned away from God when the going got tough, or when they were being chastened. Let this pain turn you toward the God who can be trusted--the Shephard and Guardian of your soul.
And no, you cannot be so bad of a person that you keep going thru this. That is a point of view with yourself at the center. Keep Christ at the center. There is not always a "why" that we will understand the answer to. But His mercy gives us that which we do not deserve, and withholds that which we do deserve. Your heartache could be self inflicted, but is not the curse of God.

Answer 8

Sounds like you need a friend or two. The best way to deal with pain is to do your best to keep the faith and just be determined to change your life. Some of us go through bad times not even realizing that we are asking for bad things to happen by the choices that we make. They say that God helps those who help themselves. Be strong and determined to overcome this!

Answer 9

God's need for testing has ended with the writing of the Bible. Satan has been kicked out of Heaven (see Revelation) with his demons and they are stuck on the earth. This is why the sudden increase over the last century of pain, death and suffering. Don't feel its God doing this too you, its not.

The Bible says that "time and unforseen occurrences befall us all." Basically, what this means is that "sh1t happens" to put it bluntly. Nasty things. I was molested by my father, emotionally blackmailed by him (he threatened to tell my mother) hey, I was 5 and I loved my mother, I DIDN'T KNOW HE WOULDN'T TELL HER! My grandmother (his mother) would beat me with anything she could get her hands on, the end of garden hoses, you name it, any time and any chance she got. It went on like this for a number of years. But it wasn't God doing this, was it? It was just evil, pure and simple.

No, God has set a day in the future for all these things to end, all we have to do is try to hang on until we either 1) die faithful or 2) survive until that day, whichever comes first. This isn't God's desire for us to suffer, he suffer's with us to see his children harmed so and it builds his ANGER toward Satan, the ruler of this world, it builds his desire to end the unfair rulership of man that allows such things to go on. Keep your head up and continue your fight, just realize that sooner or later, if you don't live to see that great day, you will be resurrected to "paradise" as Christ promised the Thief at his side! And what a GIFT that will be.

Answer 10

From what I have always been told, God will only give you what you can handle. You understand this concept, now you need to live it. Material things are just that- material. You can't take this stuff with you. Try to look at the positive things that you have been blessed with and go from there. Take baby steps, but don't give up.