What is a good book to read abt God and emotional pain when you are absolutely devastated, your life destroyed

Question

Other than When Bad Things Happen to Good People

I hope others don't take an opportunity to mock me or God in regards to annswering this question as they do in other forums and give me a break.

Thank you.

The issue is not abandonment so much as dealing with the death of my only child.

Answer 1

I highly recommend C.S. Lewis' The Problem of Pain. He wrote it following the death of his wife and used the writing to work through the theological problem of evil.

Answer 2

Well, I'm sorry about whatever has happened. But if you follow God, your life will never be destroyed. Many things in your life may be, but it will hurt for a while, but if you continue in him it will do nothing but flourish again and grow in a new way.

I take it there are things in your past life that your walk with God actually needed to do without. Don't worry you will be restored, just as Jesus was raised after death. Like the spring shows "new" life after a cold and bitter winter.

If it involved any type of abuse by another person, try Bold Love, by Allender and Longman.

There is also Praying For Guidance by Ron Kincaid

Read the psalms, and about Joseph in the book of Genesis. They lost everything they knew - family, social status, possessions, etc. But it was all so they could go through a "dessert period" and then God would restore them in a higher place than before.

Servants of God go through it, don't give up. It may be that God highly favors you, and you are walking in the footsteps of these famous people of God.

Answer 3

Well I guess if you really look at everything that has ever existed to this minute, in the mind especially, is gone. Now how you look at that gone is a choice. you can call it devastation or you can call it simply gone. No matter what you choose to call it the result is the same, it no longer exist. I am not talking about material things, I am talking about life styles, mindsets, etc. The perspective that you have had up to this moment. If the results have been devastation in your perspective then you have a couple of choices, one would be to use the lessons of how you have looked at things in the past as a format to change the future. You cannot expect anything in your future to change if you do not change something. The second would be to forget it completely because it is gone. All of the ranting and raving in the Universe is not going to give you the opportunity to do it over. You have to start now by getting a healthier point of view. In reality it takes God to change things and give you a new mind, that is avalible to do anytime you want. You have to do it with truth/Gods word. You cannot hang on to even the good parts, you have to surrender it all and begin new every moment. It is the point of creation where we are all suppose to be operating from. We are not suppose to be dictated to by our emotions or anything from the past. To carry it beyond the moment, will only keep you from giving 100% where you are at. In reality God is trying to give you fresh beginnings every day and it is the collection of baggage that keeps us from renewing. Many people refuse to let go of the past because they are afraid of stepping into the unkown. God is like your own father only He knows the furture. He will not give you anything other then Good. If your focus is where it should be then it is easier and easier as you learn, to keep the negative aspect of the past from dictation your future.
Peace.

Answer 4

I have experienced this pain recently with a couple of friends who have lost their child. An only child or one of several hurts. You can only overcome your loss by acknowledging the truths about your childs life and yours. GOD loves you. There is peace and comfort in HIS word. The Prayer of Jabez is an excellent book thar applies to lifes purpose more than wealth. It renews hope and exalts faith. Remember that you should endure those things that have already happened and press toward the mark of the high calling. You should also be reciting over and over in your head The Serenity Prayer and Psalms 23. Be strong because you are blessed and you are blessed to be a blessing. Someone needs you to pray without ceasing and be strong. It aint easy. Thats why you are chosen. Feel free to email me.

Answer 5

Well first off you have to realize this can lead into depression if you are not careful. You need to first forgive yourself and see yourself in a positive manner. Don't dwell on it or it will suck you in, keeping you feeling a sense of uselessness. Read A Purpose Driven Life and think positive. People who make fun of you lack compassion. Just think how much you can help others when you get back on the right track.

Answer 6

I have to recommend the Bible. Every book in it deals with emotional pain, but the heroes in each story looked outside of themselves and prevailed. Daniel in the Lion's Den, David (annointed King by Samuel, but pursued by Saul while living in caves), Joseph sold into slavery by his brothers rises to be Minister of Egypt (second in command only to Pharaoh), Christ, Paul, Joshua, Moses, Elijah, etc. All these rose like a Phoenix from the ashes and became conquerors once again through their faith in God.

Answer 7

I feel your pain. My girlfriend passed away in November and I still find it difficult to continue on in this life... What has helped me is reading Near Death Experience stories(NDE stories). Google it. There is also "Chicken Soup for the Greiving Soul" which I recommend. It is hard to say being that I don't know your circumstances. If someone close to you dies... research what I said. The stories are fascinating to say the least- and are full of hope. There is also the Bible. Research your reason for grief on Google and then go from there. Just remember- the life we live today is a gift- that's why they call it the present! (Thanx Hedy!)

Answer 8

Oh, Bebe, I am so very, very sorry you lost your little one. May our merciful Father uphold you in His mighty hand and give you comfort and peace.
I recommend the Book of Job in the Bible, also "The Problem of Pain," by C. S. Lewis, "When Life Is Changed Forever," by Rick Taylor, and "Confessions of a Grieving Christian," by Zig Ziglar. Those last two books were written after their authors had each lost a child themselves.
Most of all, I urge you to keep on praying. Mourn before Jesus--He understands grief! Pour out all your sorrow, anguish, and bewilderment to the Lord and ask Him to soothe your heart and spirit. Remember, in Matthew 5:4, He promised to bless and comfort those who mourn. Remember, too, that you have lots of brothers and sisters in Christ who will be praying right along with you. You are welcome to e-mail me if you want. God bless you, my friend.

Answer 9

Battlefield of the mind by Joyce Meyer
In the Grip of Grace
in the eye of the storm
He still mooves stones ...all by Max Lucado

Also some scriptures that help me in hard times
Psalms 23 and 40
Phillipians 4
Ephesians 6 about the armor of God
Romans 5
job of course

Remember stand strong on the Promises of the Lord. He Never EVER gives more than we can bare. Sometimes its easy to say OHH LORD i wish you didn't trust me so much!! But he Does trust us because as long as we abide with him it is he who carries our burden... May God hold you in the palm of his hand..

Answer 10

I would suggest Psalms for encouragement and the Book of Job ( he was tested beyond what most of us have faced or will ever face today and he was restored) I also take the time to offer you words of encouragement that things will get better, keeping praying ( it is a matter of our surival). Hold on to God. He is the answer to every situation. God Bless.