Me and my boyfriend have been "dating" for 4 months and have been boyfriend/girlfriend for a month. we see each other every day at school and about every other day after school. weve taken it slow for 4 months and finally decided to make it official. the only difference is he comes over more and we kiss. thats IT...do you think my dad is worried that im going to do something ill regret? ive commited my LIFE to being a virgin and not letting a guy touch me innappropriately, and me and my boyfriend have SET those boundaries and we both respect them. i think he is worried that i wont hang out with my friends as much. i am going to make sure that i have a girls night out every week now that he pointed it out to me. but how do i tell him that i can have time for my boyfriend AND my friends? i really like this guy and i feel he is an awesome person for me. i told him what my dad said and he FREAKED....
what do i do?!
2007-02-19 07:07:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 16 and he is 17 by the way.
2007-02-19 14:13:38 · update #1
It sounds like you and your dad are pretty cool. Always listen to him, he's been around the block a lot more than you and your boyfriend and knows what he's talking about. Your precious gift of virginity is something worth keeping.
Keep your dad up to date on your relationship with your boyfriend and make sure you two are never alone.
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2007-02-19 07:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all good for you on perserving your virginity.
Now 2 things 1) if your boy friend really respects your boundries then he should really understand and respect your father's feelings.
2)Show your father that nothing is going on by making sure he can't question your actions what so ever. This means if your parents aren't home then your boyfriend doesn't come over and don't you visit him when his parent aren't home. This is also a wise move in the interest of protecting your boundries.
Always have someone around who can vouch for your behavior with your boyfriend. Your Dad is trying to help you with your commitment to preserving your virginity so ask for his guidance and ask him what makes him think you and your boyfriend and too serious.
If your boyfriend can't respect your new boundries (based on the talk with your dad) then maybe you should rethink his boyfriend status.
2007-02-19 07:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've got some good boundaries set in your relationship already. Show your dad that you can be responsible by spending some time with your family as well as your girlfriends, and make sure to bring your boyfriend around the house more so your family can get to know and like him as much as you do.
Talk to your dad about his concerns and tell him what you'll be doing to make sure ALL of your relationships (family, friends, boyfriend) are balanced. Hopefully, he'll be able to relax and trust you.
2007-02-19 07:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First! I'm a Father of a Little Girl Who's turning 30, in July. But she's still my Little Girl. You're gonna need Your Father, as much as My Angel, needs me. You need to see that his advice, is based on his Years of experience with this sort of thing. Give your Daddy some respect. Which is, your own way of showing him Love. You'll be much better off, if you do. You have been warned!
2007-02-19 07:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what dad's who care do! He's looking out for your well being. He's probably more concerned about your boyfriend over stepping his boundaries(he was a teenager too) than you.. I'm sure he trusts your judgement,but as far as feelings go.. sometimes. people forget and get caught up in the moment and regret later.. Trust your dad..
2007-02-19 07:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think really, deep down, he's more worried about the fact that you are growing up. You've been his baby girl for so long, and he may be seeing you growing up and moving off. Your first "steady boyfriend" is a signal that it's happening sooner than he would like. I think that's what scares him more than anything. He probably needs some assurances that you're still "daddy's girl".
2007-02-19 07:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to go with our plan of having a girl's nite out and hang with your friends and do all of the girly things and still be able to see your boyfriend
2007-02-19 09:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing, let it pan out, its no big deal. You shouldnt get to serious anyway, these little puppy love highschool relationships rarely last long. 4 months is nothing, 2 years is nothing. And after 5 years you might be able to tell if your truely in love.
2007-02-19 07:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your dad when ever your going to hang out with friends, have your gf's over for a sleep over and let him see that you have priorities in your friends and not just your boyfriend. tell you dad that your a smart and head strong girl and that you can look out for yourself tell him you understand thet hes just looking out for you but you need some independence. goodluck
2007-02-19 07:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your boyfriend doen't like the rules of the game, and may want to bug out. If this is the case, he is NOT the right one for you.
2007-02-19 07:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋