How do you break up with someone in a "Christian" way.?

Question

My x gf makes herself out to be a good christian, church on sunday and talks the talk, but cheated on me and lied to me almost every day we were togather. The guy she cheated on me and ended up going with goes to a Christian college and wants to be a pastor. If this is Christianity then I want no part of it. What am I missing? Is this what Christ tought?

Answer 1

I'm very sorry for your pain but remember that not everyone who calls themselves a Christian actually is *or should be considered an example of what true Christianity is*. It's another example of a bad apple ruining it for the rest. I assure you, not all Christians are hypocrites as some jaded inviduals would have you believe; there are many fellow Christians I know who genuinely live their faith despite their daily struggles with sin. If you want the best example look to the source, Jesus Christ. As fallen individuals people *will* fail you (some more than others) but He never will. Don't take their failures as an example of Him.

It sounds to me that your girlfriend is someone who calls herself a Christian but doesn't live it. She talks the talk but does not walk the walk. Please don't generalize and assume all Christians behave this way. I don't know if you confronted her but I think that that would have been the best course of action once you knew she was lying to you.

Again I'm sorry for any pain she caused you but please don't take *her actions* to be representative of why Jesus came to earth. I encourage you to separate what she did with what Christ did and to not let it embitter your heart. I wish you the best :).

Answer 2

No, but it is the world of Christianity today. People just run around calling themselves Christians, but they don't actually beleive or follow any of the rules and guidelines of the religion itself. Not all christains are bad, but a real christain can be spotted through their actions, not their words. These people might call themselves christian, but if the behavior you are reporting is true, thay are far from being good christians, and the man shoulld never be a pastor anywhere. What good is a pastor that you can't trust?
It sounds like you got stuck with a group of bad people. They come in all shapes and sizes, not just the christian variety.

Answer 3

Well first off she is just human like anyone else. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes it makes us feel better to get it out but don't dwell on it. Move on and learn from it. The right thing to do about it is pray about the situtation. Let God handle it. Tell her your sorry but you are looking for someone who can commit to you and you alone. Tell her your idea of a girlfriend is one who see's or dates only you and not others. No need to be mean. Just simple and to the point. Honest is still the best answer. Move on with your life, God has someone special for you and seems this lady is not the one for you.

Answer 4

Jesus Christ is reported to have said: "Those who are not with me are against me". Even if you may not be so much for Christ, you may take His declaration as an example for you, as your own motto.

That Christian guy is NOT all the Christians, but all too many Christians are bluntly unfair and even murderous towards each other and others, because they essentially are vicious beasts, still with a jungle-mentality, making Christianity a superstition or just a system of body and soul bridling dogmatic paradigms contrived by holy monsters who crave preminence and power for themselves in a community of obedient populace.

So, you might decide to get drastic and so leave that unpleasant religious context by even shaking off your own sandals the dust from that path. You will only miss what you have loved if you really think that it is a pity for you to have been cheated.

Your present life lasts only once so you may not wish to live it on in that context. So you may seek your own freedom, and so, when outside of that religious context you may spiritually fly higher on your own hard life-struggle for survival, proudly on your own pilgrim's path to perfection, ever more concentrating on your own virtuosity and virtuality, on ever daring exciting adventures for the rest of your life. You may even find new friends whose warm sincerity will not be a fake staging and, who knows?, you will find a new girl friend who will only want to be fiercily glowingly yours. Good luck!

Answer 5

No it is not. Say to her that you think that it would be better if you broke off the relationship because you can no longer trust her and you think you need to be honest with her because you would like to start seeing other girls. There is not a good way to break up with someone so take the direct and honest route and also this does not permit her to continue cheating on you while you just sit there waiting for her.

Answer 6

Sounds like you've already broken up. She is not the one for you. Good thing you found out now before a definite commitment like marriage.
As far as Christianity, you will find many people like that in the churches. That does not negate what Christ taught. You will have to live your life and let God deal with hypocrites.
God bless you. One day you may thank God for not getting more involved with this woman.

p.s. This is not the time to throw God away. It's time to draw closer to Him.

Answer 7

Look, you need to look at this thing with common sense: Your x is a person who likes to play church. She also has a problem keeping her drawers up; She is simply not an honest person, nor would she make a good mate;
Count your blessings - what if you married her, and then found this out when your first child is born? How horrible would it be to have to do dna to find out if your child is really yours??
Your faith in God should have doubled by now, dude.Don't blame God - He's the one who brought this to your attention - because obviously God looks to you as one of His people; don't disappoint Him, okay?

Answer 8

If she's going with someone else, then I would think you are already broken up. Christ ( assuming there was one for sake of argument) didn't teach her to sin, as he recognized that all people sin. He was teaching what to try not to do, and that those who did it anyway could be, and needed to be, forgiven.

But Christianity today is not about obeying these teachings, as it has become clear they are impossible to follow. It's about giving lip-service to them and then inevitably sinning and asking to be forgiven so as to avoid damnation.

If that sounds ridiculous, it's because it is. You can go on trying to be a follower of Christ's philosophy, but you must accept that you will be somewhat alone in that process.

Answer 9

You can't make other people be what they should be, or what you want them to be, but you do have the right to stand up for yourself and the power and responsibility to live your life according to the ideals you believe in. Tell her, "You talk the talk, but I want someone who also walks the walk, someone who will be as true to me as I am to her." Shake the dust from off your shoes, turn your back, and don't look back. You're much better off without her. Believe me, there are lots of women out there who are looking for a man who values personal honor and commitment.

Answer 10

It doesn't matter "what Christ taught."

Many Christians find a way to excuse or rationalize a way to do whatever they want to do.

It's an inherent part of any structure that claims to be the "only true" path - you're always gonig to have people who pay lip service to keep up appearances. Look at any politician that claims to be Christian.