My boyfriend and I hardly ever had sex when we started going out because we were taking it slow then it gradually became more and more often and now I feel like we do it so much it interferes with our social lives and basically our entire relationship because we have been fighting lately more often about stupid little things that don't even matter. I told him I thought either not having sex for a while might make it better and he said okay. (he's not the type of person to get mad at me if we don't have sex) Anyways, I just think it might make our relationship better because we can focus more on eachother and be perhaps become more sensual. Am I wrong? Have you tried this? Did it work? Let me know. I don't want to do something to completely ruin our sex life but I would like to have the kindness and sensuality back. Will this make it worse or better, do you think?
2007-02-19 07:12:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW, you sound really mature about this!! For some reason, I am assuming that you are in high school. But anyways, I think that is a great idea. Too much sex can ruin a relationship, esp. if once the act is over...all you have left is fussing and fighting...... But I think that you trying to restart the kindness and sensuality is awesome. Not many people think of that. They will just result to cheating or whatever. I dont believe that you are wrong at all....actually very mature of you. And it will owrk, depending on the people involved. As long as you guys have a open and honest communication system in place, you guys should be fine....... Good Luck!
2007-02-19 07:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of sex can be good but if you're fighting may mean you relationship has deeper problems. Perhaps a long talk about your problems may help you guys out. The best relationship are the ones people communicate with a each other all the time time. Communication is the key to success in any relationship. People aren't mind readers so that's how we know what each other is feeling or thinking!
2007-02-19 07:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Vesdog! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it has become a sexual realtionship and that only. Unfortunately, I think once the focus has stuck on the sex, it will not get better. Just another relationship unfolding after meaningless sex. If you are taking things slow, sex should be the last thing added to an already meaningful relationship.
2007-02-19 07:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are taking about possibly having sex with someone who is already a good friend of yours than I would have to say, yes it could quite possibly ruin your relationship with that person. Because it could in fact make things weird for you guys afterward, especially if the sex was only so so. However if you are speaking about having sex with someone you are seriously in love with, then I would have to say, No. It could in fact enhance the relationship. I have been in my current relationship for 5 years, and I truly believe the love we share both physically and emotionally enhance our life together. Just make your moves slowly and really consider what you are doing and how it may effect you both.
2016-05-24 11:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you have is sex, than you don't really have that much. Don't get me wrong, sex is a very important part of a relationship. But there is also much more you need. You need to have friends together, and your own friends. You need to spend time with your friends and keep your individual self that your guy fell in love with. Spending time with your guy is important-go to dinner, see a movie, take a walk, spend some time talking-don't let sex rule your life. Make it a part of your life and let it strengthen the bond that you have built through communication and shared activities.
2007-02-19 07:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a little time off from sex might be a good idea. If a relationship becomes completely focused on sex, it can slide in other areas. So you're idea sounds like a good one, take some time off from sex to focus and repair other aspects of your relationship.
2007-02-19 07:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by blue_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big emotional roulette to play. I think it definitely affects a relationship and depending on your values it can really damage a relationship. I think it can also turn more into a physical relationship where other things loose focus. I hope your idea helps the situation. Good luck!
2007-02-19 07:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by DebChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, too much of anything is bad, including sex. Both of you must want it and it is obvious that you've had too much. He needs to respect that and understand that he's not always "on top" when it comes to engaging in sex. But, you also have a responsiblity to initiate sex when you are in the mood. It is all part of the process.
2007-02-19 07:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all a couple does is have sex then they don't really have a relationship, and after a while one will be wanting more and that could end it.
2007-02-19 07:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope it does work for you. right now my boyfriend and i have sex about once every 2 weeks, if that, cause our work schedules are so hectic. be lucky you have sex all the time, honestly i don't think it ruins relationships i think it helps. good luck
2007-02-19 07:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by deeshair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋